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Are there any young moms out there with more than 4 children. Or maybe you are trying to have more childen ↓
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| Name: lisa | Date: Jan 3rd, 2006 9:45 PM |
| Hi, i'm 20 with 4 kids and I want MORE!!! ↑ |
| Name: Rian | Date: Jan 3rd, 2006 10:12 PM |
| my hubby and I have three but want another one in about a yr. or so. I just had number 3, so I do need to wait a little bit. Can I post here? Or were you just wanting those that already have four. Sorry if I butted into the wrong spot. ↑ |
| Name: stephanie | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 2:38 AM |
| i am 21 and have 2 year old twins. we are going to try for more in the next year. i'm sure i will have 4 and be done by the time i am 28! how old are your 4? ↑ |
| Name: nikki | Date: Jan 8th, 2006 5:30 PM |
| Hi, Stephanie. I'm 24 and i also have 2 year old twin boys. My other children are 7, 5 and the baby just turned 1. I would like to have at least two more children before i turn 30. ↑ |
| Name: to nikki | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 12:01 AM |
| you really want to have 7 children? wow, thats amazing good luck with that. ↑ |
| Name: stephanie | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 2:05 AM |
| that is really great. your older 2 must help alot with the twins and baby. my twins are so much work right now. i think it will be a while until i have more. your husband must make a lot of money to be able to support 5 kids, and someday 7. you must be very blessed to be financially able to have 7 children. good luck! ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 2:07 AM |
| hi. I'm 24 and I have 2 kids. I want one more, but I'm afarid that I can't afford it. I live in an aprtment with my hubby and kids. I feel like we are lacking space. I want a house, but it seems impossible. Does anyone else feel this way. I love my babies and want another, but I can't fit anymore in this home. I feel like my family in incomplete. ↑ |
| Name: to lori | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 2:22 PM |
| I am 23 and just had #3 not too long ago (would love to be pregnant with # 4 by next July), we were in a 2 bed duplex, and right before the baby came, we were able to buy an older home. Our mortgage is so much cheaper than rent (of course there are other obligations though), you should consider looking into buying & just see where you are at.. If you are not able to buy now, maybe next year, it's nice to know where you stand. ↑ |
| Name: To Stephanie | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 3:38 PM |
| My husband and I are not wealthy but we both work. I go to school and work at night. I husband works during the day. We also have alot of family support. It's hard work but having children is so wonderful. I do want more children but not for a couple of more years. ↑ |
| Name: Amanda | Date: Jan 21st, 2006 8:07 PM |
| god no, i only have a one year old and i'm 25. i didn't even want one let alone 4. ↑ |
| Name: lonely | Date: Jan 22nd, 2006 5:53 AM |
| hi, i'm 24 i got 2 kids and pregnant with third, i always wanted to have 4 kids 2 boys and 2 girls, but its not easy, financially and when u have probs with husband, plus having babies very often is not good for your health, and u need to raise them all to become good human beings. So if one has the money, good husband and in good health then go on. ↑ |
| Name: Luke | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 7:42 PM |
| Name: hopkin | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 10:20 PM |
| Name: Charmaine | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 5:17 AM |
Hi, I'm 20 having our 4th child in may-june (due july 6th).
if anyone would like to chat my msn/email is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: moody | Date: Feb 2nd, 2006 3:47 PM |
| Im 27 and I have four boys 7,6,4,3 and one girl 6 (yes twins and yes we are done now) ↑ |
| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 4:06 AM |
| I'm just over 30 and have 5 kids. I'm done, not going to have any more, mostly because I'm afraid of the increased risk of problems with the baby as I get older. I've been blessed with 5 healthy kids, don't want to mess that up now. My biggest surprise that I get about having 5 kids is other people's reactions to this. It's as if I'm telling them that I have 2 heads! ↑ |
| Name: Good for you | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 4:22 AM |
| My husband and I have been together for 15 years (married for 14), and we can't even have one child let alone 4 or more. We'd probably have a house full too. I hope you truly appreciate your children and remember to love them because they're perfectly who they are. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Feb 8th, 2006 6:42 PM |
| I am 28 and i just had twin girls, so that put me at 4 kids, i have 1 lonely 9 year old son, and 3 daughters, ages 2, and 8 weeks, we dont want any more kids at all. we live in a 3 bedroom duplex, and we are looking for at least a 4 bedroom house or duplex. its tough. ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 9:33 PM |
| I was wondering how you guys make ends meet being so young and having so many kids. I am genuinly curious, i am not so young and have two and we live check to check, any ideas?? ↑ |
| Name: bridget | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 5:42 AM |
| I would like to speak on this topic. I have 6 childred and I am going to be 26 real soon. I am thinking about having 10 my mother had 10 and my grandmother had 12. We were raised in a very big family. ↑ |
| Name: Angela G. | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 6:41 AM |
Agnes,
I know EXACTLY what your talking about! I'm 28 and have 5.
