I guess maybe I did want some alone time with my baby girl. But Im wondering if that was bscause my son is adhd and he was going through the terrible twos at the time We brought katie home. But later I kinda resented michael because he became such a handful and I was exhausted. Now that they are older 9 and 11 I try and spend more one on one time with each of them. Katie and I do girls day out, we go shopping or to garage sales. then Mike and i wil do the same. Or he'll go do something with my husband. It is nice to do things one on one because I think it is more quality time spent. where when we are all together they both fight for the most attention.
I wouldn't be to concerned it will all come back to you soon the new baby will be on the move and you will apreciate the older one. she will be the easier one. You could make a point to have daddy or grandma keep baby and have a special day with you & the eldest. Even if it is doing the food shopping for the week go for a coke or ice cream. you will be happy to get back to baby and get a little break as well. ↑ |
| Your right i kinda do resent my eldest and i dont want to if that makes sense.she is already the easy one as such but perhaps thats why i ignore her to get on with her own thing.maybe i should break the habit and spend some alone tome with her.thanks layne. ↑ |
| i have a three yr old boy and a four month old daughter , i too am having alot of guilt about it. im breastfeeding so im having to always be with her. he seems so understandig about it. its kinda weird that he doesnt mind , but ↑ |
| I know how you feel my children are the same ages as yours. I felt like I wanted quality time with my new baby and I felt like he deserved my attention. I felt so guilty that I stopped breast feeding and placed him on bottles just so that I could give my eldest the same amount of attention. But now that he is teething he still demands more of my time. I started getting him to bring me a diaper so that he is helping me. 3 yr.olds love to help. When the baby falls a sleep I spend time with him by playing trains with him or pushing him on the swings in our back yard. Plus, grandparents are good at giving lots of attention, so I call my dad over to spend the day. ↑ |
