I just recently lost my 2nd son.. I was 23 weeks preganat. when I found out that my son had completely stopped growing at 17.1 weeks gestation. I 1st son was born at 28.6 weeks and is healthly and normal 6 year old.. Has anyone gone thru this situation before??
There are a lot of support groups for moms that need someone to talk to as well..
|Name: hugos225 | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 11:41 AM
|I greet you in the Name of our God, |
the Beneficent, the Merciful,the Master of the day To whom All the Praise and the most
Beautiful Names belongs.
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|Name: norah | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 2:03 PM
|Yes. I lost my twins who were born early and died a couple of weeks later. It was my second pregnancy. I had another child born early, but is ok, then a miscarriage, then I got pregnant with twins again and gave birth to the surviving twin 8 weeks ago. So in the last 4 years I have expected 7 children, but have only 3 surviving. It is hard, but it gets easier as time goes. We are doing well now, but still think expecially of the twins because they lived for a few weeks. But we are Christians and we believe that we will have a large family in Heaven one day! Be open with your friends and family about how you are doing, even if you think that they think you should be 'over it'. Just tell them if you are having a bad day and let them support you. ↑|
|Name: mary | Date: Nov 30th, 2008 2:54 AM
|I am very sorry for your loss. I also lost my son. He was born at 28 1/2 weeks. He lived for seven days. My son also became growth retricted. We found out he was growth restricted at 19 weeks. He continued to grow slowly untill the day he went into stress and they had to deliever him . He was born on 12/22/06 and died in my arms on 12/29/06. It has been almost two years and it hurts just as bad as when I lost him. I blamed his growth restriction on 17 hydroxy progesterone and the lovenox shots the dr put me on. My baby was growing fine untill I started takeing these shots. I also have been to support groups. They do help to talk to people that have lost other babies. I will keep you in my prayers. ↑|
|Name: Lyndsay | Date: Jan 3rd, 2009 4:49 PM
|October 10th 2008 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. All seemed to be going perfect, and I could not have possibly been happier. I spent the three days in the hospital and was discharged oct.13. I went home and spent the next 5 days there with my little guy. The morning of oct. 18 was the worst day of my life. I woke and knew something was wrong with my little braydon. I screamed to my boyfriend and we immidiately called 911. They arrived and braydon was no longer alive.|
We found out from his autopsy that all of this could have been prevented and Braydon would still be here with us today if doctors and nurses would have just paid more attention and done their jobs.
Braydon lost his life at eight days old because of something called PDA (patent ductus arteriousis) this is when his ductus (valve you could call it) never closed. It is open when he was in womb but should close 24-48 hours after being born. HIS DIDN'T, but there were signs...heart murmer and signs of him going into heart failure like his liver being so inflammed and his lungs drowning. But no now 21/2 months later not only do I have to live with the death of my first born baby, but the anger for every single USELESS doctor who checked over Braydon. If it weren't for such neglegence I would be with him right now watching my baby grow up.
I just wanted to let everyone know who has lost a baby that there are greif councelling groups out there and it does seem to help me talk with others who have lost something so incredibly special to them. Who like you never want them to be forgotten and are the c losest people to know what you are gowing through. Trust me friends who say "i know what your going through" and have not lost a child DO NOT know, they have no clue at all. ↑
|Name: Jenn | Date: Jan 9th, 2009 1:21 AM
|Hi--I can't imagine! We have had at least 1 miscarriage & possibly as many as 11 but crazy ass--can't keep it past 3-4 wks--the confirmed miscarriage was 6-7 wks. Frankly I find it dam hard & am religious as well--I find it helps for my husband & I to realize it's 'just science"--unfortunately.|
I mean we have absolutely no control--that's where we've found comfort--at first we found that havoc & it caused MUCh stress but now it just gives us hope--because at least there was a baby there once.
I don't know what to tell you other than I am sorry--the ones I've lost I've missed! I can only imagine getting to the stage where I felt more than a flutter (butterfly wings?)...
Find hope in your first son--your body had him & it will most likely have another healthy one. I have a lot of friends now who have lost repeated pregnancies at different stages--everyone finds it hard & then over time, we move on but of course we still think of it! Of course!
I think it's quite common, I've heard different comments that first pregnancies are 20% likely to fail, and other one that 30% of all pregnancies are problemic, etc, etc.
