|Name: Richard | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 12:02 AM
|hi my name is richard, i have AS and i am 14 i have problems with school and i occasionally stair into space. i hope somebody wants to talk with me |
|Name: Lorna Wynn | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 9:01 PM
|Hi I am Lorna and I have aspergers. Ive been throught the have no friends thing and social isseus too. maybe we can talk more. Im an adult though i dotn have any kids. Hope i can help. ↑|
|Name: Richard | Date: Feb 21st, 2008 2:37 PM
|i would like to know any kids with aspergers i am a 14 year old boy and i would like to know people who are like me. So somebody any body come ANYBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please. ↑|
|Name: richard | Date: Feb 21st, 2008 2:44 PM
|hello cralol my name is richard and i am 13 me and ms patsy worked on stuff ↑|
|Name: Patsy | Date: Feb 21st, 2008 2:50 PM
|Tanya, I am a care provider for a mental health facilicity and work with clients with AS. I have one boy that wants to chat with other teens that have AS. Do you have any that would like to respond? If chatting isn't possible, how about pen pals through you and I to monitor the situation. Thanks ↑|
|Name: barbara | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 8:27 PM
|hi, I am a mother of a 15yr old aspergers boy who has become so aware of his disability. He is getting lonely, not many friends and lives on the computer and listens to music. I thought about finding a aspergers chat room so he could find other who share his interest. you know how bright they are and sometimes i think there isn't anything wrong with him, its just everybody else that just don't get it LOL ↑|
|Name: ttownwoman | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 1:54 AM
|Name: barbieann12345 | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 7:52 PM
|Hi, I have a Grandson who has adhd and autism (not real bad), but, he has trouble making friends, especially when they realize he has these two things. He is a Christian, and I believe this gets him through it. He also has some Christian friends, but just pray that you will find what you are looking for. Bless You ↑|
|Name: Leigh Ann | Date: Mar 6th, 2008 4:59 AM
|Yes, me too. I have taken my child to a behavior therapist and we ar e starting this week on finding out the best way to handle things, I am having alot of problems with friends being mean one day and being nice the next, shes 12 so that normal yaya stuff has started with all of the girls at school. The therapist did say not to use negative words like punishment instead use conscequences for describing what happens after they are doing things wrong. Also he has said to inforce the good behavior and not make a big deal with the bad behavior. ↑|
|Name: Leigh Ann | Date: Mar 6th, 2008 5:03 AM
|Yes, mine is lonely too and spends too much time on the computer, she has a myspace and pretends to be a cartoon character instead of herself, she says shes too ugly to be herself, it breaks my heart and i tell her shes not, she says well all the the girls says i am. I can't get it into head that this is normal for being a teenager, girls are terrible these days to each other but she can't seem to handle it. ↑|
|Name: lisa w | Date: Mar 6th, 2008 12:58 PM
|i have 3 children my youngest who is 5 has autism and my middle child he is 8 he is being tested for adhd ↑|
|Name: naomi holden | Date: Mar 8th, 2008 2:24 PM
|Hi my son is nine years old and I think he may have aspergers syndrome...we have been to see a child pyscologist because I thought he was autistic has he was quite severe with his behaviours when he was younger...he now seems to show minor behaviours but which are still there I just think that he may have learnt to deal with things a little better...I just dont know how to get him diagnosed...should the child pyscologist have suggested aspergers or are they not allowed to...do i need to go back to see her and suggest this is what i am feeling like now or his he too old now ↑|
|Name: Marilyn | Date: Mar 10th, 2008 6:50 PM
|I have a 25 year old daughter who is mildly intellectually handicapped as well as having aspergers. Aspergers was unheard of back in the 80's so we battled with a child who seemed to be more than just mildly handicapped. I home schooled her because she just could not fit in at school and was ignored by the other kids. My problems have not ended, she now is living at home again after a failed marriage. She has two small children which we are helping her raise. The youngest is 15 months and appears to have some sort of problem which we will find out about when he is old enough to be assesed. Through the years it has always been a battle to deal with my daughter's moods. She does not cry a lot and bottles things up but rises to anger very easily. She is a very attractive girl so has been the victim to preditors in the male species, the worst being an abusive husband. I wonder where it will all end. I would like to talk to other parents of adult aspergers victims who also have low IQ's. That has been our biggest hurdle, that she suffers from two handicaps. ↑|
|Name: Jessica | Date: Mar 14th, 2008 3:34 PM
|I am a Music Therapy student at Florida State University. We have the newest research, which is always improving, in music therapy. |
First off, I want everyone here to be aware that Music Therapy can do wonders for those with autism or Asperger's. Please look into it, or contact me for more information.
