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Name: SGC

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I have only been married for under a year. I have one daughter and my husband has 3 kids one of which was 17 and lived in Florida w/her mom and had no contact with her dad for 5 years. One day her mom calls me to tell me shes on a plane to where we live and she was now our problem. She got arrested for shoplifting and running away and mommy dearest couldnt handle her anymore. I took her in with open arms, spent time with her, bought her everything I bought my own daughter. Made excuses for her when my daughters clothes kept going missing and being found in her room, trying to make her feel like she was at home, pushing my own daughter away. The only thing we expected of her was to go to school and graduate! She only has 3 months left and ran away to be with her loser friends who already quit school and been arrested 4 and 5 times, just got out of rehab. She had been gone 1 1/2 weeks when she broke in our house. She stole all the new clothes I just bought my daughter and stole my Uggh boots. Mind you her father refused to buy her a pair of xmas so I did because I knew how much she wanted them. We went to the police and they said because she is 17 almost 18 she is legally our responsibility and legally lives there so we cant charge her with B&E or her skumbag friends for that matter.

So Im supposed to sit back and let these kids come back and break in and take whatever they want with no recourse? What the hell is wrong with this justice system?? Then my husband gets mad at me for gathering my valuables together to get them out of the house saying she wouldnt do it again.. HELLO ARE YOU A MORON... god I have so much stress in my life and NONE of it is due to my own child... If anyone is thinking of getting into a step family THINK LOOOOOOOOOOOOONG AND HARD....It's 10 times harder when the stress is from someone else child...I am at my whits end :( ↓

Name: Cathy | Date: Mar 5th, 2009 4:10 PM

Sorry to hear about your troubles. when did the divorce happen? Do you think this young girl is acting out from that? And, why do you call her mom mommy dearest? hopefully that has never been said in front of her. It's really hard to be a teen and to have to deal with a divorce. It sounds like she needs to talk with someone. oh, and by the way that someone else's child is your husbands and now yours. No one should EVER give up on a child. Be strong, This will pass with help for the whole family. ↑

Name: SGC | Date: Mar 5th, 2009 5:33 PM

Thanks for your reply Cathy, he was never married to her mom and split when she was a baby. He would have her on weekends until the mom moved to another state 5 years ago. I have never and would never speak bad about their mothers in front of the kids. She has been gone for 3 weeks now, have no idea where she is or who she is with. I know I did my best and things have calmed down for us. Thanks! ↑