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Our daughter is 9. It's the typical story with her...trouble in school, inability to keep many friends etc. Does anyone have any suggestions aside from what the usual? We've tried many things, but will never medicate her. ↓
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| Name: Jennifer | Date: Sep 15th, 2007 11:30 PM |
You could try reading some books for ideas/suggestions. I have read everything I can get my hands on. Try Dr. James Dobson "The Strong Willed Child". Try reading about the STEP program - Don Dinkmeyer. Try reading (if you are a person of faith) "The Power of a Praying Parent" by Stormie Omartian. Read , "How to Behave so your cildren will too" by Sal Severe, Ph.D . Read " Transforming the difficult child" by Howard Glasser, MA. These are just a few I remember having read off the top of my head. They are all pretty good reads and you will find yourself saying as you read "Geez.... did this person put a camera in my house and spy on me?" That is how similar the situations in the book are to your life if you live with one of these children. I have tried to educate myself so that I can not only understand my child and why he acts the way he does, but try new approaches to reduce his behavior. I'm willing to try anything (almost!). Let me know if you like any of the books!
Jennifer ([email protected]) ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Sep 16th, 2007 4:47 AM |
Jennifer and I like James Dobson. Cadee gets clubhouse magazine from Focus on the Family ( James Dobson). Cadee has to read at least one article, and tell me what she learned.
You might want to have private time with her. We do it with Cadee every night. We put her in bed a half hour before we want her to go to sleep. Private time can be with your husband or you. I wouldn't suggest both of you. If she has older siblings (16 or older) it is a great tool for teaching them how to have private time later with their children.
When I have private time with Cadee, I go into her bedroom and close the door. You might want to ask her to tell you everything that happened today. I don't have to ask Cadee, she knows what I want and loves to talk. The talking about her day part is 20 minutes. The very difficult part for you will be not correcting her, and not giving advice. I know because I want to !!!
Private time is simply a time for listening. For 5 minutes we read the Bible together. She reads one sentence, then I read another sentence. I carefully choose a verse about what we talked about the previous night. It is a way of correcting her and giving her advice without actually doing it myself. The last 5 minutes of private time, we pray for each other. She gets out of bed and we pray beside the bed. She says a prayer for me. I say a prayer for her. Then she gets back in bed. We hug and kiss each other goodnight. I know everything about her thoughts and feelings on a daily basis. I hope that this helps you.
I also cured Cadee's adhd. I wrote "cure for Adhd". It is a title here. ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Sep 16th, 2007 6:34 AM |
| The most important rule for private time is that you cannot tell anyone or give the impression that you have told anyone what she said. Private time is a sacred trust between you and your child. That also applys to your husband or anyone else who you allow to have private time with her. ↑ |
| Name: Jennifer | Date: Sep 16th, 2007 5:45 PM |
Michelle, thank you for reminding me about privat time- we do that too and it does really help. Seth is the older of our two boys and I think sometimes he feels left out or ignored b/c so much time is spent with his brother, who is just 19 months old. As a mom , you know how much time an infant/toddler needs, but poor Seth (6) doesn't quite understand it. Weekends are great for private time- although we do it a little differently from you. Private time for us is doing an activity with just mom or dad when Dylan doesn't come. Weekends are great for us because my husband and I both work full time. While our younger son is napping we go outside and do sidewalk chalk, swing, one of us will take him to lunch, ride bikes, run errands, etc. Sometimes private time during the week is a 20 min. game of Trouble or tic-tac-toe. Sometimes it's just playing whatever he wants to play, but without adult directions. Just follow his play and conversation- it is hard not to correct sometimes or give direction like you say :)
At night, either my husband or I will go in his room before bed and read him a story or him a story to us, now that he is reading, and we talk, say our prayers, and rehears the books of the Bible. It's really a quality , quiet, time just before bed that helps to wind him down for a good sleep.
Is your book published at bookstores? I'd like to read it. ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Sep 17th, 2007 3:31 AM |
You are wellcome, Jennifer. I hope that Samantha read it.
I don't have a book. "Cure for ADHD" is a title here. Like the title of this is "Handling a Strong will Child". I was able to cure Cadee's ADHD with good food. There are some foods that cause her to be ADHD such as anything ending in ose, particularly but not exclusive to High Fructose Corn Sugar. Cadee hasn't been ADHD for two years. Let me know if you find the title.
I was diagnosed with ADHD and my guardian cured it the same way. So, when Cadee had ADHD, I did the same diet with her. ↑ |
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