Ignore that, maybe go to one of those support groups you know of--you'll find it helpful to talk talk talk it out! ↑
|Name: joleen | Date: Jan 12th, 2009 6:16 PM
|i just lost a ababy 3 days ago i am only 20 i cant cope ↑|
|Name: danette | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 7:53 PM
|i lost my son at the age of18 on my birthday. it was the hardest days of my life. he was swimming with friends. people tell takr one day at a time. i dont know how to do.it still feel like it just happen and it will soon be a year ↑|
|Name: Saray | Date: May 21st, 2009 10:17 AM
|I NEED HELP, I DON'T GO OUN ↑|
|Name: Nicole | Date: May 25th, 2009 5:40 PM
|Hi It has been all most sixt Years for me.I loss Annika I still think of her very day. I had her for six days and happy days for me.I throght the pain will go away but it"s easyer to deal with but does not go away.I have my my Aliza and she is apple of my eye.I was on msn group and I loss tought with the group thinking that I was ok.I love to chat to you. Thank-you for your time Nicole ↑|
|Name: Surj | Date: Jun 21st, 2009 6:20 AM
|Hi My husband and I lost our baby on May 22nd,2009....just last month. I was 21 weeks pregnant but the baby was only 17 weeks in growth. I have had 4 miscarriages uner 12 weeks and this was my 5th loss but in my 5th month. We as yet have no children. |
My Doctor has discovered that my placenta membrane was very thick and the condition is called 'fibrin deposition' preventing the baby from getting enough nutrition which may also explain my previous miscarriages. Apparently I have an antibody in my blood that attacks the placenta. The baby also had very little amniotic fluid surrounding it in addition to growing slowly.
I am wondering if there is anyone out there that has had the same problem and has successfully been able to have a baby. I would like to know what treatment was given. I am 37 years old. If you know of anyone that has suffered what I am suffering - please get them to respond to this site. ↑
|Name: Mother of 3 Angels | Date: Jun 25th, 2009 3:32 PM
|Hello everyone, I came across this site because lately I have been feeling such a burden in my heart to reach out to women who like myself have lost their most beloved treasures and are now mothers of angels. I have lost 3 children, my first was at 20 weeks, a baby girl. I lost her at the happiest time of my life, I had just celebrated my first anniversary and was just extatic to be preganant ( I have always had such a special love for children and was happy to finally be having my own). However at 20 weeks my little girl was born early and unexpectedly, She was in my arms for an hour before she passed and I was able to see her move her tiny little body and sang her to sleep. This loss was supposedly due to an incompetant cervix, which my doctor said he would be able to stitch for my next pregnancy. After this loss I went into a deep depression, everything was so dark and I just felt like no one understood, some people tried to make me feel better by telling me that I would have other children, but as I am sure you all know, it is not about having the other children, it is about that child that you just loss, nothing can take the place of that child, not ever another one. My second loss was at 6 weeks, the baby never developed correctly because my uterus had suffered some cuts when my doctor performed the D & C in my first pregancy. About a year and a half after this pregnancy I became pregnant with my daughter, whom I was close to loosing at 22 weeks and was placed on bed rest for three months. She was born at 32 weeks and is the miracle and joy of my life, she will be two this August. Unfortunately, this last January I lost another baby, my first and much awaited and wanted son, my baby boy, at 16 weeks. Everything seemed to be going fine, when one day I felt a little cramping feeling on my side. I went to the doctor and he could not find the heart beat, so he decided to do an ultrasound. As soon as he turned on the monitor and found the baby I could tell that there was something wrong. My baby was just sitting there stiff with no movement, I knew there was something wrong but tried to be hopeful, when all of a sudden the doctor said, "Oh no...I cannot find the heartbeat I am so sorry." I could not believe what was happening, again! For no reason at all, his heart just stop beating. I was so devasted and confused, What was wrong with my body I asked the doctor and my husband. Why does my body betray me this way? I am a woman of great faith, I love and believe in God with all my heart and can tell you that although I felt this horrible feeling in my heart and soul, I knew that God was there with me as he had been thru the other pregnancies. I later found out that my baby boy had what is known as Tricomy 18. He had an extra gene and this caused his death. The doctor said that most babies born with Trisomy 18 do not make it passed their first birthday (especially in boys). So in a way I actually feel peace with the fact that God allowed my baby to pass earlier in the pregnancy, I don't know if I could have coped with actually having him for months or a year and then losing him. My heart