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Name: newmexicomommy
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Hello, I am a 26 yr old mother of 4, two of them are my step kids but I dont consider them that way. My son who will be 7 April 2nd was diagnosed earlier this year as moderately mentally retarded, he was diagnosed with ADHD and Impulsive disorder NOS when he was 2 1/2. He has been a slue of medications over the years, we changed doctors and he was doing great. Last year, his kinder year he had his ups and downs but he did great! I don't know what happened but he grew angry and distant during the summer. When he went back this year, the first grade, he didnt do so good, he had a lot of bad behaviors not even his behavioral management specialist could do it anymore.

So I was told I had to admit him to a residential treatment center in Albuquerque, NM. Now I am not too excited about it, I have come to see him a couple times since he was admitted, and I admitted him Nov 10th. I came back Nov 23rd to spend Thanksgiving with him. When I saw him he had a light in his eyes he hasnt had since Kinder, and he was so happy. It hurt to say goodbye to him but I had to... I live 3 1/2 hours away. Now we got back here to see him and he was when we left in a size 10 jeans, he is now to skinny for a size 10, and he looks like hes half his weight, he is distant, spaced out, his teeth were disgusting and yellow, and he was as white as a ghost, I am so worried about him. He seems so withdrawn, almost as though he doesn't want us around him. I raised him and his brother for almost 3 years on my own, and he had his issues but we worked through them, I wanted them to give me a chance to fix it and give him the special needs education he was supposed to be getting since day 1. No instead he is stuck in a 25 kid reg classroom and then a couple hours a day in a special ed class with 4-5 other kids and one teacher.... not D level. I feel as though my son has fallen through the cracks and the principle did nothing except push it that I have to admit him. They told me if I didnt I might be held for MEDICAL neglect. HAH! I have never missed an appointment to see his pysch or any of his mental health doctors... I don't know what to do.... I am not sure what my options are at this point but I dont feel comfortable with him in the facility that is 3 1/2 hrs away from home and when I do see him he looks bad!
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Name: teenmommie92 | Date: Jan 5th, 2011 8:01 AM
Im sorry to hear this. Bt ill pray for ur son!! Wat is gis name? 

Name: shaunz77 | Date: Jan 20th, 2011 9:58 PM
I have a 4 year old child with mild Cerebral Palsy as well as seizures.

Please check out my blog:
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Please pass it on if you know anyone interested.

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Name: r | Date: Feb 14th, 2011 2:44 AM
I have a 9 year old son that has mmr(mild mental retardation), adah and some cerebral palsy. he is currently on lexapro and metadate. it helps a little, he likes to hit us a lot.

he is enrolled in a private school which helps him out ALOT worth every penny!!!

currently we are in the process of going thru a gov agency (7 counties) and are waiting on the old medical card. they handle kids/adults with special needs. they are sending someone to come to our house to help take care of him (flex schedule as of now not sure how many hours we will get) She is also helping him with his social skils
he should be getting ot, pt, and speech hope that comes about. 

Name: ARice | Date: Sep 14th, 2011 12:50 AM
Newmexicomommy, I am sure it is extremely hard to have to send him to a residential treatment. The fact that he comes back skinnier, spaced out, etc. does not sound like the people at the residential treatment are treating him well at all. Before sending him back to that place, I would definitely ask someone such as social services or health department any questions you may have about the place and get their opinion on the facility and how it is run. As for Medical neglect, I believe you have done all you can and you should be receiving extra special care for your child. Those special needs teachers are there for a reason and should be able to handle any special needs child. I also believe that you working with your child's dicipline at home and proving to that school and the principal you can do it is a big step! Good luck to you and your son and do not give up! Your child has the right to an education as much as any other normal or special needs child in that school. 

Name: Jennifer | Date: Sep 22nd, 2011 5:15 AM
That pisses me off. Mothers know best. Don't listen to what other people tell you is best for your child if you know something is wrong inside. I don't care who the child is, being away from family and those who love you at such a young age is harmful. There are so many services out there for young children with disabilities. Keep working with your child. 

Name: Jennifer ECE Major | Date: Sep 22nd, 2011 5:25 AM
yeah because places like that will drug up your child and pass them through day to day. From the sound of it, they aren't even teaching him. Those places are almost unheard of these days because of new laws. Get him out of there please, and if anyone tries to cause problems for you, fight for your rights and your child's rights, because under law your child has the right to an education in public schools. You will win if you fight. 

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