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Name: Hannah
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I am a stay at home mom with four children, ages 10, 7, 4 and 2. I love my children and I am very happy with my decision to stay at home during their younger years. Recently though, a new neighbor moved in next door, and keeps asking me to look after her three children while she is at work. She says that because she has a job, I should be happy to look after her children for her! After all, I'm not doing anything else! Her children are quite a handful, and I am already pretty exhausted looking after my own. Not to mention the fact that I am pretty offended at her implications that her life is more important than mine. I have decided not to let this woman trample all over me...and I just wanted to give cheers to all the other stay at home moms! Don't let anybody tell you your aren't important...because you are!
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Name: HappyMom | Date: Jun 13th, 2005 7:49 PM
YOU GO GIRL!!! AND I GO TO!!! (if that makes sense) Yeah, being a stay at home mom rocks! I can't think of a better or more important job out there. By the way, what does your neighbour do? 

Name: autism411 | Date: Jun 21st, 2005 1:42 AM
Hi, I have the same problem where everyone thinks their time is more valuable then mine. I have a 2 year old autistic son. I spend most of my days involved with his therapies. That must seem like a lot of fun to people because I always get a response I'm tired, I worked all week, I'm too busy. If I ever mention that I am tired, I'm always asked why, what did you do today. 

Name: joann | Date: Jul 23rd, 2005 11:59 PM
i agree with you 100% , because people think that stay at home moms don"t do a think including some husbands 

Name: tiredmommaX3 | Date: Jul 25th, 2005 12:14 AM
I feel your pain. I have the same situation by me. My neighbor and my "friend". Leaves her kids at my house for the whole weekend b/c she doesn't have time to do all things that I get to do all week. She wishes she had the "luxury" of staying at home like me. However, this is her and her husband's decision not mine. Mine is to stay home with MY kids not HERS. I love staying home but I am not the block's babysitter!!! While I stay outside watching my kids play and supervising them everyone is under the assumption since I am already out I should watch their kids too!!! The nerve.......Stay strong sister!!!!!! 

Name: JaneiceWaller | Date: Jul 26th, 2005 11:55 PM
Just because im a stay at home mom people assume "oh thats nothing i work harder than just telling kids what to do, my job actually needs a thinking art in it" its completely rude to assume that because its not at all what a stay at home mom does. I have a huge family so i stay with the kids while the daddy works at his job which is at the Home Depot so here are who my kids reeally are and what i go through...
Savanna- Always wants more toys and wants every new thing for girls she sees on the television, or house is already over flowing with toys, what more could you need?
Rebekka-Always has to be the center of attention and if someone gets hurt she starts crying too, and says she got a boo-boo on her toey and whimpers, i have to sometimes admit to her "no your fine bekka dont start" to get her to understand i know her tricks.
Allyson- Has an eating disorder and needs to be fed with a tube in her stomach, i normally have to force the food down the poor childs throat i feel bad for my girlie.
JaymieLyne-Is gong to middle school next year and i think its going to be such a drag for me to get up an hour and a half early considering all the trouble i go through during the day, the kids will end up nearly half asleep dragging they're feet and taking 20 minutes to get dressed.
Harley- Has trouble making friends because i have to admit she has a huge snotty attitude and is always bossy and needs to be first and nearly everytime i come in to pick her up from daycare (they only go on wednesdays, and friday so i can get some work done around the house)
she is sitting at the teachers desk holding the attendance thing im like "ugh and the teachers dont say anything to her?"
So I guess for me a stay at home mom is hardly nearly to what it may seem to parents and singles with no children even may hink of it to be!!! I agree to the original topic. Also to your header or thread or whateva you wanna call that, lol. Thanks anyways girls
ENJOY
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Name: MamaJoda | Date: Aug 19th, 2005 3:06 AM
Yeah, our job is important, but after working for the past ten years, I don't feel like I'm using my brain. I feel like all I do is change diapers, make food, and clean, clean, clean! 