and most sincere prayers go out to those mothers and fathers who lose their babies after having them in their arms. To the mother who lost her son after bringing him home, honey I am with you in your pain, and I understand, that is all I am going to say, because there isn't anything that can make you feel better, there aren't words to relieve that kind of pain. Just know that there are many of us that understand your pain and are here fighting the fight with you. I can say that I have been able to cope through the joy of the Lord. It is weird but even through this painful experience the JOY OF THE LORD HAS BEEN MY STRENGTH! I would just like to tell every one of you that I am here and that I remember. What has been hurting me the most these last couple of months is that fact that I feel like no one remembers that I was even pregant, nobody asks me how I am doing in regards to the loss, or even mention the baby. I know that is more due to the fact that they don't want to bring up painful memories and it makes THEM uncomfortable to talk about it. Just know that I do remember, as I read all of these stories, I remember, I remember my children who are now little angles in heaven and who I will see on that great day when I am lifted up to be with my Holy Father, and I remember all of you and all of your little ones who most likely are playing somewhere in a wonderful garden in heaven with my own. God Bless you all, and please feel free to contact me if you simply need to talk, if you just want someone to listen, I won't say a word, but I will pray for you. If anyone would like prayer please let me know, I have found much healing through helping others, and I feel such a burden in my heart for all of us mothers who have lost a child, please I would be honored and most happy to pray for you. My email is [email protected] ↑|
|Name: charmaine | Date: Feb 4th, 2010 9:15 PM
|iam sorry,gave birth at 32 weeks three months ago to a son and he past away after 4 days ↑|
|Name: SHOULDBEMOM OF4 | Date: Apr 13th, 2010 12:38 AM
|I HAVE GAVE BIRTH TO TWINS THAT I HAVE ALMOST LOST BUT THEY KEEPED ON FIGHTING AND THEN I GAVE BIRTH TO MY SON THEN I WAS PREGENAT WITH MY BABY GIRL AND I LOSTED HER WHEN SHE WAS 3 DAYS OLD AND I GOT TO HOLD HER AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE IT WAS SOMETHNG I DID OR WHAT WAS WRONG WITH MY BOBY SHE DIED FROM PPHN AND AVM BRAIN THEY SAID SHE COULDNT MAKE IT ON HER OWN I DEAL WITH THIS EVERYDAY AND EVERYONE SAYS ITS GOING TO GET EASYER BUT I DONT THINK IT WILL AND NO ONE I TALK TO DONT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING ABOUT BECAUSE THEY HAVENT BEEN THOUGH THIS ↑|
|Name: Angels in Heaven | Date: Apr 17th, 2010 6:52 AM
|at 21 weeks pregnant I found out I had an incopetent cervix. I delivered a beautiful baby girl that only took a few short breaths and died. I was devestated! Once I got the ok to get pregnant again I did and after a stitch and lots of bedrest I delivered another beautiful girl who is healthy and 4. I got pregnant again and mis-carried at 9 weeks, shortly after that I got pregnant again. Got the stitch put in and lots of bedrest. At 36 weeks my water broke and my son died at birth. I can remember so clearly thinking this can't be happening to me again. Asking God why are you taking another one of my babies. The autopsy results showed he died of asphexiation. I believe that everything happens for a reason and that we choose our paths before we come. I really struggle with this so much! Its coming to a year and some days I feel like I barely have it together.... ↑|
|Name: Billie-jean Claude | Date: May 20th, 2010 7:57 PM
|ich lost my baby just last night its was just 3 months old and im so lonley and have nobody to talk to who understands how i feel right now im so said and ive lost so many people in my life and i grew up in a childs home just turned 18 ↑|
|Name: babe30 | Date: Aug 12th, 2010 4:06 AM
|hey i just had a miscarriage not to long ago and my boyfriend hasn't really been there for me and now is when i need him the most all i feel is depressed but i have no one to talk to cause no one knows about it... what should i do ? ↑|
|Name: ziyanda | Date: Sep 23rd, 2010 8:52 AM
|hi to every one i lost my son 9 months ago and i am still not ok about this. i still cry each and everyday i beleive in god and i know everything happen for reason and to all the woman that lost their baby i know this is the most painful thing a woman can go through.my god bless you guys ↑|
|Name: xennia | Date: Oct 7th, 2010 12:13 AM
|I just lost my twins at 21 weeks I feel so sad... ↑|
|Name: Helen Mcelroy | Date: Oct 10th, 2010 8:34 PM
