|Hi we lived with my parents for a year,we moved out when our little boy was 6 months.|
It worked out ok and my folks and my other half got on really well!My mum and me used to share the housework and cooking,and my husband and dad used to share the gardening and any household repairs that needed doing.
We had help with our son when he was born which was great! ↑
|i will feel my privacy is gone.my inimate life will be gone too. ↑|
|If your inlaws are understanding people then they will relise that you need your space to be a family you say that you are moving into the basement well it sounds like you will have your own space and it will be worth it in the long run! ↑|
|i have 5 kids soon to be 6 so a small basement isn't great not enough room.there is only 3 bedrooms it will suck.his mom is a nosy old bag sometimes. ↑|
|I dont mean to sound rude but your inlaws are offering a roof over your haed you should be grateful it may only be for a short while! ↑|
|Why do you HAVE TO live with his parents? Can't you rent someplace? A rinky dink apartment of your own would be better than living with the in-laws I would think. If you don't care for them now your really going to dislike them once you're living under their roof! Here's a better idea,you go live with your parents and he can go live with his parents until you can get a place of your own again and either take all the kids with you or divide them up between you and your husband until you can all live together again. I'd be worried that once you got situated at his parents house,you'd be stuck there permanently!! I would'nt go if I were you. I'd find any place but that! ↑|
|To Lizze it is all very well saying all of that,but if she is not carefull she will end uo with no where to live,we are luckey here in the uk as we have housing asscations who provide us with housing you have to wait about a year but it is worth it in the end.|
I dont know of you have anything like that in the usa. ↑
|I lived with my fiancees mom till i was 9 months pregnant. (about 1 and a half.) I HATED IT TOO!!!! She has a 13 year old daughter that I "helped" out with. I took her to school and picked her up and made sure she was all right. The girl drove me nuts because she wouldn't listen to me when she had to do chores and only would listen to my fiancee or her mom. In the beginning we lived in a basement too(we all moved about a year after living together somewhere else) and i honestly stayed in the basement unless I needed to cook dinner or do the dishes or something. We had a tv and a computer and a bathroom downstairs so it was our own place kinda. |
Yes she is generous for letting us live there since we were just getting started but it is so nice to live on our own. My mom bought us a trailer(I know it sounds trailer trash but it is nice) and it is our place.
I hope you find a place of your own or work something out. ↑
I'm so sorry for you :(
We stayed with my in-laws while we moved (3 weeks). We now live 3 miles from them... so I understand what you are feeling.
You have your own way of doing thing, & she has hers. As long as you are in her house she will have a say in what goes on. It will be very hard on your private life, since you realy won't have any privacy. Not to mention husbands revert back to being momma's boys when they are around their moms too long.
I don't know how your mother in-law is, but mine is very manipulative. My husband has more "honney-do" projects at her house than he does at his own. It she had her way, she would have my husband over at her place from the time he got off of work until it was time for him to go to bed. She doesn't comprehend that the needs of his wife & child come first, & that she has to take second place now. She will pop by unannounced & then make a comment about the cleanliness of the house. She makes comments while you are doing something (ie, feeding the baby), about how she use to do it a much better way... of course. She really goes out of her way to make all 5 of her daughter-in-laws feel inadequate. I have had other Daugther-in-laws comment that they could never live so close to her, & they don't know how I do it (they all live 6-12 hrs way).
I hope your mother-in-law is not as bad as mine.
Be greatful you have a place to stay, but make it clear to your husband that you will be moving out of there ASAP.
Good luck ↑