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Name: Jenny [ Original Post ] I just don't know how to handle this situation, I have 2 step-daughters that we only have every other weekend. Last week my youngest step-daughter and I were talking and she is at the age she tells all. She told me that the weekend before her mom & sister & she were driving around and her sister (also my step-daughter) saw some cows and said look theres Jenny, their mother then said ya theres Jenny Moo Moo. It really hurt my feelings and my husband was very mad and he and his ex wife got into a huge fight over it. I want to let my step-daughter know that her comment about me really hurt me but how? Anyone have any advice from their own experience? I'm not a very self-concious person but I TRY and have done so much for here and she just slapped me in the face. ↓

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Name: Jen | Date: May 16th, 2006 6:57 PM

As a step mom to a step mom. I have been there and actually I am still there. You can only set a good example fpr your step children. Continue to love them as your own and do not let her get to you---that is her goal. You are a threat. Tell your step kids that name calling is wrong and why, but always be the bigger person. Never talk about their mom. One day they will know what is going on and it will be worth it.. It seems like eternity , but remember this is only a season in your life and when this season is over you will be rewarded with children who respect, love and care for you. ↑

Name: Serina | Date: May 16th, 2006 7:06 PM

Hi Jenny I agree with Jen. I know it is hard to let it go. If you talk withthe exs You might say look I do not talk badly about you to the kids so please do the same to me. You can say I read it is harmful to the kids to speek bad about eachother. You could add I know you were kidding but I would appreciate it if you cwould not do it again... or you could have you Guy do it. I have been dealing with his ex I hate it. I got a call on my machine from his ex today and have been sick all day from it. I know they can get to you some times. I wish you peace!!! & a ton of LUCK!!!!! ↑

Name: Jenny from SerinA | Date: May 19th, 2006 4:07 AM

How you all doing? Did you all have a talk ?? ↑

Name: carolann | Date: May 19th, 2006 6:12 PM

hi i have a step-son. he is 15 nearly 16 he was leaving with his mum but because his friends live near us he wanted to live with us full time! he has been very spoiled only child! i no what you are going throu! its realy hard because my one swears at me a lot! and he has a girlfriend and she stays over! i dont like the idear but my husband is so soft and lets it happen! you do need to tell her how up set you are! dont let them get to you! its nice to here your husband is be hind you my one is to soft! his son gets what he wants you say no he goes mad! hope to here from you soon! its nice to talk to someone who is haveing the same problems! ↑

Name: S | Date: May 20th, 2006 12:58 AM

Did you talk with your step kids or did dh talk to ex ...What is happening now?? ↑

Name: Lizzi | Date: May 24th, 2006 3:34 AM

I'm sorry your husbands ex is so immature. I know it's difficult but try not to let it bother you. It's not the little girls fault but still your husband should have a talk with both girls and let them know how wrong that is and then the one who said the comment should be made to apologize to you. And your husband should also have the girls tell their mother the next time they hear her slamming you that that's not nice and they won't say bad things about her(you) anymore. ↑

Name: Lynne n | Date: May 24th, 2006 8:34 AM

Hi tell her that you know what she said and that you are very hurt by it! She has got to expect that you are now a part of her family and she has got to respect you as her stepmother! If this is not sorted out she may well end up driving a wedge between you and your husband and that is what you dont want! I hope it works out ok! ↑

Name: Sara Jo | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 8:51 PM

Dont lession to then 1st off shes mad becouse U have her old husband not her so every time u see her smile and kiss ur hubbie...lol thats what i would do!! Shes being Inmature dont lession!! ↑

Name: Linda | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 6:42 AM

How can I get my daughter-in law to spend time with her step-daughter? ↑

Name: Shaun | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 4:30 AM

Hi my name is shaun. I am a female who has simliar problems. It is normal for children to make little comment about things only because they do not know any better.I dislike my stepmother but I will never say anything to hurt her feelings. So tell the girls how the comment made you feel and that it is not nice. They will understand. ↑