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My 4 1/2 yr old autistic son is a bit confusing. By this I mean can a autistic child be cognitively on par (I've been told by his consultant and a speech path. this past couple months) but in comprehension still act like he's less than 2. It's driving me crazy lately that he will take chairs to the cupboards and dump (to eat) cereal and sugar! Do you know how impossible it is to try to clean sugar?!!! Anyway, I guess it sounds silly, but might he always be 2 yrs in comprehension? Could that be why that no matter how I scold him or give him a smack he keeps dumping these things. If he sees me coming he gets down from the chair. So he must understand to an extent it's wrong right??? I don't know...I huess it's just disheartening because how could his cognitive be pretty ok but his comprehension on some things so behind. If this info helps the speech path. told us in play and speech (she says one has to do with the other) he is about 18-22 mos. Any ideas?! Thanks! ↓
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| Name: Kirsty | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 10:03 AM |
| Ha yes I know how difficult it is to clean sugar I hate standing on it! I’m not sure what to say about his cognitively or comprehension levels however I do know that putting a star lock on certain cupboards help at least then you know you can turn your back for 2 seconds : ) ↑ |
| Name: rachtwins | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 4:27 AM |
| Name: dianna | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 6:47 PM |
| what does "bump" mean???? ↑ |
| Name: rachtwins | Date: Apr 24th, 2007 10:00 AM |
| bump the message to the top ↑ |
| Name: ConorsHelper | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 2:17 AM |
Hi Dianna
I understand totally what you mean about your son being cognitively on par but still act like a two year old as far as his actions are concerned. I have worked with children virtually all my life, but until last year had never met a child with autisim. But I realized within days of meeting Conor that he understood everything that I said to him. He just had never learned how to interact with words. He had, however, learned how to get his way by misbehaving. He is also a very strong willed child and many stressful days ensued! But when I saw him starting to demonstrate typical behaviors that I see in all the 18 month olds, I started to get so excited! We are only up to about a 2 year old level in interaction now (a year later), but then out of the blue one day he will initiate play. An example: He loves the superman cape and began to wear it on his own and run through the house with his arms outstretched for tiny little bits of time (joining our world in a visible way!). One day, he put on his superman cape and then brought me a baby doll blanket and took me to Aidan (the 18 month old in day care) and wanted me to put a super hero cape on her, too. Soon all 7 children were zooming about the house in capes. Granted, he hasn't initiated play like that again and it's been three months ago, but he did it! I think Conor is storing all these experiences up inside and when he feels safe about it all, he will join us on our level every day.
Praise God! Your little fellow is reaching out to the world! I know it is frustrating and if your 4 1/2 year old is as large as Conor, it can be quite a workout at times! But he is starting to become aware of his surroundings at the level he needs too. We all have to start at the beginning!
I don't know how a child is able to comprehend and grow inside his mind, but not be able to interact with his surroundings, but I do know that it happens!!! I don't think that he will always be 2 years old in comprehension. He is just starting at the beginning! He is starting!!!!! I am so happy for you!!!
It is our job to help these children catch up with themselves. Be patient! Be happy that he is exploring his world! Pray that God will guide you and give you the strength and patience you need to help this little child bloom. He will do it!!! ↑ |
| Name: missheather | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:25 PM |
| On a maturity level, autistics are usually one-half to one-third their age level. That might be something to think about. ↑ |
| Name: missheather | Date: Apr 26th, 2007 11:26 PM |
| oops I mean two-thirds. ↑ |
| Name: dragonchuk | Date: May 17th, 2007 10:34 PM |
| Hi, this is not silly, my autistic son is also 4 years old. And yes I know how hard it is to clean out sugar. My son also likes to spill everything from sugar, flour, ceral and anything he can find in the pantry. And it is possible to have some areas be ok but other far behind. Even though my son is 4 his speach has been evaluated to about 10 month old infant, but his physical developing such running, climbing, jupming over 6ft fence and things like that is developed for 4 years old and then some. Some ideas I tried is to put as much things away in a garage on shelves as possible and keep the garage locked and hung the key from the garage high enough so he won't get to it. I also lock my pantry. good luck! Tanya ↑ |
| Name: jojojohnson | Date: May 28th, 2007 5:40 AM |
| oh ,,,, the sugar!!!! i can not tell u how many times i have cleaned sugar off of my floor, and it is not an easy task! but it only lasted for about a year... he outgrew that.... he totally understood that what he was doing was wrong... i would get the little shy smile from him... and he would get a time out... but it was so fun for him to do it again and again.... however, i am happy to say, now, if he sees someone doing something like that, he says " that is not nice, i do not like that" he would not thnik of pouring sugar on my floor.... he has come such a long way!!!! the fact that your son understands that it is bad, is a good thing....all in good time! ↑ |
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