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i know you all know howw i feel but man i just cant seem to get ahold of myself and act like the adult is supposed to. He drives mre absolutely crazy. He is my 5 tear old son with ADHD and bipolar and i am myself so we just clash. i find myself despising him and i dont i really love him but man this sucks!!!! Sometimes ,no alot of times , i feel like giving him up or running away but i never would . i feel so bad having these feeling towards my own child. God someone tell me theyve felt the same way??!! ↓
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| Name: Monarch4 | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 7:41 PM |
| I know how you feel, at times i have felt like that. OVerwelmed and at the end of my rope. I have a daughter in her teens with ODD and bipolar and a son unmedicated with ADHD. with the other problems of my life and fighting with the ex's in what is right and wrong thing to do it can get overwelming. The thing that has helped me, besides my faith, is counsleing. I still se a dr for myself, I have taken parenting classes to learn how to deal with each child for themselves, they are individual people and have their own personalities and you have to trea them differently. Seek help outside your friends and family, they are nice to have around but a professional is really helpful to put things in perspective and to help guide in directions you didn't know where out there. It is very overwelming but you have to be ok in order to do your job as a mother the best you can. so help yourself so you can help your son. He feels that you are frustrated and he will take control of the situation and before you know it you will have none. love him but he still need discipline and know who's in charge, youare, you are themom you are respobsible for his upbringing, get some help, it really doesn help. It helped me be more calm and understanding of what my job was. Hope this helps. :o) ↑ |
| Name: At Wits End | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 4:41 PM |
| I do know what you're going through. I love my son to death, but he really knows how to push my buttons. I have days where I ask myself why I don't just leave so I don't have to fight anymore. ↑ |
| Name: iamlisa | Date: Aug 10th, 2006 1:29 AM |
| Dear Amanda Slominski, thank you for that beautiful poem Im going to write it down too and look at it when Im real upset ,youre right I know you guys cant help it ,Love and luck on your missions trips God Bless you ↑ |
| Name: jacobsyummymummy | Date: Aug 12th, 2006 9:04 PM |
| My child hasn't been diagnosed... yet., but it has been a very difficult couple of years too. I got some support here in the Uk to help, Is there a helpline for adhd with you that you can call and talk to someone, just get it off your chest.. I think you need some support to help you stay strong and able to cope...and stop being so hard on yourself ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Aug 13th, 2006 1:06 PM |
| Amanda- THANYOU. That poem really makes us moms think. It is so hard to know how the adhd child is thinking because we are so busy trying to control them. But this sheds a new light on things for me. I have been dealing with this for 20 years. It feels like the adhd child doesnt have feeling like normal people because its always about them. There wants there need's. so we get lost in the me,me,me, you have opened my eyes today and given me hope for my son as you are so giving. Thanks again for your poem of encouragement. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Aug 13th, 2006 4:13 PM |
| Amanda- I copied your poem and Im going to use it to give to the teachers at open house. if you dont mind?? ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Aug 13th, 2006 7:21 PM |
Amanda
I am so impressed with this poem. It takes allot to impress me. This will make a huge difference in many lives. You are a great asset here or anywhere you go. I hope you stay a while to help lift spirits. I am proud of you. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Aug 13th, 2006 8:16 PM |
| Amanda how old are you?? ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Aug 15th, 2006 4:53 AM |
| Name: Dayna | Date: Aug 24th, 2006 3:21 AM |
There is an excellent video and book by a PhD. called SOS for Parents and can be ordered through Barnes and Noble. It was suggested to us by my (ADHD)daughter's psychiatrist. It has been a life saver and gives excellent tips for parenting children on the spectrum.
Hope this helps. ↑ |
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