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Name: sezbi
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How do you live with yourself, knowing you fell pregnant on purpose to trap your husband...to keep him after he was unfaithful to you?

Just wondering :) Maybe you can offer some insightful advice to those on here who have done the same thing...like dina for example
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Name: Hiddy | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 10:36 PM
Okay : )

My husband had an affair. He told me about it. Then I had to decide whether I was going to leave or stay. We had been together for 6 years before he had the affair. I thought NO. Im not going to throw my marriage away. I loved him very much.

It was about 6 months after that, that we decided to take our marriage into the next phase. He wanted the child and he actually brought it up to discuss. Our relationship was doing great, and I love him. So I started thinking about it too and I decided that I wanted a child too. Really if it were the other way around...it wouldnt have mattered either.

and we have been together for years now : )

I was wondering if you could give some insight into what Im wondering about though?

Why do you always think so negative about everything Sarah? 

Name: Hiddy | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 10:39 PM
And I would never try to trap a man by getting pregnant because it can backfire. You end up as a single parent....all alone : ) 

Name: Hiddy | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 11:37 PM
See my husband is a very intelligent man, he is not some unemployed moocher.... you cant trap a man like my husband : )
It would be impossible...he is just TOO smart... 

Name: sezbi | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 11:37 PM
Kind of like you did the first time around Helen? 

Name: Hiddy | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 11:44 PM
nah....I didnt want to be with that guy. That pregnancy was a huge mistake.

I mean it would have been nice if he had of stuck around and supported me through the pregnancy.... but I would have adopted the child out anyway. I was just far too young.

As I said. I would never try to trap a man...because Im too smart to know that it can backfire. I would never want to end up being a single mother with no prospects : ) 

Name: sezbi | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 11:48 PM
Its been said people who "trap there partners" with a pregnancy are always..ALWAYS the first to point the finger..

And thats what you did to me, it is out of your own guilt. Like i beleive a single word you have to say Helen, you lie almost everyday on here 

Name: Hiddy | Date: Apr 19th, 2007 11:55 PM
Sezbi, also it was probably for the best anyway. There were some positives and some negatives. The negatives being the emotional side of course over ride everything.

But I travelled the world ....twice in my twenties....I wouldnt have been able to get the awesome job I did. I probably wouldnt have been able to put a deposit on a unit when I was 30 like I did. Many good things have happened since : )

And I didnt trap my partner...Ive already explained that to you : )

Anyway....Id like to sit on babycrowd all day long...but Ive got to go for a bit...Ive got stuff to do.

Have a wonderful day Sarah : ) oh...and Olbie too : ) 

Name: Hiddy | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 12:11 AM
Oh and just one more thing Id like to add to this...

The 18 year old that I fell pregnant to when I was 15....I probably could have trapped him. His parents didnt even know and still dont know to this day that the whole thing happened. If my family had of approached his parents...and I decided to keep the baby.....Im sure that I could well have "trapped" him as you say.

HOWEVER..... it is not in my character to force someone into something they do not want to be part of. It has never been in my character and it never will be.

I have far too much self esteem than to get a partner by trapping them. I want to be with someone who actually WANTS to be with me. I think that women who do try and trap their partners have very little....if any self respect : ) 

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