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This is a question for women who have had an abortion. Have you ever been harrassed for your decision? Have you suffered suicidal thoughts as a result? ↓
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| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:10 PM |
| What kind of support system, if any, did you rely on? ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:17 PM |
| See--women are afraid to talk about this issue even when it is anonymous! This is sad. ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:22 PM |
| Heck I wouldn't talk about it on here either.....were not really anonymous when we talk to the same girls everyday. ↑ |
| Name: homemommichele | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:28 PM |
| Plus M, maybe they just don't feel like sharing those thoughts with you. You are just a nameless initial on an internet forum and that is a pretty deep question. Maybe it is not fear, maybe they just think it is none of your business. I know it is none of mine. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:29 PM |
| Was this question addressed to you--no, unless you have had an abortion. To those that have--create a fake username if you feel like adding your thoughts here. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:30 PM |
| I have spent all afternoon defending women who have had an abortion with you Michelle--I really have nothing more to discuss with you. ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:32 PM |
im not afraid to admit that ive had one.
im from due date, im a regular, all the girls know that ive had one.
i wasnt harassed for my decision. though i was emotionally and mentally forced into getting it. i didnt suffer suicidal thoughts per se but the depression i felt was so depp its hard to explain. i felt horrible afterwards, i could barely look at myself in the mirror.
as far as a support system the guy who pushed me into the decision was "there" for me, and yet he wasnt. i was alone and didnt want him to know my feelings. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:36 PM |
| Have you had people judge you for your decision? ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:38 PM |
| Or do you keep it all inside--afraid of being judged if you talk about it? ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:38 PM |
| M...I think Michele was fighting with you about preemie's feeling pain, not abortions. ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:39 PM |
| no. i think most people understand that though they have an opinion on abortion that no one really knows what they would do in that type of situation. then again a lot of people dont know that ive had one. im pregnant again now, 28 weeks to be exact, and i dont just offer the information up when i meet someone, ya know? ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:40 PM |
| This is a completely different conversation dana. ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:40 PM |
| im not afraid to be judged. i talk about it openly. and i talk to other women who are interested in getting one. ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:41 PM |
I was going bu what YOU wroe in this post M
Name: M • Date: 04/20/2007 18:30:32
I have spent all afternoon defending women who have had an abortion with you Michelle--I really have nothing more to discuss with you. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:42 PM |
| I understand Nikkis. It is something very personal. I think it would help if women felt more comfortable and talked about this issue. There is a perception that many people have of women who have abortions that I think is wrong--that they take the easy way out. I think if people get to know women who have experienced this they will have a better understanding of how difficult it is for women. ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:43 PM |
| NIKKIS would you recommend it? I understand if you don't want to answer.....unlike M I feel funny asking people these kinds of questions. I've had some friends have them, but they never talk about it and I wouldn't bring it up. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:44 PM |
| If you do not mind talking about it. How were you mentally forced into the decision? ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:44 PM |
| i know that i regret the decision every day. i am haunted by it. but everything in life happens for a reason. and now i am happily pregnant with my little girl, and my life is great. ↑ |
| Name: Dawn C. | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:44 PM |
| Hey M...why don't YOU share a personal tid bit with us for a change?? ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:45 PM |
| Well I gotta go, best wishes to you and your new little girl on the way : ) ↑ |
| Name: homemommichele | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:46 PM |
| Thank you for your honest replies Nikki. How many options, at the time did you feel were open to you??? In your situation I mean, I think some women have it more rough with no family support, partner support etc for the unplanned pregnancy. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:46 PM |
| nikkis--What would you tell your daughter if she was ever faced with an unplanned pregnancy. Would you give her this as an option? ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:47 PM |
feel free to ask question, thats how we learn
first to answer your question dana, i am 100% pro choice. however i dont recommend it. i dont think women understand the emotional scar that it leaves on a person. at least for me it did.
m- i was forced because i didnt want to do it. i wanted to keep the baby. i was 6 weeks. the guy begged me to do this for him, that he wasnt ready to have a baby. so we went to the abortion clinic and i couldnt, they made me leave because i wouldnt calm down. he was pissed he said i didnt even try for him that i was being selfish. so he kept beating me down and a few days later we went back. right before i went in he told me he would hate me if i didnt do it but he would love me more if i did. all i wanted was for him to love me, so i did it. and he doesnt love me more. and i hated myself for doing it ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:48 PM |
| Also--have you told your parents? ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:51 PM |
| How old were you? I feel bad that this happened to you. This is what I mean when I say that abortion isn't as easy as right or wrong. Not all women have the luxury of making it that simple--so many factors play into it. I do not think it is okay for some to judge people and say that they are just taking the easy way out. Obviously--this was one of the hardest thing in your life--wouldn't you say? ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:51 PM |
michele, i had just moved back home, i think i had only been home 4 months, and i had a lot of support from my family but i was afraid that they would think i was a screw up again so i didnt tell them. i wanted to keep the baby, and adoption would have been so emotionally hard on me, and again i felt my parents would think i was a screw up, so the guy convinced me that this was the only option.
m- if my daughter ended up with an unplanned pregnancy i would sit down and give her all the options including abortion and i would share my story with her, and i would let her know that i would stand by her no matter what choice she made, as long as it was HER choice ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:53 PM |
my mom knows now, because i am pregnant now as a result of failed birth control pills. she didnt know what to say but loves me the same none the less.
it was definitely one of the hardest things i have experienced. i was 19. it happened in june. thats right i got pregnant 4 months later in october. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:55 PM |
| So you felt like your parents would turn their backs on you and the only one giving you options was the boyfriend. I can understand why you chose the option you did--you were scared. You sound like you went against your own beliefs out of fear. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:56 PM |
| This is what people need to realize--alot of girls find themselves in Nikkis position. Don't be so hard on these girls. ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:57 PM |
| yeah. even though now i know my parents would have supported me. but hindsight is twenty twenty as they say. this time i made the right decision. i mean look im gonna be a mommy in 12 weeks. ↑ |
| Name: M | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:58 PM |
| Forgive yourself and be the best mom you can be for your baby. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. ↑ |
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