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I found this forum because I need some advice from other stepmom's for upcoming Mother's Day and ds birthday the same weekend. Short bio first: DH and I have been married 6 years. I have a 9 y/o, will be 10 on May 15, son who calls DH Dad. He has a daughter 6 that calls me Mama because we have been together since both kids were small. We have ds all the time (except for standard visitation) as I have full custody, we have dd every other week form Friday to Friday. We have been keeping dd like this for the entirety of our marriage because of too many reasons to name. Long and short, we have dd 6 months out of the year. In August of 2005, ex wife and I had a falling out and are not currently getting along. On May 13th we are having ds birthday party, it is our weeknd to have dd and it is mothers day weekend as well.. Usually we split Mothers Day some how but ex will not allow it in any way this year. Because of this we have had to negotiate with ex allowing dd to be at home with us until 6:45 the day of ds party (Sat). I am hurt that DH does not see that she is only doing this to spite me. He does not think she would do such a thing. I am hurt that I am being pushed in to changing our plans for ds birthday party to accommodate her. I am hurt that no one seems to think I should be allowed some time with both of my kids on mother's day. The childish part of me (and I know this is wrong and won't do it) makes me want to change the plans in such a way that dd will not want to go when ex comes to get her (Bad, I know). Should I just go with DH "new birthday plans" or go ahead with what I originally had planned with ds since that is his big 10 birthday? If I do the first I will feel sick and if I do the second DH will see me as being a trouble maker since ex would never do anything spiteful towards me... HELP!! ↓
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