Also, I am trying to find the parent of a child with a disability to interview for research. It will only take about 10-15 minutes, and I can do it online. Please find me on AIM, my screename is YJs littleDoll
or you can e-mail me at [email protected]
I have been posting everywhere and have not found any volunteers. Thanks ↑
|Name: melissa vitale | Date: Mar 18th, 2008 8:53 PM
|Hi, my son is my pride and joy, he is 8 years old and very funny. He is also demanding and does not have much patience. It hurts me that he has good friends in school, but not at home. We do alot with him and he hangs out with his 17 year old sisters friends. I would love to find a group, that would enable him to have outside friends. ↑|
|Name: Amy | Date: Mar 19th, 2008 4:10 PM
|I don't really beleive in Aspergers. I have about 45 cousins on both sides of the family. I grew up with one cousin who was mildly autistic, and it caused her all kinds of problems. She was only half way normal at home and had seizures and all that suff. But medications kept them under control so I never knew abou them. Anyway, my point being she went to school, passed and all that stuff, but never really had any friends except 2 nerdy girls she hung out with. She was strange, never spoke to me at school, even though she did so at home. I was popular. Anyway, I moved away, and went from being very popular, and even a lifeguard, and majorette, and about to try out for cheerleader, to not being accepted at my new shool. After a year or 2 of this, I could have been considered to be suffering from Asperger's, but really I was suffering from environmental and social isolation from being rejected at school because I had a southern accent, and was new as a teen, and no one excpets you at that point. I became depressed over it, and didn't much feel like interacting or even trying, what was the point?|
I then moved back home after turning 18 a year later. I regained friends and social relationships again. But never completely got over the effects of the social rejection I had experienced. It effected me, being so rejected, and not fully regaining my life before entering into adulthood. I had been interested in so many things as a child, and was even voted Valentine Queen of my 7th grade class, and almost voted homecoming queen of my 8th grade class.
So go figure. It's for these reasons that I think we, as a society are moving towards labeling people as a lazy crutch, so that we don't have to look deeper at what's really going on.
Our societly as a whole, is turning arrogant, and pompus, and it's now reflected in younger children, and as a result they are socially rejecting children with even the slightest difference in personality or intelligence. As a result of this environment, many of these kids are going to seem like they have Asperger's Syndrome when really they are just totally ignored and refjected by a growing "mean" and unaccepting population of an evolved society who DO NOT teach their children to be nice, or accepting of other who may not fall into a perceived "norm".
Just because I had a cousin with mild autism, I clearly did not have it. I have loads of cousins, so I would have had more with the disorder if it acutally ran in my family. It was clearly from my cousins other family. And....their are other forms of trauma which cause people to become socially isolated, like PTSD. I think this helps prove my point. After suffering severve truama, even the most normal person can no longer interact or "fit it" with people and society, do they now have "Asperger's", NO.
So if a person develops Asperger's type symptoms after being socially rejected by a "mean" and unaccepting populations of kids, what do they develop then? The inability to want to even try and interact. The inability to be able to ineract, or fit in. That's what. And the number of Asperger's will rise, as the number of parents teaching their kids it's ok to be unaccepting bullies rises also.
And to make a long story short, yes, their are people out here who have Asperger's, but they fall in the range of my cousin, who had severe impairment and even seizures, and the inability to interact from and early age, and not all these people who can speak publically, and basically function, because my cousin could not, and she would be a mild case. She wouldn't speak to other kids at all in Kindergarten. I would have to question anyone labeling a kid with Asperger's or mild Autism who develops language at an appropriate age and is able to try and start converstaions and try and interact with others, wheather it leads to succeful social interactions or not. ↑
|Name: Amy | Date: Mar 19th, 2008 4:31 PM
|I realize my above post has all kinds of typos and mispelled words but I do not have any way to go back and edit. I typed it really fast. So I'm not and idiot. I have a BA from the Ohio State University in Speech and Hearing and going for a masters. I'm somewhat of an older student and I've observed Therpapists working with autistic kids as a shchool requirement.|
So again, as my above theory points out, some of this is really "social rejection syndrome". Autism at any part of the spectrum is very sevever and should be considered as such.
