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i have had to srip his room of everything but furniture and clothes. hes explored in to many things hes stole from his teacher a couple of times lies to people like u would not believe,if we tell him not to do something he does it any ways,yeah hes only 7 but he know the diff. with right and wrong and theres so much mor that he does.im so lost on what to do ↓
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| Name: fancy | Date: Nov 11th, 2006 2:20 AM |
| Hi rosie we all been there is your son on meds or does he have adhd try talking to his doctor about it I have a seven year old which will be eight next week and hes on concerta and doing better then before he even started meds I will be honest I was against the meds at first I heard so many scarey stories about it but now hes a better child then what he was before meds hope I was some help if any good luck ↑ |
| Name: billy22 | Date: Nov 11th, 2006 7:15 PM |
| WOW! I can SO relate to you! I too have been through this with mychild. I can honestly say that I think as they get older, it does get a little better. I had him on meds for over 3 years and I finally took him off. I just couldn't deal with the side affects. He is better this year and now a healthy looking 12 year old. Now don't get me worng, I am not against medication...it DOES work for most children once you get then on the right ones. The doc said to try him without and see how he does and if he feels like he needs them we can go back. He is old enough to recognize what his body is telling him, so there may be a day when he will be back on them. But for now, he's just fine. Oh and, I also know what you mean about the whole right and wrong choices they make. They know the difference, but will do it anyway. All I can say is that it's just a part of the ADD. They are just so impulsive! They are releasing energy that is driving them crazy on the inside and sometimes its the only thing they know how to do ...at least this is my experience with my son. Is there anyone else who can relate? ↑ |
| Name: jamberrt | Date: Nov 12th, 2006 11:46 PM |
| My daughter KNOWS when she's talking non-stop and giggling and hyper and still resents her meds and says she doesn't need them. She has NO focus at all. I have a friend who's daughter only takes meds when at school and she doesn't start until Tuesday. The weekend she's free and Monday she can handle. Then Tuesday she says she needs help. In our house it's a fight. ↑ |
| Name: ccanul | Date: Dec 17th, 2006 5:33 AM |
| My son stole one time from a store. When I found it I drove him back to the store, and told him now you are going back in the store and apologizing. I took him inside, and he apologized. He felt awful when we were done. My son is 8 and has ADHD, bipolar, and Aspergers. I have found that if you know what your child is going to do then tell him to do it. They hate it when you tell them to do something, and they don't expect you to tell them to stomp their feet, or to slam their bedroom doors. My son has kicked my bedroom door while I was sitting behind it, thrown the kitchen chairs, and even the table. I cried for months not knowing what to do, but I found a therapist who gave me a book called Love and Logic. It works great. When I first read it I thought she was crazy. I thought for sure that it would just make him more angry, but it didn't. If you talk softly while they are yelling then they quite down just so they can here what you are saying. ↑ |
| Name: Yawmom | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 12:59 AM |
I honestly believe you have to be harder on ADD kids. It's hard on everyone. Limits have to be set, boundaries made and punishments enforced.
I made a chore list for my sons, a chart graph. On it I had feed animals, hang up coat, take care of shoes/boots, do homework, etc.
Mix in some light stuff and they got to chose what they did, and it was based on points. Homework was high in points, shoes was low , etc. Then at the end of the week they could save up their points or spend them on the rewards list. Rewards list included Nintendo (limited), friend over, going to a movie, going to a movie with a friend, chose supper plan , etc.
This helped alot at my house. With chores being done they were more focused and had less time to get into trouble, and homework got done!
They had points taken away for being naughty, and there were bonus points (helping mom with laudry, take out trash, walking dogs, ,etc) "would you like to help mommy with setting the table?"
You also need to spend quality time with him. It's hard. People are soooo busy, kids love it when you play with them, and read to them, baking cookies, etc.. It relaxes them also, which helps you in the long run.
He sounds like he needs some special attention, things change when that happens. "mommy was so proud how you got your jammies on" "let's time how long it takes to get your jammies on" Make some things a game, fun for him and gets your mission accomplished!
Just my thoughts! ↑ |
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