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My kids one is 13 and the other is 16 went to see a movie and a person,called them a name. They both got home and told me this and now they don't even want to go out. I realy hate all thats on the news today because it makes people do this. I don't know what to say to them,to cheer them up. Please help. the comment was or has to do with the immigration issue thats on the news today. ↓
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| Name: Amy | Date: May 6th, 2006 1:36 AM |
| I know how you feel, because people always stare at me since the issues started with immigration. I can deal with it, but when they look at my kids it hurts. I don't blame it on everyone, because Not everyone feels this way. Talk to your kids about racism and that not everyone feels this way. Let them know that nomatter what anyone says that you love them. You can email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Debra | Date: May 6th, 2006 2:10 AM |
| My sister is white and married a black man. My nephew and nieces are the most incredibly beautiful people you've ever seen. I mean it. They have the best attributes of both races. My nephew is only 3 years younger than me- and we were walking the strip in VA Beach and a cop threw him up against the wall because I asked him to hold my purse while I was fixing my sandle. I almost attacked the policeman- but my nephew held me back explaining that it happens to him all the time and to just let it go- its not worth it. I cried myself to sleep that night thinking how unfair the world is. I cannot imagine the cross my sister has had to bare for simply loving someone of a different skin color- not to mention the prejudice she has had to see her children endure. They are all successful college grads working in great companies. But I actually wonder if they were raised differently where would they have turned out. My brother in law joined the navy and had to move all the time so if it did become racial they stuck together and new they were moving soon so took it. I often wonder what about the poor people that were stuck in that town. What ever became of them? ↑ |
| Name: Maxie | Date: May 6th, 2006 3:18 PM |
Im white and please tell your children that indeed not every white person thinks the same way some very ignorant people happen to. I am so sad that your family (or any other) for that matter ever has to endure that bs! It has gone on since the begining of time and not one generation has gotten any better at living side by each than the next. What that says, is it regardless of the news reals... is never going to end. Ever.
Your children ... tell them as I am sure you have...that they must be above these idiots...and treat their comments like they came for a child of three years old. Simply ignorant. To go on with their hopes and dreams because they deserve to obtain them. And please add, that this is not the view of every white person on the earth. Certainly not this white person!
When I was in school I was overweight (a lot). I was teased beyond sometimes what I believed I could take. Weight is not skin color..but it was for me what they saw diffrent and let me know it. My mother bless her heart...held me through my tears continued to tell me about her love for me ... and told me that ignorance is posion and it spreads. There will never be a way to stop people form this type of behavior. To ignore the ignorance. It is the nature of their character. We will all one day be judged on that basis. Carry on with your hopes and desires for your future and let no comment change the coure of those dreams. If you hold tight to that you will have victory...and one day look back and thank those who helped you become strong and victorious. ... She was correct.
No it wasnt easy...but I held close the things she said to me...and every dream and desire for my life I found... I did obtained victory. I look back on those fools and do thank them ... for if not for their ignorant ways and unkindness...I likely may not have realized how very strong a person I am and that dispite their comments I did what I wanted to do. Many of them have died..had married young and found themselves without support and children some have become addicts and some still work at a post that hasnt change much in over 25 years. That is what has become of the 'I am better than you..and oh so cool and so in' lot of individuals.
I feel your sadness and that of your children. My experience is again, not skin color but the hurt was the same. I hope sad mom that your children may have the strength to overcome others ignorance. I will pray God gives that to them and gives you peace in knowing others pray for your family.
God bless
Maxie ↑ |
| Name: Maxie | Date: May 6th, 2006 3:39 PM |
| Just something i thought about.... Martin L. King once said in the "I have a dream" speach................ "I have a dream that one day my children will be judged not on the color of their skin...but the content of their character." Hold tight to that.....truer words have never been spoken. We will all be judged on that at our end day. That is in part where I got my hope from also. I have never forgotten and so greatful those words are part of history. They remind us all regardless of our diffrences just where the truth lies. ↑ |
| Name: Lili | Date: May 8th, 2006 1:27 PM |
| I am am white and my husband is hispanic, we have 2 beautiful little girls and my herart goes out to you because I can not even imagine how awful this must be for you guys. just hearing it makes my blood boil! Tell your kids that people who are jealous of others feel threatened and need to put them down inorder to make them feel small somehow so that they can feel better about themselves. Tell them that it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with the ignorance and insecurity of the other people. ↑ |
| Name: very sad mom | Date: May 9th, 2006 5:19 PM |
Thank you every one for your kind comments and great advice I am very sad about this though because thanks to this media attention things have gotten wors and well I have lived in the states for 12 years and came here ligal but i had never seen anything like this. Its just sad how our goverments won't do anything for us. its just sad how even our kids have to suffer and hurt from all of this. My kids are US citizens and they felt like many of us feel. I don't know what will hold for my kids future because right now its not secure any more. I just imagine the tought of having to live in my country and it scares me. 1 because i am afraid that my kids will end up getting kidnaped or murder for organ traficking and 2 their future. doctors from our countrys, certified with valid licence are working here at construction sites because they etheir don't have any whear to work or the pay is very little .