Name: Lori | Date: Aug 20th, 2005 2:16 AM
I can relate I am a stay at home mom too and also the go to for everyone who needs a babysitter, because after all I have nothing
to do all day because I don't work like everyone else. I am so sick
of peoples comments like I am so lucky, I have it so easy, when am I
gonna go back to work. It seems everyone has something to say.People
forget that raising kids is the most important job. When are we gonna get the respect we deserve! 

Name: Rachel | Date: Oct 14th, 2005 6:30 AM
Good on You!
Yeah! 3 Cheers for all us Full time mums!
I have a teenager and a 6 year old.
Trying for baby now. 

Name: irishmomof 4 | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 2:41 AM
I definitely think that staying home to raise your own children is the best way to go. I have four children. I have an 8 y/o daughter, a 7 y/o daughter, a 2 1/2 y/o daughter, and a 10 month old son. They are awesome! However they drain the energy right out of me. I have been at home for a year. I worked a full time job up until the week before my son was born . But I worked opposite hours of my husband. It was really hard. My husband and I rarely saw each other and when we were home we were both exhausted. I have adapted pretty well but still get kinda lonesome without much adult interaction. I have friends in the area but everyone I know has kids older and they work. I keep telling myself that I know I have made the right decision....but sometimes I feel I have lost my own identity..............anyone else??when you are home every day I think the husbands appreciate you a lot less!!!!! 

Name: irishmom of 4 | Date: Nov 10th, 2005 6:33 PM
To MamaJoda- I agree....I feel the same way. Like I am not using my brain except for time management.....I feel like I clean a lot too and it never stays clean!!! With 4 kids 2 dogs and a husband, I am running in circles. Just see if you can try to take some time for yourself once in awhile. It seems to have helped me. Good luck!! You will look back one day and realize that this was the best decision ever. Your kids probably won't appreciate the sacrifice of staying home verses pursuing your career but hopefully someday they will understand. That is what I am hoping. I feel like I spend my life living it around everyone else. It is hard to do but I am glad to raise my own children.....and Good for you, too!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: gabby | Date: Nov 11th, 2005 4:23 AM
thats awesome im a stay at home mom to and i love it she has no right degrading u because she works woopy i mean i rather be there everyday for my kids then in an office getting hit on by the boss or dealing with all the stress of a job at least i can control the kids lol i cant control the boss or his decisons and i cant be fired for being a mom 

Name: Allison | Date: Nov 12th, 2005 9:28 PM
I was a single mother for 11years of my daughters life who is not 12, I had her very young I was 18years old so I worked out side the home and went to college, it a lot of work. Now I am able to stay home with her for the last 5months and I was wondering how I did all the work around the house while working. Any mom who stays home is very busy, when one works outside the home you can leave your job at work, when you are homemaker your work is never done.
However I would not ever want to have anymore kids and have to work outside the home. STAY AT HOME MOM ARE RULE!!!!!! 

Name: Kyla Marie | Date: Nov 14th, 2005 10:12 PM
I totally agree! So many people think being a stay-at-home mom involves no work! I've worked before, but now I have kids (Adam - 6, Samuel - 4, Holly - 2, and Tabitha - 4 months) and I'm a stay-at-home mom. It's the most rewarding job I've ever had! 

Name: Krista | Date: Nov 16th, 2005 4:59 PM
I think that most moms who work really don't understand how hard it is to be at home, and what you give up to be at home. I had a career before I had my kids. I had much more time, and money when I worked outside the house then I do now. I love being at home for my kids. My husband and I feel tha we will have plenty of time for ourselves and me working when our kids don't need us as much anymore, and you all know that happens way too fast. I also give credit to those mothers who have to work for various reasons. Being a parent is hard no matter the situation you are in. But I do feel that in today's society it is frowned upon to be a "stay at home mom". I truly believe that if more parents were in a situation where one parent could be home to parent we wouldn't have the problems that we are facing with our children today. Keep up the great work stay at home moms!! 

Name: Constance | Date: Dec 3rd, 2005 2:51 AM
Good for you Hannah, first of all you made a choice to stay at home with your kids, not anybody else's. Second, it's nobody's business that you are home with your kids. Are they paying your mortgage, buying your groceries and educating your kids..
Third, it is exhausting in itself to take care of kids, it's a full time job. I think a lot of women go to work because they don't want the responsibility of taking care of their kids, then when they find neighbors like yourself, they take advantage of you. Well, I'm glad you are putting your foot down. Your job as a stay at home mom will pay off in the end...the goal is well rounded, socially stable adults, and studies show that this is what they will become when you dedicate your time and energy to them. 

