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Name: mbstone

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I am a SAHM of two children age 13 and 8 years old. I have been married 18 years and have only been with my husband. Here is my moral dilemma! My husbands cousin and his wife were having marriage troubles. They are the parents of two boys age 5 and 9. The wife slept with another man and is pregnant by his as her husband has had a vasectomy. The husband is accepting of this to keep his marriage together. He is putting her up on a pedestal and has been wining and dining her with no consequences to her. They are not even going to tell their boys that he is not the father!! He even went to a jewlery shop and he offered her a $6,000 diamond ring since they "will" be married 13 years. They did not get the ring but it was the thought of it that is disgusting! They always have a big blow-out for the 4th of July. I DO NOT WANT TO GO! My husband thinks I need to embrace her and go on. I am having a hard time with this. Please give me some pros and cons on what I should do. Thanks for listening!! ↓

Name: Layne | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 7:01 PM

I think you should stay out of it. This is between the cousin and his wife. If the subject gets brought up especialy in frount of the children change the subject or move to another room. keep your feeling to yourself after all they will split up or stay together regardless of how you feel. ↑

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 7:17 PM

I agree with Layne, just stay out of it because it's really is between your cousin and his wife. He has choosen to stay with her to try and work it out for whatever reason that might be. ↑

Name: maxieellis | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 7:31 PM

The girls are correct! This is something you would never think to do i believe.. me too...I understand how it can turn your stomach. But for certain stay out of it. I dont know if I would embrace her....but I would say to myself....you made you own bed......ya know. And that goes for both of them. He is a grown adult. He has made his choice. Whatever he does is again his choice. If he is telling you all of his business....smile and tell him the right thing to do will always come to him. Something like that, and just stay out of that mess.

As for going to the blow-out.....go if you can and just stay your distance. Talk to the other relitives and just be pleasent. If the others bring it up........AGAIN stay out of the conversation. The trouble that can unfold for you and your family is not worth it. Excuse yourself and carry on.
Hope we helped?! ↑

Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 12:39 PM

I think that you should go on july 4th if she asks your opinon on it then tell her but then leave it at that,if her husband is happy to let this happen then dont worry about it. ↑

Name: nicole jones | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 8:03 PM

i think you should forgive her and move on with it. my husbands family was very accepting even when my husband and i had marriage troubles ( i moved out for a period of time ) because truth is you never know what goes on in someone elses house. There could have been things he did too.... most likely the reason he forgave her so easily. ↑

Name: Tonya | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 5:38 PM

life is made up of trial and eeror. you dont realy know what was going on in the back ground, so there must be a good reason he is forgiving and forgetting . To keep a baby thats not your is honorable, true key to heaven. So just let them handle this . we are not without sin to cast stones. are we?? ↑

Name: tammie | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 5:46 PM

stay out of it but.......what comes around goes around........and she will one day regret what she has done......and her husband might forgive her now but might not 5 or so years down the road.....he might end up having an affair on her someday, just cause he feels betrayed deep inside and thats a way to get back at her ↑