If we live and we provably will have to since my husband is illigal then we won't even have a place to live. My kids don't know any thing about our history and they can't even speak spanish right. much less they don't know how to read or write in spanish. I personally find it very frustrating because its just going to separated families. When I came here I was a very little child My mom was a single parent and she had worked all her life since she was 8 years old and she brought my sister and me with her. She was the only way to income in our house WE were 7 my grandfather who was to sick and was concidered to oldto work, my sister who had also been working since age 8 helping neighbors do choirs or grocerys,my adopted cousin, my ant who was my uncles wife, my uncle who worked day and night to help put food on the table and me. My uncle got paid very little and my mom always paid mwdical expences for grandaddy and well my sister got paid enough to not even be able to afford a pencil for chool in a whole month. the only way was heading north. we didjust like the rest of the 20million that are here. As I am writing this tears fall from my eyes because its very unfair all thats happening and the worst part is that our childrens future is at stake. I di too worked very young but even this is even more sad. My mom hand auncle and aunt were the house hold income but it wasn't enough. my sister ended getting raped by the people who took care of us at night so that our family can work . Thank GOD that we manage to put everything behaind and well night mares still occur but its something that leaves a scar for ever and now this.
Thankyou for understanding aand showing that theres still people with feelings in this world. I hope that this has a good out come because many children depend on it me ,well I have already live and know whats life about ,and I thank GOD.,but6 my children are just getting started. Thank you for your kindness ↑ |
| Name: jovan | Date: May 10th, 2006 1:49 PM |
| omg! i hate racist people. let ur children know that they are beautiful!!!!!! what race are you? not that it matters, but i just want to know? me? i'm black and proud of it. ↑ |
| Name: very sad mom | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:43 PM |
| hispanic and proud to be ↑ |
| Name: jovan | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:49 PM |
| really?! u must be beautiful!!! my grandma was half hispanic and black. ↑ |
| Name: Debra | Date: May 11th, 2006 2:53 AM |
Why don't you relocate. I would just move. I wouldn't care if I had to walk. There are better places in this country. You need to find a place that is safe. You may think where you are living is like that everywhere- but its not. I live in Upstate New York and there are some racial undertones- but nothing like it seems to be in the south.
Its funny- in college I took a course on the Civil War, and there was this girl from the south in my class. She brought in her social studies book from high school. It literally talked about how the south really did win, and how bad people were from the north. It justified thier needs for slavery as a means for making a living- and actually stated that most slaves didn't leave once they were freed because they were treated "so well". It was amazing. I mean this girl really thought these things because of how she was raised and educated.
When these seeds are planted so early- its hard to undo. If she had continued to live in her small southern town she would have never realized anything different. I guess thats when you have to really trust in your own moral values and second guess your own prejudisms.
when I waitressed while going to college the peope that I would wait on that I would think wouldn't leave me a big tip- were usually the ones that left me the most. And the ones that you would think should know better- usually didn't.
Please know there are places in this country that would embrace you. I guess with this new era of terrorism on our homeland- everyone's guard is up. The terrorist looked like any of us- they were educated, intelligent- all working in this country. It makes it a bit more scarey to trust anyone- possibly this is why you are sensing so much animosity. Not everyone is this way- but try to grasp it and understand where they are coming from- and maybe- just maybe they cycle of hating each other will end.
My Dad disowned my sister years ago. He died never reconciling with her. Now that I'm a mother I could never understand how he could do that. I could never disown my own child- or grandchildren. Again in college I took another class on schools and segregation. I realized- that like that girl was mislead- the schools that my father attending taught them that black people were biologically different than whites. In fact the professor passed around an illustration of Time magazine where scientists concluded that the size of a brain of a black person was smaller than that of whites. They also concluded that if schools became mixed the education level of whites would be slowed down considerably in order to maintain an equalibrium in the classroom. Parents became concerned for that basis and protested. I just thought they were racist- but now I see they were mislead into believing it was going to hinder the future of their children. I also learned of the racial tensions that existed during WW2. Apparently, when my father was in the navy- he only saw a "bad side" of blacks. There was consistent racial tension between the two races which caused him to truly fear what would happen to his "little girl" if she married a black.
Although he was so wrong- it helped me to feel less hate for him, and at least understand that he had this "seed" planted in him and he was judging and acting out of fear rather than love. Its just hard to imagine the magnificance of circumstance that would lead him to chose to be a racist- instead of loving his own flesh and blood. There must have been some very bad things that happened to him- and he must have been really educated wrong.
As I have to come to a sort of peace with my dad- maybe you could come to some sort of peace in your heart for these people that are so wrong. You don't know what they have experienced or learned that could make them so hateful- but try not to lower yourself to their level. You can't fight hate with hate- love is a much stronger weapon. Good Luck and you and your family are in my prayers "very sad mom"! ↑ |
| Name: Jenna | Date: May 11th, 2006 3:25 PM |
| Sorry,I can't or rather shouldn't answer this one. ↑ |
| Name: very sad mom | Date: May 12th, 2006 3:55 AM |
| Thanks every body for your kindness thank you very much this has helped out a lot specially to know we are not alone ↑ |
| Name: sally | Date: May 12th, 2006 8:26 AM |
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