First - it is not HORRIBLE that you want to have kids at your age - you've likey wanted them since you were little - playing with baby dolls, day dreaming about your fairytale wedding day - thats a normal, natrual thing for you to desire.
I became pregnant at 20, though it was not exactly a planned situation. 12+ years later the things I wanted when I was 20 are not nearly as important to me now - including the "one I thought I was meant to be with". My concern for you would be that you have not really DATED - you don't know what you want - if at 19 you've dated the same guy for several years, you couldn't possibly know - you might think you do, but trust me when I say tht you'll look back in the future and say - what was I THINKING??? I struggled for years as a single mom and then met the man who is now my husband and I couldn't be happier...
That does not mean you won't be happy - or that I think you should end your relationship - my cousin became pregnant at 16, got mrried at 17 and has a picture perfect marriage with 3 kids and they have been married for 20 years - but their story is really an exception and their life hasn't been easy.
You asked for some advice - mine to you would be to hang tight a while - figure out who you are and what you really want before you start a family - once you begin that process it is easy to lose time to be able to figure that out. Hope this helps - Heather ↑ |