|Name: NIKKI | Date: Apr 30th, 2008 9:44 PM
|Name: Emma | Date: May 1st, 2008 7:27 AM
I have a 4 year old son with Asperger's and yes day to day life can be very difficult, My son has a lot of behavior problems as well as sensory integration problems, we see an O.T for the sensory side of things which helps a lot, we also use visual cards to show right from wrong, which also helps, I think if you look around for resources you will be surprised at what you can find to help you at home. Also try to tackle one problem area at a time or you will find that its all to much, baby steps for every one is best. another great thing for Aspergers kids, is if you know or they have a special interest rewarding them for good behavior with something they will really appreciate can go along way, also try explaining whats going to happen from day to day I use a board with pictures to show our daily job and activities, I hope this Helps. ↑
|Name: Pamela | Date: May 2nd, 2008 12:51 AM
|I am looking for the SAME THING! Write me at [email protected] ↑|
|Name: Pamela | Date: May 2nd, 2008 1:00 AM
|Boy, that was dumb leaving my e-mail address on this... I was too quick to jump at it... that is my ADD... haha. My 11-year-old daughter has Aspergers, just newly dxed last Friday. I am looking for a live Chat to talk with other mothers. I really don't like these bloggy things, I always manage to mess them up somehow, like leaving my e-mail! ANYONE KNOW OF A LIVE CHAT??? For mom's like me?? PLEASE! ↑|
|Name: Heather | Date: May 13th, 2008 4:08 AM
|I have a 7 year old son eith as[ergers, ADHD and anxiety disorder. We do pretty good with most things. Yet I've received 2 phine calls from the school in the last month for inappropriate touching. I have talked with him and he said that he knows its wrong, and he doesn't know why he does it. Wondering if anyone else has experience in this area. Any suggestions would be helpful, I feel lost, concerned, worried and confused right now. thanks ↑|
|Name: Heather | Date: May 13th, 2008 4:12 AM
|Forgot to leave email [email protected] Thanks again ↑|
|Name: Heather | Date: May 13th, 2008 4:13 AM
|Sorry about that I'm tired it [email protected] not yahoo ↑|
|Name: sue | Date: May 14th, 2008 3:42 AM
|Name: sue | Date: May 14th, 2008 3:43 AM
|Name: suee | Date: May 14th, 2008 3:45 AM
|Name: craig | Date: May 22nd, 2008 11:56 AM
|no help for me. to many as ppl, not enough staff ↑|
|Name: Angel | Date: May 30th, 2008 11:26 PM
|Hi Carol my son does'nt have Aspergers but is does have ADHD and he was also born with nunon syndrome. I didn;t realize what was going on in school because my son always came home & told me that he had a good day at school. But on Tuesday I went with him on his 8th grade class trip to New York City., And Ifor the first time I seen for myself how some of the kids treated him. Even knowing that I was there. My son is smart & is is handsome. But kids are just nasty & they don't understand. It has very much bothered me since the trip. My son has friends in our neighborhood, he does have friends in school that are nice that we walked with on the trip. So I can imagine how you are feeling right now. I would love to hear what your going thru maybe we can help each other. ↑|
|Name: Tracy | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 1:24 PM
|[email protected], I would love to talk. ↑|
|Name: Tracy | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 2:39 PM
|I have a 10 year old who was diagnosed at the age of 9 as an Aspie. After 2 years of fighting with our school system that my daughter needed help in reading and writing, I finally got them to test her for ADD. They did a BASQ test on her and it showed a huge range of issues from depression to things you could not even imagine about your child. I took the report to our doctor and we decided that she needed to be evaluated by an outside doctor. Within a 30 minute session, the doctor told us she believed our daughter had Aspergers. A month later she was diagnosed. This entitled her for the services she needed at the school, however she still stuggles. She still stuggles in all social areas, and has not made very much progress academically with the services. I don't understand why it is such a fight to get the school to help her, isn't it their job to make sure EVERY child succeeds. I feel as though they just go through the motions to get her by and onto the next grade. My daughter is capable of doing the work, she desearves the same education as every other student, she wants to go onto college and become a vet. She is very bright, but like most children with her disabilty you must take a different approach to teaching them. She also needs to be in a classroom with a smaller teacher to student ratio. I have asked that she be placed in a school for children with Aspergers, so that she can get caught up and return to the public school system, before high school, but I am getting resistance. Has anyone out there gone through this process with success, that could share some pointers. Please email me directly at [email protected] ↑|
|Name: James Brett | Date: Jun 12th, 2008 10:58 PM
