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Name: Karen
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I am having so much anxiety about what happens after my baby comes. I am due in July. At my job, I've noticed that they only hire women who have no children; most also are not married when they are hired. This concerns me now because I know my life will change once my child is here. I'd like to be able to work part-time after maternity leave (12 weeks). And when I go back full-time, I already know I'd have to adjust my schedule since most day care centers are closed by the time I get home.

Has anyone else been in a similar work environment? The other thing is my boss for the last two months has drastically cut back on the amount of work I'm given to do. The only thing I have now is ongoing projects, but those aren't all that time consuming and often leave me idle. This also concerns me.

I'm thinking about quitting if they won't let me go part-time.
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Name: Alicia | Date: Apr 21st, 2006 4:46 PM
Sounds like the only one with the right answers would be your boss, I would tell him you would like to be given more work since you dont think youve been given enough lately and you would love the challenge. Try not to assume that the place is not family oriented just because no one has kids there. Not to be rude but do they ask potentiall employees if they have kids during the job interview or on the job application before employees are hired? Its discrimination if they do. Im not sure how long youve been at your job but maybe your boss has never dealt with pregnancy before and may be giving you less work cause he or she thinks it is helping you. Talk to you boss about a possible part time schedule when you come back for leave. Atleast your boss will know that your thinking ahead and weighing out your possible options. Im sure he or she would be happy to discuss that with you. Best Wishes! 

Name: Karen | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 2:46 PM
Alicia, Thanks for the advice. Yes, I will talk to my boss about this. Actually, yes in a roundabout way they do ask in interviews whether applicants have children or not. I agree. That is discriminatory--especially since they seem to count it against them (looking at who ultimately works there). I like the idea of discussing it after my leave (my schedule that is). I'll probably have a better idea once the baby's been born. 

Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 4:31 PM
Set up a meeting with your boss and lay all your concerns and questions on the table.Tell him what you would LIKE to have happen and ask him in reality if its even going to be feesible and see what he has to say. Tell him you appreciate his honesty and then make future plans depending on what he tells you. As far as daycare goes and closing before you need it to,ask a friend or relative if they could pick the baby up at closing time and you pick the baby up from them right after work. 

Name: Chris R | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 7:53 PM
I would keep up if you can since if you leave you will lose the maternity leave, if it's paid. Maybe they are trying to prepare for when you leave so they can function without you, maybe you should talk with your boss about how you feel left out and feel capable of more. Also, are there any parents there? That may be a good indication that they aren't family friendly. Either way I wish you the best of luck. My job was great through my first pregnancy, but my boss was upset when I returned full time. Thought I should only be part time and told me I couldn't be a good mom and work full time too. I left afer awhile, felt offended and went somewhere else. I'm now pregnant again and they are so sweet! It does make a big difference and it's not worth staying if you don't feel good going in everyday. Personally I would stay long enough for the leave though if you are that close, but don't stay if it gets too bad. Take care. 

Name: Alicia | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 10:14 PM
So Karen, Im due July 4th, what day in July are you due and how are you coping at work? I work full time also. 

Name: Karen | Date: Apr 30th, 2006 1:01 PM
Chris, I'm definitely going to stay until I go on my maternity leave. It's crazy that your old boss laid that guilt trip on you. I think there are different options out there for women. It doesn't have to be a one size fits all. Everyone's situation is different. 


Name: Karen | Date: Apr 30th, 2006 1:02 PM
Alicia, I'm due July 20. Work is still the same: boring. I am going to have a talk with my boss this week about increasing my workload. How are you coping? 

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