For one day or half a day or something like that?
Right now i have 3 differnt families with children he socialises with....1 has just moved the town over so olbi wont get to see them much anymore.
Like ive said before he enjoys adult company more...because thats where he gets attention from...but idk..maybe he would benefit from a little extra child play? He is a very social vocal child..he might enjoy it? he might hate it..
I just cant stand the thought of him wondering where i was ...him screaming out for me and not being there..him getting sick or picking up bad habits from another child/parent..and god forbid something happening to him. Thats what im worried about the most..but maybe im just overeacting being my first baby
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| Name: momo | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 6:19 AM |
| I wasn't going to but then at 5 months i put Rylin in daycare 2 times a week..and i think he has benefitted so much from it...not only do you need a break, but so do they...i know my lil ones get sick of me..i am going to put king in i think in August cuz Rylin goes to kidergarden...then i won't have to pay for 2 day cares ↑ |
| Name: SLUSHIE | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 6:26 AM |
how did you cope just dropping rylin off and leaving him there? i think i would just want to go sit in the car until the day is over..lol
Did you encounter any problems? ↑ |
| Name: momo | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 6:31 AM |
| Well for me i had worked at the time...so it was easy...my mom was watching him...and then i just took him from her for two days...it was hard trusting him in someones hands, but i met with the lady for a long time...she had an open door policy..she was reccommended by friends...i encountered a few problems..such as hitting and other kids being mean...but if you give good structure to your kids they will learn right from wrong...It got to the point where he didn't want to leave...Now he is in Preshool...about to go to kinder...thats 5 days a week..i am kinda sad about that... ↑ |
| Name: Atomic Snowflake | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 8:34 AM |
| He's too young for Daycare Sarah. You have a while to go yet. Don't put him in too early - youngsters are best off with their mothers for the first couple of years. Toddles has just gone in to nursery for a couple of days per week and he's 2.5. ↑ |
| Name: hdc_momof2 | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 8:38 AM |
| i would put both of mine in daycare if i could afford it! lol they drive me batty!!! idk though...i didn't want to at first. i had the same thoughts that you do now. but by the time he was 1yo and i had alyssa too....oh man i needed that break from him! i wasn't getting any sleep at all! little did i know...it will forever be like that lmao. just do your research on the daycares! take your time and check into them all. ↑ |
| Name: SLUSHIE | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 8:45 AM |
well i dont NEED to put him in daycare..im not frustrated..im coping great...and i do get time to myself..the kid is sound asleep from 4-6pm onwards...sleeps for 10 hours..so i have all night to myself...
I guess i could re think the situation once he changes a little more and i do need a break.
Atomic everything you have said is exactly how i felt..and feel..just with hiddy bagering me about not putting him in some play groups..i was TRYING to see a point her her ramblings..i think i will trust my own instinct for the time being anyway ↑ |
| Name: Atomic Snowflake | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 9:56 AM |
Sarah, research has proven that young children are better off with their mothers - sure, they need social stimulation when they're older, but a baby is fine just with the mother. In fact, putting them in daycare too early can have a detrimental effect on youngsters.
Mother and baby/toddler groups suck and are full of saddos who talk about ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for hours on end. They're desperate housewives the lot of 'em.
