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Name: katesmom

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My daughter is 8 months old and is just starting to show some anxiety around other people. She has always been very outgoing and liked social situations but there has been a real dramatic change. When stangers talk to her she cries and friends/ family who used to be able to hold and play with her upset her. How can I make her feel secure and stil have a life outside of my house? Is this normal and how long might this go on? Thanks for your input..... ↓

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 4:43 PM

I have read that it's not uncommon for a child to go through a fast of anxiety around stranger. My son also was very socialable. It didn't matter whether or not he knew you and then one day he woke up and everything was different. He would cry anytime someone he did know or didn't know. He's now 2 and is very caution of people. He will hide behind myself or my husband if a stranger says something to him. And he it takes him awhile to warm up to family members or friends of me and my husband. All we do is explain to him who someone do our best to try an make him comfortable by letting him sit next to us or on our lap. After awhile he usually start to feel comfortable with the situation. It does take him a little longer when it a larger group of people. Unless something seriously has happen to cause her to have this sort of anxiety it is probably normal and will eventually pass. ↑

Name: Denise | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 12:23 AM

This is very common, she will grow out of the stranger anxiety, just give it time. ↑

Name: Stacy | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 11:08 PM

Its verry common, she will out grow it & then it's supost to return around 18 months old.

I wish my daughter would have some "stranger danger". She is 1 year old & will happly go to complete strangers. I'm going to need a leash when she starts walking, just so she doesn't disappear ↑

Name: Smiley | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 5:48 PM

DID YOU ASK HER IF ANYONE DID ANY BAD TOUCHES TO HER. ↑

Name: charla | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 6:35 PM

i dont think that your going to get much of an answer out of an 8 month old , smiley. ↑

Name: mommyagain | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 6:48 PM

yes I agree charla... not really appropriate age for those questions!
Katesmom... yes it is common, yes it is very heartbreaking too. my first daughter could have cared less when I would come and go but my second went through seperation anxiety BAD. Try to keep routine the same. Reassurance is always helpful and justremember she will grow out of it. ↑

Name: Smiley | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 9:02 PM

I APOLOGIZE I THOUGHT I READ 8 YEARS OLD. MY MISTAKE, THIS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GLANCE AT SOMETHING INSTEAD OF ACTUALLY READING IT. ↑

Name: mommyagain | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 9:13 PM

lol... we all do that smiley!! ↑

Name: charla | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 3:33 AM

thats ok smiley i wondered the same thing as you until i reread the post. ↑