Some of thse children who are gifted are being labled as Aspergers, and other articles say they share a lot of traits with Aspergers, and a clinician must be careful not to incorrectly mistake gifted behaviors with Aspergers. Again, gifted children are notorious for being socially rejected by their peers because they are smart. Therefore developing "social rejection" symptoms, and in my opinion, not Aspergers. I've seen articles claiming most engineers have Aspergers. Or, are they just really smart. And being rejected for their intelligence, they fall deeper and deeper into their own interests because of this rejection. Maybe they are not physically attractive, so they get further social rejection, and further give up trying to be so social and focus more on their own talents. Now there's a thought beyond labeling!
I'm am also considered gifted, and I have a highly gifted son. My cousin with mild autism, was never considered gifted, and struggled through school but passed.
He was the most popular kid in his class in Kindergarten. Unfotunately we lived in a rough school area and didn't know it. By first grade, he wasn't in class with any of the kids from Kindergarten, and loads of mean kids picked at him almost daily for his superior educational abilities. It was already education related. The principal told us, she thought it was because the other kids were jealous of his abilities. He was such a kid, and sweet and caring child. A child doesn't go from getting along, to this? We moved his school to a school with a high gifted population, but not far from his other shcool. He has done a lot better. But I still receive some reports from his teachers of problems. And ironically, his teachers NEVER tell me the full story when calling me with a problem. They like to focus on how my child is having trouble socially instead of painting the full picture.
Ironically, a child who's in speech therapy keeps picking on my child. He's told him things like "he's not important enough", and things like that. This kid is trying to socially hurt mine because he's jealous, and does not feel good about himself. And....when one kids picks at antother in front of everyone, it causes a domino effect. The other's start picking.
My child exhibits some of the characterisitcs of Aspergers, but remember, they say a lot of gifted children do and those are gifted traits. Maybe you can see my point in not liking the label. ↑
|Name: Chris | Date: Mar 27th, 2008 6:55 PM
|I am an adult with Asbergers, I've just found out, many aspects of my life make sense now. |
Melissa try and have your parents arrange playdates for your brother, in a more controlled environment it will be easier. That is what my parents did instinctively back then the diagnosis for asbergers didn't exist. ↑
|Name: JJ | Date: Mar 28th, 2008 10:06 AM
|i'm a young adult(17) turning 18 who has traces of aspergers, wanna chat ↑|
|Name: MICHELLE | Date: Mar 29th, 2008 4:20 PM
|I just found out yesterday, that my 7 year old has Aspergers. I know that is sounds silly, but i cried all the way home. I see this wonderful child "my baby" that is "stuck" inside his body. I am knew to all this, so if there is anyone out there with advice, please let me know. thanks ↑|
|Name: peggy | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 5:53 AM
|my son has some form of aspbergers syndrome, he always been socially distant, and all his teachers have noted this, however he is very, very intelligent,,,,,very co-ordinated physically and has developed a nice cadre of friends....when he was is grammar school we got him a dog...it was the great|
est thing we could have done for him....for some reason, it helped bring him out of his shell. i really recommend, if you have a socially distant child, that you get them a pet, theirs, you will amazed how such a common thing as getting a pet can produce such wonders with your special child!!!!!!! ↑
|Name: becky | Date: Apr 2nd, 2008 7:39 PM
|my son has not been diagnosed with aspergers, but im 90% sure he has it i get so frustrated because i just want to know what to do to help him but the doctors wont put him in for tests, they tell me he is to young he is now 6, every day is tough with my son although he has lots of friends and is very popular he does not act appropriately in there company, day to day things are hard especially if he is not intersested in anything else but bouncing off the walls and being a dinosaur. his school are very supportive but i am worried that they will eventually tell me there is no way of helping him, he has been statemented now ant that has helped him develop more with his school work but his concentration, anger and social skills are making much slower progress, i would really apriciate and oppinions and ask if anybody knows of any ways i can have the tests done as i have no idea how to deal with this, i just want to know how to help my little boy but i have no idea how? ↑|
|Name: beckalls | Date: Apr 5th, 2008 2:21 PM
