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| Name: Lynne n | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 5:08 PM |
| Sorry to hear about your problem.it sounds to me that if he is 34 and not ready then he will never be ready.If he loves you then he will stand by you if not then he is not worth worrying about,i know that this sounds harsh,but you can do this on your own woman do it everyday. Talk to him about how you feel! I hope it all works out for you! TAKE CARE.XXX ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 6:25 PM |
| If you want the baby then keep the baby! If your boyfriend doesn"t want the baby then that is sad but also his own loss. Do what you need to do for yourself and your child to have a happy life together! If your boyfriend chooses to cut you out of his life because you are choosing to keep the baby then you never meant as much to him as you thought in the first place. ↑ |
| Name: CrystalMichelle25 | Date: Oct 2nd, 2006 1:58 AM |
| lynne and lizzi: Thank You so much! this forum thing is really wonderful. When i read what you wrote ... its was all stuff I already knew just wanted to see if others see it too. my boyfriend is such a loving man I would hate to think anything bad of him. . . " A baby is the last thing in the world that i want" is what he told me just thirty mins ago. My stomach dropped ... i knew that ... but why can't I just go have an abortion ... he makes it sound so easy... lots of girls have had abortions ... am i weak cause' i dont want one? Because' i can't stomach one ... my boobs hurt my lower abs have sharp pains ... i eat everything in the house ... i get jolts of 'wants' ... my heart thinks it's precious. But I am being forced to think i am not ready to have this child. I can't walk into a clinic and have a abortion and walk out thinking what I did was okay. I am pro-choice ... but its not my choice ... it was my friends choice and i support her 100% ... my boyfriend cant think of the 'alternitve' me and the baby. I told him I could do it on my own here in the states. (please keep in mind that my boyfriend is a musican and travels the world a few times amonth so i have had to do this all over the phone because the next time i see him will not be until begining of November.) Me having an abortion fits his needs. He is recording a album and and DJ's in other countries often ... so ... Me and the baby dont fit into his schedule. He says his world will be " up side down" and it would for awhile. . . but lots of musicians have babies ... Jesus!! i am scared ... Three days ago ... I was so happy and in love and couldnt believe I had to wait 30 days to see him again. Now I am sad ... But he doesnt have to have to want a kid ... he is aloud to be mad. . . and to vent ... He said if I wanted to have the kid he wanted to be part of its life... but doesnt know where to start! I live in DC and he lives in England. If I had the baby there he would have more rights ... and if he comes here his career would not be as good. . . BLOODYHELLL! .............. I am scared ... but i want my baby.... why ... does it have to be this way?.... sorry for the long note ... just need to vent .. I have no parents.... and sometimes a strangers words are just as comforting as a friends ... because it is all so real ... [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: manda | Date: Oct 26th, 2006 11:21 PM |
| sweetheart, keep this baby, you'll never get over the abortion if u do it just for ur boyfriend! when you hold your baby in your arms fo the first time you'll realise what love really is and all that will mater is ur little one, if ur boyfriends there then great, if he's not so what, surround yourself with family and friends and soon enough ur babies unconditional love and ur lov for him/her will get you through the hard times xxxxxxxxxxxxxx take care hun all the best xxxxxxxxxx ↑ |
| Name: T-rabbit | Date: Oct 27th, 2006 1:53 AM |
| A baby is truly a gift. If he dont want it that is his lost. Where there is a will thereis a way. You can 100% take care and raise this baby. No woman needs a man to take care of a child. A mommy that loves them is all they need. If he is not willing to be a dad another man will. I had 2 children when I met my husband and he loves them I am also 24. I was a single mom for 4 years. do you have any fam? e mail me if you like. [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 3:50 AM |
| It's all up to you but never do something for someone else things like abortion and adoption only work if it is what you want. I had an abortion at 5 weeks of pregnancy , but I did it because it was something i chose to do for myself and felt was right at the time , but it is never something that should be done if you feel otherwise. It sounds as if you want this baby so have it then you can be a single mom theres lots of support out there i am sorry he feels diffrently but it could be from fear of the unknow i would tell him that you love him but you also love this baby to be and that he can ethier be a part of your lifes or not. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 1:41 PM |
| You have too what is right for you it is your body not his i dont think that i could ever have a abortion either! I had been with my boyfriend for 6 years when i feel pregnant and i knew that he never wanted children but i told him that i was keeping the baby and i gave him the choiice of walking or not he choose to stay and now my son is two and things couldnt be better! ↑ |
| Name: queen2224 | Date: Nov 14th, 2006 3:05 AM |
| hey there, I'm 24 and my husband is 22 and we're happly married and 6 1/2 mos. pregnant. and he loves us no matter what happens. But if he can't accept the fact that you're pregnant and that he's gonna be a dad soon. And stay by your side through it all if he loves like you say he does. But if he doesn't love you ,accept the pregnancy and stayed by your side then he's not worth your time and brains to worry about it. i know what you're going through and it's not easy to do. But if us women can have and raise a baby to be good a child and capable of handleing anythingthat comes their way. Then we know for a fact that you can do it as well. but the only people that you can count on to be there for you in times like this is your parents and family . Cause boyfriends and friends come and go but family is alaways there for you when ever you need their help no matter what time of day it is and no matter where you are. parents and family will always be there when you need help no matter what the problem is. let him know how you feel and what type of impact his choice will have on the relationship, the baby's life and everything. and let him know that it's his loss not your guys. Let him know that he can't just come in and out of the baby's life when he wants to. cause it's not the right thing to do. trust me others go through the same thing everyday. I hope this help you in some ways . ↑ |
| Name: angelmama | Date: Nov 18th, 2006 1:47 PM |
| I had been typing such an awesome reply and somehow it got lost. I would never judge you no matter what. But, DON'T give up your baby because your boyfriend isn't ready. It is YOUR decision. He assumed the risk this could happen when he was intimate wtih you and babies are NOT just cells! I have two kids with different dads 10 years apart. My ex-husband was so abusive I knew immediately that I wanted an abortion the SECOND I found out I was pregnant with my son. I became desparately ill and then almost died but my baby hung in there. So, I hung in there for him. He is now 11 and the very light of my life. Both dads turned out to be duds, but my kids love me so much and think I personally hung the moon and the stars just for them. I wouldn't trade that for ANYTHING! I have a beautiful daughter who just turned 20 on 10/30. Her dad didn't want her. So what! I DID want her! I don't regret having my kids, even though it's been tough sometimes raising them myself. You have a very personal decision to make. Not to sound mean, but I just think if you get rid of the baby because your boyfriend can't deal....You should also get rid of the boyfriend and start over. Just don't make any hasty decisions. Follow your heart. ↑ |
