| i find my 7 year old son with aspergers goes through phases like that too (calm than hyper) my 3 year old feeds off of his behavior too. he used to not listen either. be consistant. just when you think he will never listen he will surprise you. we actually have a list on poster board of a couple of things he is expected to do. we used to read it with him every day. and had a NO CHART. whenever he didn't listen he got a X on the chart for that day and gave him a small reward on the days he was good (like stickers or a snack or letting him pick a activity to do that he enjoyes). time out works for him since he thinks it is the end of the world when he has to do that. he thought getting a spanking was funny. also try putting his favorite toy out of reach. these are things we did with our son and they worked. maybe not over night but within a couple of weeks. he now listens really well. they work with him at school too. do you have any therapy classes or a specialist that you can take him to that is used to dealing with aspergers children that can give you advice? get a book too that will help.when my son is in bed my husband and i talk and watch movies and TRY to not talk about what crazy things my son had done that day (i tell him stuff earlier in the day) it helps to us destress and get ready for the next day. i am a stay at home mom and somedays want to scream because he stresses me out so bad. we live in the country so we go outside to let him go nuts out there. sanity saver! :)i hope my ideas are helpful. ↑ |
| Kimberly, I feel your pain...my son now five was just diagnosed with Asperger just before his 5th birthday in May. My husband and I have been through so much attempting to find that happy medium in with dicipline. My son has just began school which has intensified certain behaviors, along with many more questions as to what to do as a result. We are still in discovery mode and learning more and more everyday and every adventure. I have a 7 year old daughter as well, as difficult as it is for her to understand she realizes there is something different about her brother. At this point the only thing that we have seen successes with involve praise and treasure box. If unacceptable behaviors are present, a favorite dinosaur fossil goes in treasure box and has to be earned back. This is a learning process and we all need support in coping, and not necessarily blaming. ↑ |