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Name: chrisi | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 6:36 PM
Hello to everyone,

I too am a stay at home mom. I have seven children ranging from 15 yrs to 9 months. (not to mention they are all boys). I do get bothered by the fact that people think that stay at home moms don't work hard.
I worked for 14 years before I stayed home and let me tell you I work harder now than I every had.
Hats off to all the stay at home moms around the world. 

Name: Stacey | Date: Jan 1st, 2006 4:04 PM
Hello Fellow Moms,

What do you do for money at home? I have had good luck with http://www.athomedataentryjobs.com, but I really hate typing and I would like to do something else. Anyone have any ideas?

Thanks,
Stacey 

Name: Eliza | Date: Jan 7th, 2006 1:50 AM
Just tell that mom that you ARE doing something: you're "making memories" with your children. (I read a story about that in the new Chicken Soup for the Mother/Daughter Soul today.) 

Name: dawn | Date: Jan 8th, 2006 4:59 PM
Also a stay at home mom. 2 girls ages 2 & 3...interested in another, soon. I started working at age 13 and always had a job out of home...until my babies :) This is the most difficult but most rewarding and enjoying I've ever known (I'm now 29). If anyone underestimates what you do, ask them to try it for a few weeks at most...they won't last that long. Same with husbands that don't appreciate. Let them at it for a week. My husband has done it and totally appreciates what I do and thinks I'm crazy for doing it. Has even told his complaining friends at work that his wife works harder than anyone there...he's a plumber/pipefitter. Hats off to all of you :) 

Name: Izznaj | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 4:03 PM
I am a stay home mom with four children age 8,5,4,3. I am also a daycare provider. my day full of pick ups. but i am here for my children that's the most wonderfull part. cheeer to all the Stay at Home Moms. 

Name: Maggie | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 5:12 PM
Hi. I stay at home. However, I'm stressing about my daughter's name. I love the name Gabrielle and that is her name. However, I hate GAbby and I feel bad for that. Do you think I can push for Elle or just Gabrielle or should I change it since Gabby bothers me or grow up and accept Gabby 

Name: Michele | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 5:34 PM
The name is beautiful!! My sons name is Christopher and that is what we call him, of course many are going to shorten it to Chris and I accept that. I think while she is small just politely ask people to call her Gabrielle as that is the name you chose for her and that you love. If they must shorten it then tell them you prefer it be Elle instead. I do know however that as mine gets older his buddies will be calling him Chris, and when your daughter is a teenager her buddies will keep calling her "Gabby". 

Name: maggie | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 5:55 PM
thanks MicheLe. I have a son named Andrew and we call him Andy. However, I don't know if I can accept Gabby. How about Renee? or is that too weird to change. She's three and a half months old. 

Name: Maggie | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 6:30 PM
Anbody else with a reply. I need HELP 

Name: Maggie | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 6:47 PM
What about Ashlee 

Name: Michele | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 8:51 PM
I don't think you should have to change her name, just tell people you prefer Gabrielle. It probably would be very confusing to her as she already knows and responds to her name. 

Name: Michele | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 8:52 PM
Sorry, when I wrote that I thought you had said 3 1/2 years!! Then I reread!! No she wouldn't remember, but I still don't think you should have to change it. 

Name: Maggie | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 9:14 PM
Don't you think it would be better if I did since I do not like the nickname. My husband says I shouldn't mind if she likes it, but I really don't like Gabby. Do you know anyone that changed a person's name? Do you think it's weird? 

Name: Michele | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 9:36 PM
No I don't know anyone who has changed the name, but no I don't think it's weird. You said you love the name you gave her and I just think it would be eisier and nicer for you if you could just let everyone know that it is what you prefer. 

Name: Maggie | Date: Jan 18th, 2006 10:20 PM
Thanks. However, what about when she's older? 

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