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I need some advice on putting my 3 month old to bed, every night we have a bath, nurse, rock and finally she's asleep and in her crib. Then 10 minutes later she awake and screaming bloody murder, we nurse for about 2-3 minutes then she falls back asleep. This cycle repeats at least twice before she is finally down for the night, after all this she normally sleeps a good 7-8 hours. But how do I get her to stay asleep when I put her down? And please don't say let her cry it out, at this age I think that is cold! ↓
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| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 12:33 AM |
| Is she completely zonked out when you lay her down? Sometimes when a baby falls asleep in your arms, and is then moved somewhere else they wake up confused. If you haven't already, try laying her down while she's still awake that way she wakes up and knows she is in the same place you left her. If you dont want her to cry it out ( I agree that's a little young ) try just standing near the crib while she falls asleep and stroking her instead of rocking her or taking her out of the crib. ↑ |
| Name: denise | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 12:41 AM |
| Yes we tried laying her down when she is semi awake but as soon as we lay her down she starts crying and when we just try to soothe her in the crib instead of picking her up she grabs my hand and won't let go as she screams bloody murder! ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 1:42 AM |
| If you think that she is to young to self-soothe then it may be that you just have to deal with the late night awakenings for a couple more months until she's ready to starting crying it out a bit. I know it must be horrible, but she'll have to go through it at some point. ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 2:10 AM |
| My baby does the same thing and I just have to hold him until he is fast asleep and then he want wake up. I tried a warm bath and that seems to work great. But I know what you mean, I finally figured out he is teething. ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 2:15 AM |
| Another thing you can try is a fleece blanket. I know they say not to have blankets in the crib, but if he is next to the bed, you can keep an eye on him. My son loves it, all nice and warm. ↑ |
| Name: tle0914 | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 3:03 AM |
| Have you heard of a book called Babywise? It is awesome and was great to use with our little girl. We had her on an awesome schedule and sleeping through the night at nine weeks. We have several friends and our pediatrician that swear by this book...good luck and keep us posted. ↑ |
| Name: denise | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 3:31 AM |
Babywise are you serious? I can't believe you would even recommend that.
If anyone is interested here are some excerpts I found about babywise which is written by Ezzo
Ezzo, who has no formal medical training. The studies have not been subjected to peer review, which means there has been no independent, professional evaluation of the studies or their findings, the usual method of verifying the worth of scientific studies.
Babywise tells parents that if their baby doesn't eat at a scheduled feeding, he must wait until the next one.Alarm bells went off when doctors began seeing more and more infants who were showing signs of failure to thrive, poor weight gain, and dehydration. When questioned about their feeding practices, many of the parents admitted they were following Ezzo's PDF program. And though they could see something was drastically wrong with their infants, the parents found it hard — sometimes impossible — to blame PDF. ...one member of expressed concern that parents who follow Ezzo's "controlled feeding proposals" could even wind up abusing their children.
Babywise advice linked to dehydration, failure to thrive" — "AAP News," April 1998 ↑ |
| Name: Danielle | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 7:32 AM |
| I personally think you are lucky she sleeps 7-8 hours threw the night. ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 11:54 AM |
| I agree with Danielle that you are lucky she sleeps 7-8 hours. My son is 7 months old and I still get up with him in the middle of the night. I think his is just out of habit for my son. I am sure your daughter will grow out of it and get better. I think at 3 months she sounds like she is doing good. ↑ |
| Name: tle0914 | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 1:55 PM |
| Actually it's Gary Ezzo, M.A. and Robert Bucknam, M.D. The book never anywhere says you have to dismiss your own good judgement as a mother. It gives you ideas and explains how important it is for your baby to be on a schedule. Our child was always in the 95th percentile and thriving well. She was never starved or mistreated. That is absurd. ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 7:16 PM |
| Hey Denise now this time if I read correctly..... 'rock and finally she's asleep and in her crib". Bath sure helps to relax and you are certinally starting a great schedule. But but but....when you are rocking...and she falls asleep.....do you wait about 10 minutes....before you go and put her in the crib? Why? Well I found with my babies...if I gave them that 10 minute rule or slightly better (oh hon I know....makes you want to sleep too]]LOL!) but it seemed to help. They were deeper in sleep by then and when I put them down (oh its like putting down the most frigle glass hehe) but I would push my hands into the bed and so gently.. slid them out. If they woke a tad I would just lay my hand on them and wait untill I knew they had drifted back to a good sleep. Then make the mad dash tippy toe style to the door and turn the handle.. close so quietly and gently guide the handel back into position.....no suden noises ya see. Anyway I hope you have a thought somewhere in here that might help.....keep us posted dear. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 9:28 AM |
| lol. that was so wonderfully descriptive maxi! i can picture it perfectly. ↑ |
| Name: cinner29 | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 11:53 AM |
| hi Denise, I don't know if this will help but I used to put a facecloth or napkin with some of my breastmilk on it into the bassinett/crib....when my son would wake he would smell something comforting and that would be enough to send him back to sleep. He was 5 weeks early so we fed a lot in the first few months but by the time he was 4 months or so he was sleeping through out the night.....I hope this helps. ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 11:58 PM |
| Yeah Nicole what a crack up....ya should have seen me honey....ANYTHING FOR AN ounce of peace....real preformance dance style! LOLOL! ↑ |
| Name: denise | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 3:16 AM |
Thanks to all those who gave advice.
Maxie, I did discover on the days my hubby pulls duty the awake and sleep cycle tends to be worse, probably because I put her down just moments after she's asleep because I have to go finish everything that I can not manage one handed. As opposed to when her Daddy is home to lend a helping hand. Your descriptition of the mad dash tip toe was right on. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 4:24 AM |
| if i read correctly u r nursing? well if she is falling asleep nursing then she might be going to sleep before her little tummy is full. she might be waking up to finish her feeding. this is what my son did. there is a hormone in your breast milk that is like a "sleeping pill" for babies. once he got a little older this stopped but she is still young so give her time. and if sher is sleeping for 7 to 8 hrs in a row, man i would kill for that!!! my son is 9 mo. old and i'm lucky if he goes 6 to 7. good luck and i hope this helps. by the way i'm very happy to her that you decided to breastfeed!!! ↑ |
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