|Its only within the last few years that I figured out that I had Aspergers Syndrome. My condition really does show in the sense that I haven't really got a great deal of friends and I am 18 and have never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship with a girl before. I have quite poor eye contact at times and sadly compared to my younger brother who has got no difficulties at all he has loads and loads of mates compared to me :(|
Its not all bad though I have suceeded in acedemic areas of my life but again I must really stress that my social difficulties at least have caused me a great deal of pain and stress at times in the past and present. Its just really a matter of being socially accepted which I am not always I am afraid. ↑
|Name: Dee | Date: Jun 13th, 2008 7:04 AM
I'M NEW AT THIS FORUM .... I am a Mother & Wife of 3 x Aspies!!! My 12yo Son (Aspergers with ADD) also 8yo Daughter (Aspergers with ADHD) ...ALSO 42yo Husband (Aspergers)!!!! It took 10yrs for Doctors to listen to my concerns about my son.....18yrs together with my Husband (16yrs of which i felt total emotional emptiness) All 3 were diagnosed individually 2 years ago. Since having them diagnosed I now knew what i was dealing with & now my life has become so much more HAPPIER!!! ... Don't get me wrong it's bloody hard work for me everyday walking on eggshells everyday learning & knowing how & when to avoid conversation or anyone having meltdowns/depression/outbursts/etc.,etc., which is a daily occassion in our house but for me it's far better having an answer & to know what i'm dealing with ... rather than thinking I was bad Mother!!! Cheers for now! ↑
|Name: vicky | Date: Jun 15th, 2008 1:17 PM
I have a 17 year old son who is Asperger's. Mitchell's brutal honesty has made me get back to the gym and his lack of friends is compensated by adopting a couple of his brothers friends and other teengers he meets on the internet. he is just coming to accept his diagnosis recently and although it is difficult we try to keep a sense of humour which is an absolute must. Although very challenging for him and the entire family it is also what keeps us close and forces us to be tolerant of others differences. Mitchell has been suspended from school for wearing a pair of fluffy angel wings to school and refusing to remove them, he was subsequently chased through the school by two male teachers at the end of the day and stood his ground. We are appealing his sentence tomorrow.
God luck and keep your chin up ↑
|Name: jenny | Date: Jun 15th, 2008 2:23 PM
|Name: Dee | Date: Jun 17th, 2008 1:59 PM
|REPLY TO VICKY........|
You've hit the nail on the head!!!
HUMOUR!!! It the ultimate tool of all!
My son's teacher (last year) was a large size 24+....came the end of year Classroom Christmas Party & she was handing out the "White Christmas Candy" (sugary-coconut-marshmellow-white chocolate treat) & when she arrived to my Son's table, of course he reply's: "You don't need to eat any of that!!!".... Without understanding HIS HONESTY (but i saw the innocense & truthfullness / & humour in it) she blushed ..... & believe it or not, by the next the Classroom Christmas party she had lost over 30kgs (70lbs)!!!
She looked fabulous & unreconizable & i felt compelled to walk up to her & tell her so... (to cover for my Son's comment 12 months before) ... & all I was hoping that it was because of her new boyfriend & not because of my Son's comment !!!
YES!.....they're comments are BLACK & WHITE (blunt as a sledge hammer as i call it), But all kids will say what they think!
BOTH my Son & Daughter definitely & always say what they think! ... Whether i have control over it or not.
In moments like these i quickly & quietly try to remind them that all people have feelings & their feelings can be hurt when you say things like that" .... & their response is:
"Why? .... But It's True"..."I'm only being honest"!!!!
BUT....GOD FORBID IF WE HURT THEIR FEELINGS.....
YOU WON'T HEAR THE END OF IT & THEY'LL HAVE A TOTAL MELTDOWN & IT CAN LAST FOR DAYS EVEN WEEKS IN OUR HOUSE!!!!!!!
Most times i die of embarresment...but they are what they are & i always seen to apologise for them (Hoping without having to explain myself too much).
Even with my Husband (who has Aspergers & Depression) ... My anger with him has to be with Humour otherwise he is a 42yo having a meltdown like a 8yo!!!
But i must admit that my LIFE itself is NEVER BORING....
as my Girlfriends say : (which i have very few)....
they always tell my that: MY LIFE NEVER BORING !!!!
I always have a story to tell.......
But little do they know that my life is
very, very, very, emotionally EMPTY.....!!!!!
& I have NO-ONE (appropriate) to fill that emotional VOID....
(thatmy Husband would'nt be considered a threat to my fidelity to my marriage!!!!!)....which i could BUT JUST COULDN'T DO!!!
I am in NO-WAY religious of any sorts, but i keep saying to myself....that i have been delt this for a reason????
& EVERYDAY I'M HOPING & HOPING FOR THE ANSWER!!!!
I absolutely LOVE the life that i LIVE for ASPERGERS ... but i resent & HATE what i have to give to accommodate for them!!!!!
IF THAT MAKES SENSE?????
"WHAT ABOUT ME"......How selfish!!!!
I always think....My day will come when they think about me???
