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Name: charla | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:19 PM
RAIN IM NOT LAYNE BUT IM HERE. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:35 PM
My husband had his interview yesterday; he then was taken out to lunch by the VP. The word is my husband was the first applicant they took out to eat. So things are looking very good for him. I am so happy for him. I have been excited about this. I have told you, I have only moved once in my life before this. I lived on family land my whole life. It was like pulling teeth for my husband to get me to move here. I like it, and have gotten used to a much different environment than I came from. Country to city. Well suburbs I guess, still all the city to us bumpkins. I am now ok with moving. I found out it was not the monster I thought it would be. And the new place is some of the most beautiful country in this state. I really am happy ya'll. But, I phased out most of my students last year. They were Adhd, and they did great! The moms learned all I had to teach them. We are all still in contact, but it sometimes comes to a point where it is all great, and I hand the reigns back over. I work myself out of jobs, LOL. I am proud of this. But I have one student who has autism. I have been with him for six years. I plan to be with him until he graduates high school, then he can come when he needs me. Now it looks like this may really happen. This little boy is like one of my own. I am so sad. WE are thinking of ways to handle this, my husband said he would fly me in every two weeks, or we can video conference. Sorry, to whine girls, I just need a shoulder; I am getting closer to the point where I may have to tell him I am leaving. My heart is breaking. I do not want my husband to see how sad I am. He said in the beginning if this was a problem we would all stay. You see, that is how my husband is, always putting us first. So, no, this one time we will all stand beside him, and go where he goes, put him first for once. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:36 PM
Hey Charla, sorry, I am always the strong one, I always seem to know what to do, but I am so sad today. I will miss him so much. 

Name: lindalu | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:48 PM
Rain, that is so sad. Cant you keep in contact with him after you leave? I know it isnt the same as beeing ther and seeing him. Some times we all have to make sacrafices for gains. In any event I hope it all works out...I think it will, these kind of thing always do. 

Name: charla | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:48 PM
rain, this very hard i understand. i had to move away from my brother {the one with downs} and it was so heartbreaking for me i still dont think we are as close as we would have been if i had stayed and that hurts!!! would thid little guy understand about you moving? or would it be one of those things that would just go over his head until it happened? this is a hard one i just dont know if your hubby is willing to fly you out every two weeks than that might just have to work that way. im sorry that you have to go through this it is tough i understand when you say he is like your own, so that makes it that much harder. i wish that i could just give you an answer that could make it all better, but ubfortunitly i have none other than to comfort you with my words inwhich im not sure im doing a good job of that but am trying. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:01 PM
Lindalu and Charla,
Thanks guys, no, it helps, I guess I need to get the cry out, and toughen up before hubby gets home. He is very high functioning, yes; he will know what is means. Oh, yes, that must have been so hard to leave your brother. I have spoken to his mom, and she is very supportive, she is happy for us, but I did see her begin to panic a little yesterday as it began to set in. I asked them if they would consider moving also, and I think she is looking at houses. LOL. She said buy a big house with a guest room. But she has family here. My husband is looking at houses and neighborhoods as we speak. OHHHHHHHH, I will have to get accustomed to the split. I think it may be hard because I never really left anyone behind before. 


Name: charla | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:10 PM
well rain just explain to him that matthew mcaunahey will be there and then he will understand. and you shouldnt look at it as leaving someone behind but as gaining a naked bongo playing nieghbor {a hot one at that !!!} sorry i just couldnt resist!!! im sending a ((((((((hug))))))))) 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:22 PM
I don't really have an answer for you and I wish I could. I am sure if feels as if you are leaving you own children behind which is difficult because no one wants to have to do this.

I had always told my husband that when it came to his job I am 100% beside him no matter where it takes us. But every time he talks about moving to a different state my heart drops because my life is here, I don't know anything but here. Last night my husband came to be because he found an IT directs position opening about 1 hour and 20 minutes from home. Again I told him if this is something that he is interested in and thinks that it will better then family then I am behind him. For awhile of course he will commute but eventually we will move. I am not sure I am ready to move to a big city (they actually scare me). The distants from my family also scares me a little since I am use to seeing my mother and my sister every days. I watch my nephew everyday. And I think that I will be crushed if I had to move. But at the same time I could not see my husband having to commute month after month just so that I am comfortable. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:38 PM
That is what I needed Charla, rotflmao 

Name: Serina S | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:41 PM
Dear Rain
I am so sorry ! Iknow who much you must be hurting. I hope you will be able to vist him often and email him . Ya know you could both get web cams & mic so you could actually see and talk to eachother . My friend does this with her nieces.
I am sure the new place will have kids for you to help. I know staring over is very hard.
I am going to be moving soon. I have lived in my area since I was in 5th grade..big change. We are looking at houses that will be 1 hour +away from My mother now 20 min. ,add 1 hour an normaly 3 hr ride to my sister and Make my other sister house about 8 hr away!!! I know it does not sound like alot but I try and see my mother 2 times a week or more if I can. That ride will be hard on my back.
You know they say one door opens and another closes..but ony if you want . I know you will keep the lines of communications open.
I wish I could do somthing to help!!! I am sending you a huge HUG!!!!! 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:48 PM
Thank you Ethansmom, that helps. This company is FANCYYYYY! SMANCCY! And he will be taken well care of. I can’t wait to see that, and I will get new students. But I will always be in contact with my little one here. I will advice mom via E-mail and phone calls. Plus he calls me every couple of days, besides our sessions. 