|I have lost 4 babies in the last year. I have 2 children who are 9 and 18 and was in another relationship.. the first was 2009 i was 4 weeks to the day. Ididnt think that this would happen never a thought crossed my mind because i have 2 children already. Oh my i remember that day so vivid we were joking me and james my partner then a doctor came in and did a scan said she had to get another opinion the head dr came in and did the same, did scan and told us that there is no heart beat.. i didnt think thought this is a joke try again.. well i can tell u my world fell apart that day and will live me for ever more..i was numb thought the dr's were bonkers couldnt belive it. then tried again in december i was pregnant but started bleeding again miscaried at 4 weeks i think this was getting to be a pattern.. again in may i miscarried was 17 wks but this time was different cause i actually gave birth...to a little tiny boy.. i could see everything his toes his fingers even his little willy it was so prominent it was there... he even looked like my partner, i could see the mouth and the long fingers he was the split of him..., this had actuallly killled us..cause we are not together anymore and cause im 40 which shouldnt make any difference cause when i was in hospital there was so many young girls in there 20 s so i feel age doesnt have anything to do with it. i think i want to end my life and dont need any body to tell me otherwise.. ↑|
|Name: kateanderson | Date: Oct 11th, 2010 6:48 PM
|hi all i had my son on the 8th december last year i had been trying 9 years 2 concieve him he's a healthy baby boy i the fell pregnant again when he was 7 weeks old we found out i was having a girl and that was our family complete she was due the 2 november this year then on the 17th july i got really bad back pain i went 2 the hospital and found out i had lost her my partner was away working it was hard i was 25 weeks pregnant i had to deliver her on the 19th july it was so hard she was only 15oz and she had died because she had been strangled by the umbilical cord she was tiny i've been offered a counciler but dont no what to do i'm trying to stay strong for my partner and my son but i think about her every day just wanted to talk to people that have been in the same situation and understand what i'm going through x ↑|
|Name: Zari | Date: Oct 22nd, 2010 2:09 PM
|Hi i lost my daughter on the 28th of sept.at just 26weeks,i went into premature labour at 3am and was rushed to the hospital.doc did a sonogram said baby was very small and also dat i was fully dilated and my membranes r uptured.i was taken to the delivery ward and had a very difficult delivery due to her being breach,she was born stillborn at 5.50am,she was so perfect.i however dont knw the cause.i wana try again but im really scared.my husband and i are devastated.its been 3 weeks now since here death bt i always say she was to beautiful for this earth ↑|
|Name: Zari | Date: Nov 8th, 2010 12:51 PM
|Hi im so sorry 4 ur loss i feel your pain.i lost my only daughter at 26weeks she was most beautiful my heart is shattered and i feel lost.best of wishers 4 the future.GOD BLESS ↑|
|Name: alisha | Date: Nov 18th, 2010 4:03 PM
|i lost my daughter in 09 when i was 7months. she had cdh. my water broke i went to the hospital was there for an hour and then i found out she passed away. Ive had a misscarriage before that and two after it happened. I dont know what has caused this to happen. But i did find out that I had a pelvic infection that was in my reproductive organs. ↑|
|Name: diana | Date: Dec 14th, 2010 8:10 PM
|iam14 weeks pregant and i have a very thick uterus and doctor said that i can miscarge the baby and he cant do any thing for me please help me ↑|
|Name: BabyKaydensMommy | Date: Dec 29th, 2010 5:58 AM
|I had been having a wonderful pregnancy, my boyfriend of 6 years and myself finally conceived the little boy we had wanted for a long time. At 20 weeks I went for a routine ultrasound and found out my cervix was open and I was dialated to 2 and at a high risk for premature delivery. Bed rest was what I was sent home to do, and everything was fine until 23 weeks when I just didnt feel right. I went to the hospital and my membranes were pushing through the cervix and I was having contractions. My beautiful boy was breached as well, which made matters worse. I was given all teh statistics on survival rates of a baby born this early, but in my heart of hearts I never thought I would lose him. I opted for a c section to give him the best chance of survival, because with him being breached he would have had a hard time making it through the birth canal safely. They couldn't slow my labor down after 36 hours my contractions were 2 minutes apart and baby Kayden was born 1 lb 4 oz and 11 3/4 inches long. He was a fighter though, he was breathing on his own at first and he even tried to cry! The next morning things went down hill. His lungs weren't developed enough and he wasn't getting enough oxygen to the rest of his organs. My beautiful, tiny bundle of joy went to heaven that day and my world came crashing down. Incompetent cervix they called it, and for some reason it took my little boy away from me. I am trying so hard to get through this, but I just cannot find the strength and I am falling apart. ↑|
|Name: sosusume | Date: Feb 2nd, 2011 6:47 AM
I think you do need someone to tell you otherwise. Ending your life because of occurrences that were out of your control is right out ridiculous. You had the miscarriages because of a higher influence/power.. and you, being a human, deciding your life is worthless is not truly up to you. God will decide when the right time is, just as he did with all our babies that we lost.
