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I work with children who have autism. I don’t think I can answer every question, but I will give it a shot. I am best with behavior and social issues. I can be contacted at [email protected]. ↓
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| Name: jody | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 12:49 AM |
| hi i would love to talk im in the process of trying to figure out my 6 year old she has an appointment with a pshyc july 7.can you email me at [email protected] i cant email first to anyone for somereason.cant wait to hear from u. ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 5:07 AM |
| I am sendind one to you now. ↑ |
| Name: jody | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 9:51 PM |
| hi what time did u try cause i dont think it worked?please try again. ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 1:31 AM |
| I sent it last night. I just sent another one. Are you sure it didnt go to your junk mail? ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 4:59 AM |
Jody
If you did not get the second E-mail-Just ask your question here. ↑ |
| Name: MICHELLE | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 8:09 AM |
hi rain i have a question for you....
my son james is mildly autistic... he has problems with speech but can understand evrthing that is said to him... for example if i ask him to do something he can do it for me no problem...
the only problem i have with him is that he has me wrapped arould his little finger!!! when he was diagnosed i kind of went a bit easy on him and now he gets away with murder whereas before his diagnosis he had no behavourial issues at all!!!
my mum was is a strict lady and she does not let james away with anything even tho he has a disability she treats him like all other children... if she says no or take something away from him.. he is cool and calm if he knows he shouldnt have it... he is the same way with my boyfriend... he knows he cant get around them!!!
but with me if i tell him no or take something away he screams and screams.... i feel like iv lost complete control over him and when my mum and boyfriend are around i let them do the disipling because he wont listen to me anyway!!! which i know has made things worse.... i think he is a very clever little boy who know how to get what he wants!!!
have you any ideas on what to do?? ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 10:42 AM |
Hi Rain!
My 12yr old son gets into his nappies all the time and eats the contence, eats everything really! Got any idea's? I'm thinking a straight jacket may not go down too well in the 21st century!! HA HA HA!!!
His diagnoses is Sever Spastic Quadriplegia, Cerebral Palsy, ADHD, Epilepsy, Hearing & Vision Impairments and newly diagnosed with Autistic Spectrum Disorder! ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 6:57 PM |
Dear Michelle,
James sounds like an awesome kid. And he sounds like every child I ever met, including my own, by having Mom wrapped around his little finger. LOL. This is normal. And it is also a normal reaction to as you say; go a bit easy on him after getting the dx. I already love your Mom. She has high expectations for James. This is advice for high functioning autism. Picture what you want out of life for James. Do you want him to get his way in the world by screaming? I know you don’t. But as a Mom thinking this way may help you start the discipline your self. Often parents think they are being mean to their children by not giving in to the child demands. Your not mean, you’re his teacher. Here is the good thing. You know he can function fine without the screaming, because he doesn’t do it with your Mom, or your boyfriend. So you don’t have to teach a new behavior. I like positive reinforcement. Remember this. And this works on all kids, and most adults. LOL. When you take something from him, and he does not scream. Say: “Good Job! I am so happy you did not scream.” Big smile, Big hug! It seems you can tell a child 50 times what they did wrong, and they still do it. You are left scratching your head. But often telling them only a few times what behavior you do like causes them to repeat the good behavior. So, when he does scream, don’t give in. Tell him: “I don’t like it when you scream.” Do not give in. Then walk away. When you give in, then this will all fail. You want success for James. When he is calm again, comeback, and say, “I like it that you are no longer screaming, Thank you.” This language can be used in other situations also. Remember when, you ask him not to do a certain behavior, always follow up, showing him the right behavior.
I hope this helps Michelle
Big Hug
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| Name: rain | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 7:30 PM |
Hello Kim,
Poor little sweetie, when it rains it pours. It would really start with your knowledge of your son. There is a condition called Pica, which causes some children to eat non-food items. Here is a web site on Pica http://kidshealth.org/parent
/emotions/behavior/pica.html
. Or it could be that he likes to put things in his mouth for the sensation. I would speak to the doctor about this, and get his advice always before following any one else’s. Having said that, what I would do is, keep things out of his reach that may harm him if ingested. If he is mobile, I would put everything away for the same reasons. Buy a squishy soft rubber baby toy. I say baby toy, because you know that is safe for the mouth. Unless he bites off pieces and swallows them, careful of chocking hazards. Also if you look on-line they have toys like this for therapy reasons. You would have to try and watch him almost constantly for a few days. When ever you see him trying to get into his diaper, quickly take his hand away, say NOOO. Then give him the squishy toy to chew on. This could take many, many times. It also may not work at all. If it doesn’t work after the few days that you were constantly there, that’s OK. Don’t get discouraged. Do it when you can. Also ask everyone else in the house to do it. Anytime someone observes him reaching for something to put into his mouth, Say Nooo, gentle but firm voice, and then give him something he can safely chew on. Before following this advice, I would print it out, and take it to his doctor. Get his opinion if this is safe for your little one, as he knows the medical condition your son has, better than I.
