I am new to this online forum, but my friends are tired of listening to me whine...maybe some of you will be able to listen. I am a teacher that works full time. I have two beautiful daughters (4 and 2 1/2). My husband is a reasonably decent person who also works full time. The catch is after work hours. He is off the clock when he leaves work. I'm not done working until I go to bed each night. He claims he wants to be more helpful around the house, but then he never helps. I do all the laundry, 99% of the cooking, 99% of the cleaning - do I need to say more? From what I've read so far, many of you experience the same things (right? Or are there men out there that help their wives?) He complains that he doesn't like the types of food I make (I make quick, easy things that I know the kids will eat)....He is a food snob....wants to eat fun exotic things like Thai food, etc. (which I like if someone else is making it....I don't want to make it when I get home from work) He gets angry when I have to stay late (I usually pick the kids up at 4:00...I also take them to day care every morning) or if I have to work on the weekends. He says I'm doing to much or inconveniencing the family when I have to work, but I don't complain that he works later than me EVERY DAY! And, sometimes he has to work on weekends (or sometimes he goes and does fun things that he likes to do that aren't even work related).
At this point, basically I'm exhausted....and he thinks I'm being mean when I tell him he needs to help more (or he says "if you'd stop nagging me, maybe I'd help") But, no one nags me....or tells me to do stuff. I just know it needs to be done.
So, how do I continue to juggle everything without getting filled up with resentment towards my husband? ↓
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