There's the thing. Before we have any children my hubby and I would agree that children needed discipline. He and I were appaled that some kids had little resistance or leadership from their parents and were growing up brats. Now we have an almost 3 year old. The last year, Of Course, has been full of demonstrations of her growing independence. I am a believer in the "naughty chair" method as seen at Supernanny - it works! The problem is with my husband. He can't stand crying, gets almost white and though he doesn't say anything, I can feel his quiet disapproval. In those moments I feel that he wants me to pick her up and comfort and wipe away her tears. I know that I am working at her behavioural problem at that moment, no matter what tool she tries to employ (crying, screaming), and I tried to explain that to the hubby. He gets it, but the next time it's all over again - he tenses up, and I feel like I am a villain. At least he doesn't interfere LOL but the atmosphere between us always gets worse after such incidents, which I don't like. What do you do /have you done to arrive your spouse to the same level of understanding? Thanks. ↓
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