| 16 years is quite a long time to be together. Perhaps he still loves you, but he's bored with the day to day routine. Perhaps you could have some counselling to find out if he really feels this way or if it's just his way of telling you that he's frustrated with the daily work of bringing up two children. ↑ |
| Thanks Fiona Yes i do think he could be bored with the routine of daily life have suggested counselling but he refuses maybe i will get used to this but its hard to beleive after all we have been through that his love is gone ↑ |
| I think that love changes over the years and people have to adapt. Sometimes people can't and they get bored. I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I guess you can't force him to attend any counselling if he thinks that he's made up his mind. Marriage can get boring, esp. after a long time, but it's just a case of not expecting too much - it's not hearts and flowers year after year is it? Perhaps he's having some kind of mid-life crisis. I think that he'll be miserable being on his own and will end up missing you and the children. ↑ |
| the shoe was on the other foot with me. i stayed with him for those same reasons. but finally i got strong and left. but it will never work u 2 living in the same place cause niether of u can go on with your life. sit down and talk maybe u guys could work something out with the finaces 2 help both of u. and if its because u dont have a way 2 make it on your own or your scared maybe you can go back 2 school like nursing or something where its in big demand and u can make it on your own. but tell him u can't live like this it's not good for u or your kids to see this. ↑ |
| I am in the similar situation My husband will not leave because of the kids He said he no longer loves me after 11 years but still is here He sends me confusing signals Sometimes he seems to care about me and others you can see the hatred or frustration in his face I have asked him to make up his mind and he says he can't afford a new place Yet he reminds me that we are no longer connected like a husband and wife He sleeps in another room and the kids see this Therapy didn't work and I only have my faith to keep me going ↑ |
| hi Maggie after 2 months of hell we have now come to a decsion for him to move out yes it hurts but i have now found my self respect i will not have this man stay in my house any longer than necessary. i will keep the house he moves out my pain is turning to anger at how he has behaved and i am now focusing on the future and on the kids i will not let this beat me in fact i have already been asked out on a date but turned it down for the sake of my kids so i am looking to the future now ↑ |
