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Name: Denise
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Do you think it is selfish to have a birthday for your child/children every year? Do you think it spoils them? My sister said she is going to do it as long as she can. I feel that her kids get everything they want. Here we have to buy two presents each year, one month before christmas. My mother-in-law told me I shouldn't and I kind of feel guilty asking, because I think everyone thinks I just want presents. I just want them to have good memories, my parents never gave birthday parties growing up.
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Name: Denise | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 2:40 PM

Name: Angela1 | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 2:44 PM
Well Denise thats how I was raised. I had a birhtday party every year until I was in JR. High. Kids love it. And I think it is great to have a party for kids. I mean come on one time a year. unfortunaly for you it lands a month before xmas. But it could be worse. My family has 4 birthdays from November to December. But the kids still get there party. They each need a day when everything is about them. I think it is good for them. Just my opinion! 

Name: Denise | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 2:48 PM

Name: Denise | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 2:56 PM
I dont think I wrote this the right way. What I meant was, the whole family has to buy two gifts for my sisters kids right before Christmas each year. I don't mind doing it but it is my sisters husband that makes a big deal of the gifts, he even opens the gifts before the kids do and wants to know who bought each gift. It is almost like it is his party or something. 

Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 3:19 PM
I gave my daughter a birthday party every year up to the age of 16. Her 16th was a huge bash! now I will get a cake and a small gift. The cake we will have for desert at dinner time. I dont think there is any thing wrong with a party every year when they are children. 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 3:37 PM
I plan on giving my kids birthday party every year until they tell me that they don't want one. I say if any one has a problem with it they don't have to show up. My son birthday is in Februaury and my next child will be in January. So we will go from Christmas, to birthday party to birthday party. Again, I invited you to be nice if you don't want to come then don't I don't expect people to buy gifts for my kids, infact if one or two people didn't bring anything he wouldn't even know it. The only thing that I plan on changing once the kids are old enough to have kids birthday parties is that I will have a birthday party for the kids, and then just cake and ice cream with the family members. So I guess my answer to both of your question would be:

No I do not think it is selfish to have a birthday party every year and No I don't think it spoils them. My son has everything and I know this, but he's not spoiled because I throw him a birthday party every year. A child is spoiled because his/her parent get him/her everything that they ever ask for without question. My son knows that just because we walk into a store does not mean that he is getting something. Infact, when it gets closer to Christmas I don't buy him anything that he doesn't need. 

Name: Denise | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 4:08 PM
I think giving them a party every year is great! I mean who really cares about what other people think, right! They don't have to come if they don't want to. 

Name: maxieellis | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 8:47 PM
Hey Denise....just a thought and no I dont think that spoils the kids....goodness one day a year about them....as kids they should.

Your sisters kids with the birthday party just before Christmas....how about looking ya know when your in say Walmart any time of the year....and if they have something you think would be a great gift...(I got my daughter one of those fancy Christmas Bratz dolls for 10.00 in January) and just put it aside until that time. They so often have great deals like that. Much easier on the pocketbook and no mad dashes. 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 12th, 2006 10:01 PM
I completely agree with Maxie. Because I have so many birthday parties through out the year. I hit clearance through out the year and give them away as gifts. Right after Christmas you can get alot of great stuff for really cheap because they are clearing their shelves for new items. Also watch for sale, I actually got a really good deal on some braatz doll it was a buy one get one free sale, so I ended up with two gifts for the price of one. If you don't want to do this set a budget. Say your not going to spend more then $10 on a birthday gift and $20 at Christmas. There's nothing wrong with this. You are under no obligation to buy her kids anything, the fact that you do is because you want to and that's great. Again don't feel obligated to go out and get them something that cost $30 for their birthday and then spend another $50 at Christmas because that in my opinion is just crazy. 

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