Hello, I am new to this forum. I am in a miserable situation with my ex-husband. We have 2 daughters, one is grown and married, the other is 13 years old. I am newly married to a wonderful man.
My 13 year old can't stand my new husband, even though she says he's not mean, controlling or weird.
My ex, ever since our divorce, has continually blamed me for everything. He even makes stuff up to blame me for. He will not listen to me, he calls me a liar. He tried to tell me what to do like 1. telling me when I took the girls to a BBQ that I was not to spend money on food/drinks with HIS child support money; 2. I tore my left rotator cup. He told me that I should not be driving to work on pain medication, so I stopped taking the medication and endured the pain for months.
He does not communicate with me very well. This past Saturday he was remarried. He had asked me if he could pick up our youngest and take her to the wedding, even though it wasn't his visitation time. I told him yes. On Friday he never called to tell me what day or time he was picking her up. He finally calls me at 2:45 am Saturday morning and leaves me a message. In the meantime, he calls my youngest on her cellphone to tell her what time he's picking her up. He always uses her as the go-between.
He has threatened to dig and probe into every area of my life (I got it recorded from my cellphone), that he doesn't trust ANY MAN in my house, and that he would snatch our youngest from me.
I went to counseling when I first got divorced. It didn't help much. My doctor put me on depression medication, when my ex found out he told me I shouldn't be drinking when taking depression medication. He just makes stuff up like this and throws it in my face.
I am afraid he will pursue me until I have nothing left. That he will sway my youngest into living with him and take me to court. He is already draining my finances on legal motions. I try hard to support my daughter. When we got divorced, I left him debt free and I took all the debts we had. I was able to make enough to keep the home so the girls didn't have to move and make that kind of adjustment. I even paid off his car and split the savings account with him, which his take was over $15,000. As a result of all this, I had to get a second job that is 4 nights a week. I am trying to save money for his next round of attacks.
I am working myself into the ground and putting up with this man and I am about at the end of my rope. My lawyers (I have had 2), tell me it is hard to enforce my divorce decree and make him behave. I guess I just gotta put up with it all. ↓
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