2 boys 11 and 10 years and 3 girls 8, 4 and our baby is going to be 8 months old SOON. They grow so quick. People look at us like we are weird All the time! I wouldn't change it for the world though!!! LOL
Lili,
IT IS SO HARD!!! We own a trucking company, after taxes and expenses we bring in 56,000.00 at the most and 36,000.00 at the least. We live check to check too, but we also borrow against the money we have coming to us.............it's so very confusing! Also we know some VERY nice people, they give us some unbelievable breaks! We pay for our own.....just a tad bit late in some cases. ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 12:14 AM |
You make 56Kand can support all those kids, please tell me how! We make 52K, have 2 kids and are struggling. I worked full time for almost a year. My husband had gotten laid off but after 4 months he had a job again and I decided to keep working to save money since his mom was near by and could watch the kids. I quit after almost a year because she moved away again and I did not trust a stranger with my babies. Anyway, all the money I saved went to pay pre-school and kindergarten at a Catholic school. Now we have no savings and thankfully I found an excellent Charter school that I will be putting the eldest one in for 1st grade, the youngest I will have to pay for pre-k since the charter school has no pre-k and I do not want her to be cheated out of the great experience her sister had. The day I told her teacher I would be taking her out of private school, I went home and cried.
I honestly do not know what it is I am doing wrong.... We do not own a new car, it's a '96 piece of crap. We do not go out all the time, I cook everyday. Our rent for a NY apartment is reasonable. Is there something I could be doing different?
Once they both attend the charter school, I hope to start work part-time so I can start saving for highschool tutions. I have been so stressed out with all this that even now writing this I feel like crying. I want my kids to have the best and to me that does not mean toys and clothes because I know all too well that crap is temporary but an education is forever . I just never imagined it would be this hard. ↑ |
| Name: nikki | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 5:29 PM |
No one said that its not hard having alot of children.
But as a mother it is our job to love and take care of our children.
I work full time and I go to nursing school full time, and my husbands also works.
As for being a young mother it is much easier.
Did you all see that 62 year old woman who just had a baby? How is she going to take of a baby with her old a**? ↑ |
| Name: ann | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 5:42 PM |
| We have 4 children 11,10,8,and6. We make about 35k and have a $1000 mortgage, but our cars are paid off.. I am able to stay home because we cut every want from our lives. No cable, no eating out, no credit cards, etc. It is hard sometimes when I feel like i should be able to take a trip or buy something that I really want, but we go camping for vacations to save money and I have a small fund in a drawer for myself so that I can buy things occasionaly that I want. It is worth it for me to be able to be with my kids whenever and wherever they need me. When they are out of the house I will be able to work again, have spending money, and have no regrets about the way my children were raised. ↑ |
| Name: melissa | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 6:25 PM |
| my name is meliss i am 21 and i have two babies, i am looking for young moms my age to talk to, if you like you could e-mail at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 12:08 AM |
| what state do you live in? ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 4:03 AM |
| I was asking Ann what state she lived in out of curiosity because your mortgage is less than my rent! ↑ |
| Name: Angela G. | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 9:33 AM |
Lili,
OMG.....Your rent is over $1000.00 for an apartment!?! No wonder your struggling hun! I live here in Nevada and we pay $775.00 for a 3 bdrm mobile home, grant it, our place is a piece of you know what, but after we get things squared away with IRS we will start buying a decent house and our payments will run anywhere between 800. and 1000. and that is for a 4 or 5 bedroom house and if we really want to get fancy it would be around 1450.00.....but we don't need anything like that. I know NY is a tad bit spender, but wow!
"I honestly do not know what it is I am doing wrong.... We do not own a new car, it's a '96 piece of crap. We do not go out all the time, I cook everyday. Our rent for a NY apartment is reasonable. Is there something I could be doing different?"
