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Name: Rachel G.
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My bf and I have been talking about moving in together, and I would absolutely love to live with him....but there are some things that worries me. He's a bit of a neat freak and perfectionist when it comes to housework (he cleans the entire bathroom every day, tub toilet sink and floor, washes dishes by hand, irons every article of clothing including his socks and boxers, vacumes sweeps and dusts every other day {and he is living on his own right now so really how much dust and dirt can there be???} his socks have to be lined up in a straight row in his drawer, towels have to be hung perfectly, he washes his sheets and blankets twice a week, etc. it goes on and on) so I worry about how much comprising and how many issues will arrise once we're both living in the same apartment. Have any of y'all had this problem? How did you deal with it? Any suggestions on what can be done so that we're both happy?
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Name: Been there done that | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 1:21 AM
Do you think you might want to marry him at some point? If you do, don't move in with him.
People who live together before they get married have a 87% divorce rate. Too high if you really want a marriage to work.
But then if you don't want to get married to him ever, I say go for it. If it doesn't work out you can always just move out. 

Name: Kristen | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 1:26 AM
Okay My husband is the same way! He was 38 when we married and very much set in his own ways. He even turns the spices in the cabinet the same direction and in alphabetical order. But now we have four kids and he's pretty much gotten over his freakish ways. I suggest that you move in and be happy. But don't do his laundry or any of his freakish things. Clean up after yourself and if he still wants to clean more then he can clean more himself. Don't fall into the trap of doing it for him because he'll expect it forever. Trust me I know.

Hope I helped some!
Kristen 

Name: Rachel G. | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 2:24 AM
Thanks! Yes, we have spoken of marriage quite a bit. Even discussed the topic of kids. We have other issues a bit more important than this (I'm 18 and he's 26, he's also from Britain while I'm American, location, job, family and school issues also) but those are things that I don't think any of y'all can help me with lmfao. I had asked him if I did something and he didn't find it 'good enough' if it would anger him, and he said no that he'd simply go and fix it if it bothered him, he also said that he would do both of our laundry since he has a habit of ironing every piece of clothing he has. But it still worries me. Like he says all this now, but will it last once we're together? Anyhow, thanks for y'alls input, it helps a lot! 

Name: terri | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 2:27 AM
Your husband and I are exactly the same! Infact I am now in therapy because of it. It got to the stage were my husband and kids couldnt touch anything because i would go crazy at them, seriously he threatened to leave me because he couldnt handle it anymore. Im really trying my best to be more relaxed and trying to keep to the things my therapist has told me to do but its really hard. I feel for you both! 

Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 8:38 PM
Can I borrow him to clean at my house???No ,seriously I think hes got OCD.Obsessive compulsive disorder.Anyway if you arent perfect like him,I wouldnt move in together,youll end up hating each other.Whats he say about your place when he visits?Does he nit-pick how you keep your place?Have him come and take a good look at how you keep your place on a regular basis and if he isnt happy with what he sees youve got a problem.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! 

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