My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. Things with us are great, except one problem...his ex. We have both been married and have kids. My ex and I get along great and my boyfriend gets along with him great as well. But my boyfriends ex keeps using me as a reason why he can't see his kids.
They came up for the summer and they had so much fun. My son and I got along great with the kids and they didn't want to leave, but there mom said they had to since my son and I lived there. So my boyfriend and I agreed to have me and my son move out so he could get his kids, just like she said. "you can have them as long as she dosen't live there" Well that didn't work she took them back anyways.
So we have been living apart for 4 months now, were only about 3 blocks away. It is hard but were making it work. Were both hurting financialy since he isn't working and I'm living off my unemployment. We can survive on what I make having one home, but two is realy dragging us down.
Well she said that she is now sending the kids up here to live till June 2010. But I can't be around them or at the house. She has made it very clear that she doesn't like me what so ever. The funny thing is I have never even seen her or talked to her. He has went to bat for me against her, but she only makes it worse for him and the kids. She has lied to him and promised him the kids so many times we don't know if they realy are coming or not. Plus if they do come up she says she's coming with them and will be here for a few days.
I'm so irratated, she is forcing him to pick me or his kids. He wants us both, but our joke right now is if he gets his kids, well just have to sneek around. Which is not fair to us or our relationship. We both know she wants to come up here to sneek around his house and check things out. His own family doesn't want her up here or trust anything she has to say. She has people spy on his house and she gets reported back when I'm there. Mind you she lives 6 states away......
A part of me says run!!!!!!!! But I love him so much and his kids. I know I haven't done anything wrong. I would love to talk to her, but I also know it wont do any good. She dosen't like me because I'm with him and there kids liked me....What can I do, I'm only so strong and this isn't fair to me or my son. I gave up my home to move in with him only to move out again after 4 months so he could get his kids, which she didn't follow through on. I'm so frustrated any advise would be greatley appreciated.... ↓
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