I maybe 70+ year old but if it happens before i "cross over" it will be worth it!!!!
|Name: Dee | Date: Jun 18th, 2008 12:32 AM
|SORRY EVERYONE for that last entry!!!|
What a load of dribble.... i'm laughing now at what i wrote...it was after midnight & i'd had a bad day! Should've wrote this in my Journal....not on this forum!!! ↑
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|Name: Ernelli | Date: Jun 20th, 2008 8:34 AM
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|Name: Lindy | Date: Jun 23rd, 2008 1:54 AM
|I actually have aspergers myself.it's just a mild form of autism and usually has ADHD attatched to it.i've led a very normal life with no set routine and have always done well.i did have trouble applying myself in school though.which your son may be having some difficulties learning(it's a learning disibility in essence).There is a book out there on asperger's that my mom had read and it helped her out.i forget what it's called but i remember the author was standing in a stable like thing with a cow beside her....don't hold me to that,it was like 8 years ago.But,along with the trouble in school(i was on ADD meds but caught the moodiness side effect with them so i stopped those),i also had sensitivity to loud sirens from emergency vehicles.although police sirens never bothered me unless i was in very very close proximity to them.I also had social problems and trouble making friends.I have always had to entertain myself.as i became more social,the easier it was for me to make friends.i had a few in high school but lost touch with them.and i have been very very blunt with everything...it just comes with everything.i would rather be brutally honest than to have to keep my mouth shut for something i don't believe in or think is wrong.the friends thing will get better as he gets older.it is hard to fit in so i know how both of you feel.have you tried summer campsi live in Pennsylvainia and i went to a camp founded by former PSU defensive end coach Jerry Sandusky.it was a camp for kids reccomended by their guidance counselors to go...it's paid for in full and only offered to kids in the PA area...not sure if they go out of PA or not...but if you haven't tried that yet,give that a shot.he'll make friends that will last a while.But i've learned to live with the aspergers and it has mellowed out since i've gotten older.ialthough,i'm 20 and have no drivers liscense.i think my reserved side is from the asperger's and i don't like going over like 25 mph...lol.but i think the aspergers has something to do with it.As I said,it should get better for you and your son.maybe trying some ADD meds and seeing if they work to help him in school and stay focused and on task when he's not?just a thought.hope i helped!!|
|Name: Ziv | Date: Jun 24th, 2008 11:18 PM
|Name: Holly | Date: Jun 25th, 2008 9:06 AM
|i'm a mom of an 8 year old aspie and we only found out 7months ago that this is what we are dealing with but i have learned to love and embrace his honesty so much cause i know he can't lie to save his life. even when he tries, Did you eat the last popsicle?...No, mom...one look at him and he caves, every time!! he doesn't care what color the skin, hair or eyes are of the other kids in his class, just that someone, (more often then not no one) plays with him. i see children even in the 2nd or 3rd grade setting up a social status based on their parents, weather or not they are aware of it. i'm in south arizona and there is a HUGE, HUGE difference in children here because it is not a requirement to know english or even be an american resident to attend our public schools. so we have many kids that don't know english and we don't speak a word of spanish but to my aspie that doesn't mean anything. he will judge you honestly and be just as fair to the next guy, that's refreshing down here. now it has been tough teaching him to judge the difference between intentional and an accident but that's a hole other issue!! i do feel bad for my son when i see him trying to include himself with others and it's just not working. but i don't let him dig to big a hole for himself, now i know i can't always be there for him and the playground is the school of hard knocks but i do what i can. for the most part my son is happy as a pig in mud to just be left alone. and it took alot of reading and doctors for me to be able to change my 30 years of life expierence to accept the fact that despite everything, there's nothing wrong in the world with being left well enough alone!!! i do engage my son in a weekly activity but after school, when he gets home, it is just fine if he wants to be left alone. most of the time he likes to hang with his baby sister or play with the dog and we can never forget the one million garfield books he loves to read over and over and over and over again. so i have come to terms that god has blessed me with a gift in my son and it's up to me to learn how to help him grow. good luck and bless,bless... ↑|
|Name: sadie | Date: Jun 27th, 2008 12:30 PM
|hey carol i aint a mum but my lil bro has aspergers!|
my mum finds it reli hard what with not havein a social life etc plus my brother is 13 he is 6'3 and out of control ↑
|Name: Jasmine | Date: Jun 27th, 2008 12:43 PM
|i kno that my mum really struggles with my little brother and it makes me sad to see it cos when you look at her you can see in her eyes so much sadness! My brother now hasn't been in school for 2 years and my mum dad dad have fought with everyone they know could help!|
i find it really hard to see my parents as they are and try and do my best to help! all though yes my brother is big for his age he is the sweetest and kindest little boy all the parents at his lil school used to call him the gentle giant. Along with aspergers my little brother also has dispraxia (not sure on spelling) i just know that it must be so hard for mums and parents to deal wit as well has having other children like my mother there is four of us and my mum tries so hard to treat us all as equal as possible but then makes her sad because all of her attention goes to my borther! good luck to everyone in dealing with there children and i am sure you are doing great xxx ↑
|Name: sam | Date: Jul 7th, 2008 8:07 PM
|hi i have A.S and i am 9 |
pleas can you tell me how
i can make it froe school
e-mail me on [email protected]
pleas. it will be good to have some one to chat to
|Name: Hope welch | Date: Jul 8th, 2008 2:01 PM
|Name: VONNIE | Date: Jul 8th, 2008 10:51 PM
|I have been looking for some information on Aspergers. Can someone tell me the symptoms? I have a 10 year old son that is ADHD but I believe there is something else too. ↑|
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