I hope this helps
Big Hug
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| Name: Kim Mori | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 12:39 AM |
Hi Rain!
Pica is something I only came across last week, when my son was diagnosed with ASD, I'll check that site out that you mentioned!
We'v tried many ways to discourage this behavior and it is a whole lot better then it use to be, I'd have to un-choke him 10 or more time a day for many years! It's a learning curv for everyone that is involved with my son but most have learnt to not leave things laying around that he can get! Todd had a chewa that we use to give him to replace the object he had at that time, all his toys a mainly baby toys for the reasons you said don't break that easy!
I don't have anything laying around the house that he can get, I have gates up all through my house, everyone has locks on their bedroom doors, every door in the house has a lock on it, doors that leed out=side all have dead locks on them and they all have the key on a nail above the door, we don't go out much either because of this behavior and all the others!
As a baby everyone really worked on his sensory ability, we had everyone involved; physio,vision,royal blind society, guide dogs,hearing, ot and myself working around the clock to stimulate his senses! Is there any chance of over stimulating one sense??
Nice talking to you, Thanks hey!
Cheers Kim ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 4:01 AM |
Dear Kim Mori,
I am completely exhausted just reading your post. I am so sorry. The chocking must be so frightening. I only have limited OT, PT experience. Only what was shown to me by a couple of physical therapist pertaining to my students with autism. My guess would be yes, we often over stimulate the areas we are striving to help, change, etc. That is not always a bad thing. You often just have to get a feel for how much is enough? I would ask a children’s physical therapist, this question, because they would understand how this physically affects the child. If you feel he has had problems due to this. I am not sure it you are asking if all his senses could be over stimulated, or just one. He has a great deal of therapy. Normally we are trying to get more therapy for them, but, you do need to make sure someone is evaluating all the hours Todd works, so that he is not over worked. I would have a meeting once a month with his entire therapists attending, so they are aware of what the other is doing, and what the appropriate number of hours Todd should work. Try asking a trusted therapy worker to keep him, so you can go out. Sorry I could not be of better help to you.
Big Hug
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| Name: jody | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 4:42 AM |
| hi i added you to my yahoo all u have to do is join yahoo and u will be on my list.i have so many ?s it wpould take all day it would be easier for me to talk via email ok. ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 5:35 AM |
Jody,
Are you speaking of Yahoo E-mail, or Yahoo-messenger.
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| Name: rain | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 6:48 AM |
Jody,
I did receive your E-mail. I sent one in return. Please feel free to E-mail your questions.
Thank You
Big Hug
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| Name: MichealsMom | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 1:46 PM |
| My 5 year old son has quirky behavior, but doesnt quite match any of the autistic signs .He was late to talk, and to potty train. He stutters and his responses are often quite silly, or dont make sense. He is obsesive over cars and airplanes, but has a couple friends and attends kindergarten. He does often avoid eye contact when confronted, but he is usually happy, and otherwise o.k. Friends tell me not to worry and kids develop at different rates, but Iv'e always suspected he was different. I love him so much, and am eager to find out anything I can. ↑ |
| Name: michelle | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 1:54 PM |
rain,
thank you so much... i am trying hard not to give into the little fella hopefully if i keep up with it his behavour will improve for me!!!! ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 8:16 PM |
Dear MichealsMom,
Your friends are right; kids do develop at different rates, and in different ways. Your son may be completely normal. Only a physician could tell you. There is a huge range of autism. One form is Asperger Syndrome. You can look that up, and see if he falls into the criteria. But, that does not mean he has this condition. My son obsessed over dinosaurs when he was small. Sometimes it simply means that some children love a certain thing. Because you are worried, it would alleviate your fears if you take Micheal to your family physician with all your information, and get a referral for a specialist who can test him. You might come out with nothing more than the information that Micheal is just fine. Children come in all shapes and colors. If you do get a dx, then you can prepare by reading everything about that condition, so that you will be better equipped to help him. Get your information from the doctor, before looking on the internet, so you will be a better judge of what is accurate.
Big Hug
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| Name: rain | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 8:18 PM |
Michelle,
You are so welcome. Keep up the good work. You can do it.
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| Name: Kim Mori | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 9:08 PM |
| Thanks for your help Rain, I looked at that site on Pica! I guess this is it hey? Til next time! ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 9:15 PM |
Kim Mori
You are more than welcome. ↑ |
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