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my son is eight years old and everyone(doctors&his teachers) tell me that he has adhd and a serev case of it. My son has never gotten anything less than a B on anything that they give he has the highest math scores in his entire school. the thing is they want me to have my son put on medication again(he was on strattera,did nothing for him) but my husban is dead set against it. My son has no friends and has little social skills. he can't sit still even while doing things he loves. He can read anything, he is great at spelling and a wizz at math. the teacher keeps telling me that my son is suffering and that i should do what i can to help him. I don't wnat my son to suffer and i want him to have friends but what can i do? His father will not allow him to take medication and i am not sure he needs it. If he has such a sever case of adhd how come he still gets A's and B's? Please help i don't know what to do, and it's driving me crazy ↓
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| Name: Cindy | Date: Apr 27th, 2006 6:28 PM |
| Hi Patty! My name is Cindy and my son Justin is 11 and has servere ADHD with little impulse control. I have some information that might help u understand why ur son is doing well in school and my son is not, There r actually 3 different types of ADHD depending on what part of the brain is effected so ur son might be good in school and my son isnt but my son can take a computer apart or TV and put it back together. As far as social skills most children have trouble usually due to lack of self esteem. What u need to explain to ur husband is not treating ur son with the right meds will only frustrate ur son. I have learned with Justin when hes out of control hes frustrated and unhappy he lets me know he needs a pill and now is doing very well he even has an after school job which I thought wasnt possible. Pat if u need to talk Im [email protected] and yahoo messenger Ive been going through this for 6 yrs I have a good ear if u need one!!!!!.......Good Luck ...........C ↑ |
| Name: owl | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 9:40 PM |
| Patricia, not all ADD or adhd is what it looks like. IF there are social skill problems, he may be having other issues, and could have a mood disorder. DO NOT USE ADD ADHD meds if there is a potential mood disorder - can send a child over the edge. You need to lookinto family history on both sides of moodiness, anxiety, and depression - shows up with self medicating with drugs food and alcohol issues sometimes in other family members. My son was put on celexa and almost died and my daughter was put on adhd meds and the same thing happenend. You need to be sure your doctors undersntand the difference between adhd and a mood disorder. HUGE IMPORTANT difference ↑ |
| Name: patch | Date: Apr 29th, 2006 2:04 PM |
| my daughter is taking equasym xl 1 in morning equasym 10mg at 4pm and melatonin 1 hour before bed and she has calmed down alot better since starting these i know its tablets but as she gets older she can come off them when she can learn to cope better i hope this helps ↑ |
| Name: Lena | Date: Apr 29th, 2006 3:39 PM |
| My son is a gifted ADHD child that is now 15 and a freshman in High School..He is currently on Strettra...My son had several years of counseling and a great school counselor...My understanding strattera is mainly for focus not hyperactivity...You make to switch medicines...But you need to find someon to help you through this and make the right decision...my son is now struggling because of his lack of organizational skills, as they get older they are responsible for turning in their work , note book organization and so on...his grades will suffer if he does not get the help he needs...one thing that has helped my son as well is putting him on a soccer team at a young age...I was told any team sport will do...he makes friends and learns to play as a team member...he does not have to be the best....hope this helps...there is a new study out that says they do not outgrow ADHD...which I believe...they learn new ways of coping... ↑ |
| Name: squeemommy | Date: Aug 19th, 2006 11:20 PM |
| It is actually true that people do not outgrow ADHD. I have a 5 year old who has ADHD. My husband also was diagnosed as a small child to. My husband took Ritalin unil he was 14 years old. Then, he took up playing the drums and that helped him. However, I can still tell sometimes that my husband still suffers from this condition. He has told me that he has found ways to cope with it. He also did martial arts and became a black belt. Of course, martial arts takes much concentration. My husband had to learn how to concentrate. At first, the medication helps young children learn these skills that come naturally to children who don't have ADHD. I was very much against putting my son on any medication in the beginning. I was worried about side effects and all that. I didn't want my son labeled either. But, once the pediatrician explained to me how ADHD works, I decided to put him on medication and things have definitely improved. The doctor told me that for my son, every little noise came at him at the same time. She said that he can't filter out sounds. So, for instance, if I was talking to him and the TV was on or the radio, he wasn't trying to ignore me. He just couldn't decide which way to go. That is why my son was literally bouncing off the walls. He didn't know in what direction to go. My son is also very intelligent, as is his dad, but his ability to focus has increased so much since the medication and so has the mother/son relationship. I felt so helpless before and now I know I am doing the right thing for my son for him to succeed. Also, another deciding factor that leaned me towards medicine was reading online that children with ADHD who don't take medicine to correct the problem later resort to illegal drugs, alcohol, dropping out of school. At that point, I decided that I wanted to give my son the foundation that he needs and set aside any personal opinions that I had. I hope this helps you out a little with your decision. Being a mom is definitely one of the hardest jobs out there. ↑ |
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