|I've 2 replies - one for Amy and 1 for Michelle. firstly, and most importantly Michelle. you really need to hold on to the fact that your 7 year old little boy has in no way changed just by having a diagnosis. I've been there with that feeling - that he is now limited in each stage of his life, the worry of the future, employment, relationships/family - gran kids for you even. but you've not really learnt anything new about your son - he hasn't changed in any way from the boy you have grown and loved - he just has a diagnosis which makes some of the ways he behaves which are not considered the norm or things he has little difficulties with make sense to you and others involved with him. you don't detail the bits about him which lead to this diagnosis - for instance in my sons case he is a very socialble kid but doesnt understand social cues, body language etc. as he gets older, you'll see how helping him understand his differences can really help him and you with them. its so hard to see this at the age of 7 - my son wouldn't have got it them, but now he's nearly 11 its like a light bulb has gone on and its a journey we are making together. he has some advice too and its this " its not a disability, in a way its good because we can see the world in a different light, in some ways everyone has difficulties so don't feel like your all alone, you are important to your kid because they will always look up to you and trust you, having aspergers makes some things that people usually find hard like forgiving someone and not going back to it or holding it against them easy. we are able to learn as we get older about body language and stuff, and to see it from others point of view. we need the help of our parents to get through the early stages of life though, so learn about it with him and always be in his corner (I know what that means cos my mum explained its means always be there for him! - thats the kind of thing I mean - be there and learn/explain as you go!) good luck!". |
my second reply is to Amy - reading your first entry made me quite croww - reading your second made me realise you are having your own struggle with coming to terms with your own issues with your son so I forgive you. ↑
|Name: rochelle | Date: Apr 5th, 2008 8:05 PM
|hi im a 21 year old mum with aspergers syndrome i have a 2 year old and im 39 weeks pregnant and im happerly married when i was younger i was scared that i would never have a family of my own when i was a teenager i has doing drugs fighting all the time and i never spoke to my family now i couldnt be happyer i feel like i have achieved alot in life and would like to help children teenagers and parents to cope with this problem if you want some help or just a friendly chat my email is [email protected] thank u ↑|
|Name: rochelle | Date: Apr 5th, 2008 8:16 PM
|my reply is to becky it took my mum years to get me looked at if you think there is something wrong then u keep taken him to the doctors you know him best if you keep taking him to the doctors they will soon listen or when he is having one of his moments record him like on your phone make sure he doesnt see you could make him worse do it very sneakey and show it to the doctor then he will have to listen ↑|
|Name: kimberly | Date: Apr 7th, 2008 8:20 AM
|Aspergers is new to us. My 4 year old was recently diagnosed. Now that Ive accepted the news, Im trying to figure out ways to make our family more harmonious. He does not seem to respect me or try at all to join in with the family or do simple things that I ask him to do. I have 3 young children and I struggle all day long trying to just keep momentum. Does anyone have any schedules or ways to motivate a 4 year old. My other kids see him and they think they can get away with it too. |
|Name: melissa vitale | Date: Apr 9th, 2008 6:40 PM
|Hi, Michelle, where do you live? My son is 8 and has Aspergers , but he is smart and very funny and my pride and joy. Looking for other families in any of the five bouroughs to do weekend activities. ↑|
|Name: tarotlady | Date: Apr 17th, 2008 10:15 AM
|I'm also looking for other mum's who have got children with Aspergers Syndrome and A.D.H.D as I've got 2 children with problems but no one wants to belive me through the medical profission ↑|
|Name: nikki | Date: Apr 22nd, 2008 2:50 AM
|does your child have symptoms of 2year old behavior like getting into things. ↑|
|Name: Roxanne | Date: Apr 25th, 2008 6:50 PM
|My 11 yr old daughter does have an IEP and it still doesn't make much difference. The best advise i can give you is to get a case manager through an SED waiver(you should be able to get those services through your local county mental health angency)|
That way you have someone in your corner. I am working on that now with my daughter because her school is giving her detention for every tardy she had and it is making it harder to get her there. When it is anxiety that is causing it. ↑
|Name: NIKKI | Date: Apr 30th, 2008 9:44 PM