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Name: E
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There's the thing. Before we have any children my hubby and I would agree that children needed discipline. He and I were appaled that some kids had little resistance or leadership from their parents and were growing up brats. Now we have an almost 3 year old. The last year, Of Course, has been full of demonstrations of her growing independence. I am a believer in the "naughty chair" method as seen at Supernanny - it works! The problem is with my husband. He can't stand crying, gets almost white and though he doesn't say anything, I can feel his quiet disapproval. In those moments I feel that he wants me to pick her up and comfort and wipe away her tears. I know that I am working at her behavioural problem at that moment, no matter what tool she tries to employ (crying, screaming), and I tried to explain that to the hubby. He gets it, but the next time it's all over again - he tenses up, and I feel like I am a villain. At least he doesn't interfere LOL but the atmosphere between us always gets worse after such incidents, which I don't like. What do you do /have you done to arrive your spouse to the same level of understanding? Thanks.
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Name: Debra | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 1:26 AM
We both do the naughty spot and I LOVE IT!! It really does work ONLY if you do it together. If one is not consistent it doesn't work. Its so much better than screaming your lungs out at them or hitting them!!! He has got to understand that kids need discipline and boundaries. Its a way to make them feel love too! Especially when you get down to their level and tell them what they've done wrong and then tell them you still love them and hug them! 

Name: E | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 1:32 AM
He gets it in his mind, but when it comes down to it, he can't stand it. If it was up to him, the daughter would bend him around her little finger. I just don't want it to be a problem BETWEEN US, instead of a problem between us parents and the children. 

Name: xalia | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 7:55 PM
Since you know that he may not approve, try asking him what he suggests then try to compromise. If he does not like the naughty chair(which I love!!) try a little towel in the middle of the living room for however long - no moving from that towel until time is up. 

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