I'm sorry that you're feeling, or were feeling so bad, but time is a wonderful tool. Time really does heal some wounds, but in some cases it can numb it enough for us to go on living and loving and being there for the kids we do have. ↑
|Name: Spreeman | Date: Mar 8th, 2011 6:57 AM
|To all of the moms with angel babies.|
I am so glad that I started a post about our losses. I Hope that time has helped eased some of the pain. My son RJ would be 5 this year. 5/24. for all of u lovely woman that are having a difficult time with this crushing loss/losses.. remember our babies are above us watching over us. to protect us from things we dont see.
I do though suggest anyone that is in a desperate need of wanting to go on with your life. please talk to your doctors. get on some proper meds. I went through all the same feelings. It killed me to be here and not with him. things changed one day with a dream i had of him. this was his way telling me he was ok.
anyone that needs to talk.. ur more than welcomed to email me at [email protected]
may all the angels babies be watching over u and ur families. may u have ur peace that u need. remember to never forget, and always cry when u need to.
God bless u all
|Name: hopetoheal22 | Date: Mar 15th, 2011 3:43 PM
|My husband and I just recently had to make the hardest decision of our life. I was 25 weeks pregnant and we found that our son had distal arthrogyposis, along with some other nuro issues. We made the decision to interrupt the pregnancy. I needed some support and thought to try this. |
|Name: khemi | Date: Mar 19th, 2011 4:27 PM
|My son Meshach was born on 9 March, 2011 at 7 months 3/4 weeks, one week shy of 8 months. I am awaiting the autopsy report which they say will be available in 6 weeks. I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth, I have no living children. This is the hardest thing I have to go through in my life but I have no other choice but to live with the pain through God's strength. I am sorry for all mother's who experienced a loss at any stage of their pregnancy. May God be with us all. ↑|
|Name: Debbie | Date: Mar 20th, 2011 4:43 AM
|This is to jayme hopetoheal22, |
Im so sorry you had to make that decision. No words i can say will make it any easier. One of my closest friends had a daughter that was born at 24 weeks and she had to make the decision to pull her off life support 9 days after birth.god has made u strong. even though in ur heart that you dont feel very strong. The pain will always be there, but as the days, months, years get longer it will become more bearable. It has been almost 5 years since the loss of my son. and every it still hurts. if you need more support u may contact me at [email protected]
You are one of the strongest people i have met that had to make that decision for your child. you had to do what was best for him. for that 25 weeks you were a mom... born or not. you still desided on the best intrest for him.
|Name: Shawna | Date: Mar 20th, 2011 6:55 AM
|I am Debbie's friend who just posted about my little girl. I delivered MacKenzie on 6/23/08 and she passed away on 7/2/08 after putting up the fight of her life. She did so much in this world than we will ever been able to do! She brought healing, she brought peace but most of all, she brought many people to God. She is my miracle on earth. If you need anyone to talk to, Debbie is a great resource and I would love help you through your times of pain. Nothing about losing a child is fair or natural. There are days that I have good days and some days are much harder than others. I would love to talk to you more because there is so much more to my situation. MacKenzie was our second loss, our first was born at 20 weeks and was still born. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!|
email address: [email protected] ↑