As long as you spend lots of time talking to Ollie and givin' him plenty of attention he'll be just fine. Babies and toddlers spend all day ignoring each other anyway -they don't start to interact when they're very young. They're in a world of their own. Don't feel guilty. ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 10:56 AM |
| I wouldn't either at that age, Morgan and Gabe were 4 when they went to preschool 2 days a week for 4 hours......I will do the same with Luke too. My kids have so much family around they get plenty of other kid stimulation though....lol......too much probably. ↑ |
| Name: Shelbysmom01 | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 1:16 PM |
| Sarah - no, I wouldn't put him in daycare either. He will have plenty of time to "socialize" once he HAS to start school. My goodness when I grew up you couldn't go to daycare or "preschool" unless you were rich & all the folks that growed up with me are not "hermits" because we didn't attend "daycare" or "playgroups". I say do what you feel is best for you and him but I don't see putting a baby his age in daycare to "socialize". ↑ |
| Name: shelly1 | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 1:37 PM |
| some of the mother and baby places are ok..i went to one with my friend and it was quite a posh one with decent toys.i didnt get involved with many of the other mothers because they are so competitive and i so cant be doing with that , but frankie liked the different toys and they had lots of the sit and ride type toys which i wanted him to try out and see how he got on..but he ignored all the other babies there and for some reason loves kids that are my other sons age which is 10..i agree some of the mother toddler places are a nightmare and i will go now and again but im quite happy at mates houses who has kids a few times a week..dont let hiddy get to you sarah with what she says..olbi is fine with enjoying adult company..frankie dont seem to notice any kids under the age of 7 and he just wants to be entertained which adults and older kids are much better for than a load of other babies. ↑ |
| Name: Dina, | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 7:51 PM |
| i think you have plenty of time to decide if daycare is best for him no need to rush in to it until you are real sure that is what you want .my neighbor her little girl was in a day care and a worker was changing her diaper and let the baby fall off the changing table.i never had ethan in day care not ever i think you should wait longer and dont let hiddy say you a bad mother cause you arent ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 8:02 PM |
| If you do not need daycare...then I say no.......babies need there Mama's......they thrive off of this.......He is best off with you. ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 8:03 PM |
| oh and all the germs and illness'..........unless you need him in it I say no. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 8:07 PM |
| I think that if you find a good day care then it can be great for a child. My son was in daycare from about age 1 or so. I didn't feel comftorable putting him in daycare sooner, because he wouldn't be able to tell me if anything bad happened to him. Anyway he is very independed and make friends easy. Plus when he ws older it really helped him w/ the educational stuff. He started kindergarden when he was just 4yrs and did very well. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 8:09 PM |
| I would wait until he is older though. Make sure he can walk and talk so that he isn't jsut stuck sitting in a crib only playing when the daycare worker picks him up. They group children by age and he will be stuck with babies as young as 6 weeks if you take him now. ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 8:11 PM |
| my twins go to nursery/creche. 5 days a week from 8.30 till 3.30...Its doing them great. They socialise withpeople thier age...while learning stuff...they get excercise in the sense garden and i believe the germs etc are good...it builds up their immune systems. They used to have a childminder before the creche opened. ANd when this baby is born, if we cant afford for paul to stay home, it will go to this creche until i leave the school and then we shall find a minder. ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 8:11 PM |
| but it's your own decision. If you dont feel comfortable doing it...then dont. plenty of mums dont ↑ |
| Name: The Jangler | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 9:35 PM |
| Hmm? Didn't Hiddy once say that your "daycare" for Oliver was the carrier beneath your computer with your foot as the caregiver? ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 9:40 PM |
| perhaps a mommy and me class, or a type of play group for infants where the mother can stay and the child can interact still with you and the other children? ↑ |
| Name: homemommichele | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 9:48 PM |
| I wouldn't, you have said he has wheezing episodes and may have asthma....all those other kids and parents send them when they are sick because they have to get to work.....Enjoy the time with him, before you know it he will be in preschool or whatever you have there, and you will miss him so much!! I enjoy a little playgroup through the preschool my older son went to. It is a good time for the kids to play and the mommies to socialize. It is just once a week for about 3 hours, and forces me to take some time off and focus on just him and I and our special time together. ↑ |
| Name: SLUSHIE | Date: Jun 2nd, 2007 10:07 PM |
well i wont be putting him ANYWHERE - until he is old enough to be running around and interacting with kids
I know i should just trust my OWN judgement..i guess the constant bagering about it gave me second thoughts
Thanks everyone :) ↑ |
| Name: Shelbysmom01 | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 3:35 AM |
| Good decision Sarah - you will have lots of fun watching him grow up for a while, then you can let him loose around other kids when he is older! : - ) ↑ |
| Name: Emma2 | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 3:38 AM |
| not unless you have to! i HATE leaving my little one at the sitter . it's the worst part of my day. ↑ |
| Name: Emma | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 10:36 AM |
| no way‼ stuff what anyone else says, mia never mixed with ANY other kids when she was a baby she still dont now and she is fine‼ ↑ |
| Name: SLUSHIE | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 11:15 AM |
| good good! its decided then :) ↑ |
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