Name: charla | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:58 PM
rain he sounds like a wonderful little boy, you must be proud of him!!!! i cross my fingers trhat your hubby comes home with wonderful news which im sure he will!!! 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:10 PM
Serina thank you. This will be a little over 3 hours away, not bad. And everyone wants to visit us. I think the video conferencing will help. If we can have sessions that way, it will be great; we will just have to try. I am so sorry I was whiny today. I think that was coming on for about a week, plus he was here yesterday, and being really cute. My husband just called, he is happy, and looking at houses. They are cheaper up there, so we can afford a 4 bedroom. We need an office and rooms for the kids. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:11 PM
Charla, If we move, I will have to now run around like a nut, and get a picture of Matthew, just hope I dont wind up in the news. 

Name: charla | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:12 PM
well CONGRAGULATIONS!!!! 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:13 PM
Thank you all for the hugs and kind word, i feel better now. Just had to let it out. Plus hearing how happy my hubby was on the phone. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:18 PM
This forum renews my faith in humanity everytime I come here. How lucky to have met so many great women in one place. You should all pat yourselves on the back today. 

Name: Layne | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:18 PM
Hi girls i was on earlier but had a messy kitchen that i saved for today. Isnt it wonderful!!!
rain- maybe you can start out flying back to see the child and ween yourself away. Im not going to tell you moves are easy because Im still having moments where i wish we were still in Nebraska. I know it wont be the same either. Going back i mean. People like us that passionate(spelling) about life and have head strong convictions tend to really take alot to heart. So when we do worry it is usally with reason. I have my share of advice but then cave when something is really bugging me. I guess now we know we are all human. That is why i value the friends i have made here. Great Ladies to lean on. 

Name: Layne | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:32 PM
oh and I forgot you are one at the top of my list!!! :) 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:33 PM
I'm actually hoping that if he does go for this job that he'll get it. The money will be better so even with the commute we will be better off. We'll be able to pay off our debt quicker and then we'll discuss selling out house. I think what scares me the most is that I am a SAHM so making new friends in my area might be hard. If it's meant to be then it will happen and I know in the end everything will work out. I think no matter what the situation is picking up and moving away rather it be to another state or just a couple of hours away you feel like you are leaving someone or something behind. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:35 PM
Layne,
I knew you had moved, so I knew you would understand the panic I felt this morning about leaving someone I truly love. And yes I feel the same; I am so passionate about my work and my emotions, and life. Thanks again. I am taking my daughter out to lunch.
Charla, I went to the movies last night-told you about it on my favorites.
Ya’ll take care. I am grateful for the support. 

Name: charla | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:38 PM
well rain look at it this way if your to busy running around getting that pisture you wont have time to be sad see how matthew just makes life better!!! he is like a healer and doesnt even know it, wink wink!!! 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:43 PM
Wow that was just out of the ordinary for my son. He had pooped in his pull-up and told me that he did it. He got me the wipes and I was about to lay him down to clean him off when he told me that he wanted to use the potty. So we went into the bathroom, took off his pull-up and he sat on his potty. After that he wanted to help wipe himself off. Usually changing him is like pulling teeth. 

Name: Serina S | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:47 PM
Make sure hubby looks for the closets & storge space.Not a priority to most men.ALso tell him to check under the rugs in a corner to see if they are hard wood floor under it..always nice to know. I hope he finds something great for you all!!!
Blessings to you and much sucess!!!!! 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 4:56 PM
I don't think most men understand how important storage & closet space is. When we purchased our home I pretty much got everything that I didn't want and I was extremely upset and still am about my kitchen. There is literally no storage in my kitchen. I have enough room for my dishes and then food. Everything else is in a wardrobe in my son's playroom. 

Name: Layne | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 8:13 PM
Hope you have a good lunch with your daughter.
im sure you will get involved where ever you live that will help alot. 

Name: rain | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 8:48 PM
Hey, I’m back, we had a nice brunch, then went shopping; we went to a shop I love. It is all donated items, and the proceeds go to the women’s shelter. I found a neat looking old purse; it is a wooden box, with a 3-d picture in the front behind glass. It looks like a dickens scene. The artists name is printed at the bottom. I paid $10 for it. Looked it up on e-bay and found one with a slightly different picture for$129.00. Ha! That was fun.
LOL as usual Charla, I will at least have a mission apron getting to my new destination. I for see my new friends to be security guards, police detectives, and star magazine reporters.
Ethansmom, that is awesome about the poop! You should have a big poop party! Congrats!
Well he is looking at areas and houses for ideas where to live. I will be the one to pick the house, but that will be another story. When I go with him, I will have all of you post what I should look for. I don’t have a great deal of experience with that either.
As far as the business goes, Yep, I may have to advertise, and I hate that. All of my work here was word of mouth. I have to interview parents, and there is a lot involved in this business.
Thanks Layne, I do feel better. I remembered someone today that helped train me years ago. I will try to find her, and see if she would be interested in me training her now. LOL. She would be great with him. That took a load off my mind. I will always see him, and call him, but he needs someone good, every week. 

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