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Name: briseis
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I share my own home with my fiancÚ, but like many women, I'm responsible for the cooking, cleaning, laundry and petcare. I don't mind, because I feel I do it better than he does!

We have 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 birds and we keep fish, which together take a lot of looking after on my part.

And I am 27-weeks-pregnant with my first baby. My fiancÚ works full time, and I did work full time up until I found out I was pregnant. I mean to return to work when my son is around 3-6 months old, and arrange daycare for him whilst I am at work.

But how will I manage to work full time, take care of my son, my home, my pets, and manage to have any sort of social life at all?

Do any of you working mothers manage it and have a social life? And how do you do it? I'm only 23 ... I want my son in my life so badly, but I also don't want to have no life of my own either ...
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Name: Layne | Date: Jun 6th, 2007 12:39 PM
I have one hell of a time working and maintaining the home...With school out it is twice as hard...To be honest I would like to stay home a few more years. Most days I feel I have no control and my housework is not were I want it to be. But we need the money so I work. 

Name: briseis | Date: Jun 6th, 2007 12:44 PM
Yeah same here. We need the money, so I'll have to return to work. Besides, I'm very independant, and don't want to have to rely on my fiancÚ for anything. I'm considering working part time ... so the rest of the day can be spent caring for my son, and getting on with my housework ... 

Name: beccap | Date: Jun 6th, 2007 7:55 PM
I am pregnant with my second child. And I am working part-time and a home based business. When I have my baby I will quit my job but continue my home based business because it pays good. So maybe you should look into a home based business. If you are interested you can email me and I will give you more information on it. [email protected] 

Name: billy22 | Date: Jun 7th, 2007 12:15 AM
Maybe you should tell your fiance that he either start helping more with the animals or you get rid of a few of them. Animals are just like having children adn require just as much attention and care sometimes. If he's not helping you out now, whats he gonna do when the baby gets here? 

Name: cinner29 | Date: Jun 8th, 2007 10:43 AM
just a question......why wouldn't you want to rely on you bf for anything? You are about to be parents together...why wouldn't you share financial responsibility, especially since you are engaged. If you are about to marry then you should be looking at sharing all the income that comes into your home.........I understand if you need to work to help support your new family (I do) !!
And yes it is possible to have a social life with a baby......they just become part of it......that is part of motherhood...........less time for yourself.....but the joys of motherhood outweigh that!!!!!! Eventually of course you are able to leave baby at home and go out one your own....but that comes after some time. 

Name: briseis | Date: Jun 8th, 2007 8:00 PM
It's not that I don't want to share financial responsibility with my fiancÚ. I do and will. But I would like to be in a position where should my fiancÚ and I seperate, or indeed should one of us lose our jobs, then we would still be able to cope financially. I'm very much in love with my fiancÚ, and would be devastated if we seperated, but if we did, then I would be taking my son with me, and I'd need to be able to financially support him. It's a safety net for me and my baby, for peace of mind. Nothing and noone is guaranteed in this life. 

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