It's not that your doing anything wrong........it seems like the cost of living there is high. Is there anyway you can try to find another place for a tad cheaper? I couldn't imagine paying over 1000 for an apartment! Here a 4 or 5 bedroom apt is around 800 and like 1250 if you want something really fancy. When we were just starting out in a 2 bedroom apt it was only 525.00 a month.
I'm sorry you had to take the kids out of Catholic school, my sil had to do the same thing with my nephews and it really tore her apart. We are lucky to be zoned for a REALLY good public school here, we are going to have another kid, (that makes 5), in school this coming year, so now school supplies and clothes alone are going to be well over 1000 at the start of the school year and thats just the beginning!
I know it's hard, but try not to stress yourself sweetie, from seeing what you wrote, you all have done a darn good job of it!
I wish I could have gave you some good advice, but honestly I have no clue what so ever, I'm sorry.
Keep your chin up, take care and God bless! ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 3:25 PM |
| Thank you so much for your words Angela. ↑ |
| Name: Deb | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 4:07 PM |
Lilli- the standard of living sounds much higher where you live- but I also wanted to bring up the point of "public schools" vs. "catholic schools". Where we live, upstate new york, you don't have to lock your doors at night, the neighbors watch out for your kids when they are out playing, and public schools aren't the greatest- but they also aren't the worst either. Infact, my 4 year old is attending pre-school at first presbytarian church- which is actually affiliated with the school district and doesn't impose any kind of religion on them while their there. The school is seperate from the church. Anyways- I contemplated enrolling my daughter in a preschool catholic school for next year- because she is a very young four year old and the teacher recommended it. The teacher of the preschool she is in now talked me out of enrolling her in a catholic school because she said they are so strict and disciplined that it will taint my daughter's image of school and will make her not want to go.
I guess my point is if you live in an area that is more within your means- it doesn't necessarily mean you would be doing something bad for your children. The neighbors around here have been here for 15-20 years. Its safe. I have incredible peace of mind when my children are out playing. We all watch out for eachother and keep tabs on everyone's children.
On the other hand my son is a struggling eleven year old- who I am now contemplating putting into catholic school just for his middle school years. I think he needs the discipline- and we have had to move to 3 school districts in his lifetime so I don't think its a reflection upon the public school district as much as its a reflection upon us a parents. I think he has had to spend so much time getting to know kids and make friends that he let his focus of school drop. I blame myself for his inadequancies. In addition I was a single parent with my son until he was 5 so he was thrown from daycare provider to daycare provider because I had to work. I mostly blame myself for his failures- although my husband says I'm too hard on myself. Thankfully- when I married my knight in shining armor-I was able to stay home with him and have more children. Slowly my son has adjusted to all these changes and only now do I think he is able to finally see we are not going anywhere and we are not sending him to daycare.
He got so upset when I decided to go back to work part time to try to make ends meet. He was more upset over the fact that his sisters would have to go to daycare. When he realized I was going around my husbands hours then he settled down.
Well, I went off on a tanget again- but I guess what I'm trying to tell you lilli is there are places out there that are cheaper and safe- if you go to www.realtors.com you can select a city and state that gives you a list of houses- then it gives you a report at the public school system is rated and how the community is graded by the residents. I found it when we were looking for a house. Hope it helps. ↑ |
| Name: lili | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 8:55 PM |
Deb, The public schools where I live are very good according to insideschools.org, but when I went to visit the "good ones", they did not measure up. I am thankful that this Charter school was started so that I now have a real choice. In regards to moving, I am concerned that if the homes or rents are less it will be the same with the salaries, which in the end makes it all the same again. My sister in law bought a house in Greenwood lake because it was more affordable and good schools. Her house is a mansion compared to anything you would buy where I amwith that money, but she travels a combined six hours a day back and forth to work, most workdays she stays at her moms house which is near us and only 15 minutes to the city. She basically hardly gets to see her kids, so she can have that home.
My husband and I talk about leaving NY, but I want to make sure if I uproot everyone it is for a better life and not for the idea of a better life. I suppose we need to visit a few places first. I was born an draised here and I always dreamed of raising my kids here too, becasue I do love this city but it just gets harder and harder to survive if you are in the middle class sector. ↑ |
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