Some of you seem okay with your kids being autistic. Meaning your not angry, not sad, etc. I know these are emotions you may intially go threw but how and when do you eventually let them go completely. I am so proud of my son and he has made remarkable progress in the past year.
The only time I seem to get sad is when I see kids my sons age or younger interacting and playing like kids do. Then I realize how different my son really is. I often wonder if I'll ever be able to be around other children without feeling sad. ↓
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| Name: sunshine | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 11:28 AM |
| I can sympathize and let me put it this way every experience you share with your child , was first a hope in you heart a nd from this hope can come these expactations of how you would like it to be very often this is based on your experiences as a child or what you see happenng to other kids and when they don't react the way you had hope , its a little bit like a death of the child you had hoped fro and you know what thats okay it really truely is normal and it will probally continue to happen but it can eases the greivinfg process if you can try to see the world the way your child sees the worlds try to find out what he gets out of things , many austistic children really hone in on little things that most people over look like my daughter on the carousel , up and down round and round , no smile. other kids waving and calling hi mom she is staring up at something and then down , later i asked her what did you like best abou that.? she said i thought that it was neat to see how the horse went up and down, she was watching the cranks from above and the pole in and out of its shaft from below!! next time I looked for it fasinating! try to enjoy what your child can teach you about their world and you might just be able to let go of your greif, good luck and be well* ↑ |
| Name: nena | Date: Feb 17th, 2006 9:34 PM |
| Name: sara | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 10:48 AM |
| sunshine what a lovely message. Melinda you sound like you are doing ok and can see your sons progress and be proud thats fantastic! My son is my heart my soul but i grieved like a child had died when i discovered his autism. But then i realised my son has made me what i am, calmer patient, i appreciat the small things and i see the world differently. I hav learnt that its small steps and each new achievement is amazing. Other mums take things for granted, something so small to them is big to us. when i get a small connection a glimse into his world my heart flips. But i still cry when i see my child wanting to play but not knowing how and others lack of understanding. But i pray his emotions are simpler and he does not hurt and realise his difference X ↑ |
| Name: sara | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 11:38 AM |
| Nena do you want to chat x ↑ |
| Name: sara | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 7:50 PM |
| Hi Nena how u doing? Not very good with computers so if you dont hear from me prob confused the computer and husband has killed me he he! So tell me about yourself you sound stressed can i help? Had a mad day with my son he has crashed out early so could be woken very early tomorrow yipee! Enjoying a peaceful evening with a glass of wine dont you just love peaceful moments! ↑ |
| Name: Tanya | Date: Mar 15th, 2006 12:30 PM |
Melinda,
I know how you feel. I have a 21 month old and he was dx at 15 months and I still get sad when he is around typical children. I try to focus on his therapy. Some people tell me I need to be a mom first, enjoy your son or relax.. You know I CAN"T. I give a ton of effection to my children and I am tired and I let my house go but working hard now with my son will pay off latter, They will never feel they weren't loved. I think the things I do with pushing the therapy is being a mom. I;m tring to help my son get better. What do you think?
I still cry and get anxious about his dx and I think I always will (until we get him better). ↑ |
| Name: bb | Date: Mar 29th, 2006 9:55 PM |
| Name: Carissa | Date: Apr 16th, 2006 3:45 AM |
| Since my daughter was diagnosed in November 2005 with high functioning autism, I have been on a rollercoaster. I have only cried once, the day she was diagnosed. But it's like every now and then the reality of this diagnosis grabs me and I feel like I can't breath! How do I sort through these emotions? Just when I start feeling like she's going to be OK, we will go somewhere in public and its like she is being diagnosed all over again. (Bad experience this week with professional pictures.) And the looks you get from people! Another topic... I could write forever. Looking for parents to chat with because I'm sure my friends are sick of hearing about it all. ↑ |
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