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| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 16th, 2006 4:46 AM |
| ops wrong web]]]Sorry!!! ↑ |
| Name: tweetybird4 | Date: Nov 16th, 2006 2:07 PM |
| Well, I think your husband should confront his ex on this issue. First of all, if Samantha is snooping on the computer at her mom's house, then she could be doing some snooping at your house, too. I just believe a child her age really shouldn't be snooping at all. Yet, I fault the mom for not conceling her private matters a little more securely. As her father, it is his parental responsibility to bring this issue to his ex's attention because if the daughter is being sneaky like this now, then she will do this when she's older. Plus, then hopefully her mother will realize that she should be more careful in her behavior. I mean, what both the daughter and mom are doing is not providing a good level of privacey and responsibility towards each other. Yet, if the mother is being sneaky, then why wouldn't the daughter be, too. I wouldn't worry too much about the daughter becoming upset with the two of you for saying something. Obviously, the daughter is learning about grown up stuff much too early in her life and I would want to try to put a stop to it. This situation is creating too much confusion in your daughter's head. Especially, the mom having sex with a married man! Honestly, Serina, if this was my daughter, I would be saying something to the other parent. Your husband is her father and he has a right to voice his opinion about the well being of his children. Prepare yourself for the worse but just maybe the mother doesn't realize how careless she's being. Yet, she tried to hid the fact that Greg was coming over in the middle of the night when the children are suppose to be in bed. The mom needs to be aware that she's not hiding her relationship to Greg very well. Explain to the daughter that it's not her fault what her mom is doing but it needs to be addressed for the well being of her. I'm sure the daughter won't take this lightly but your looking out for her best interest at hand. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 16th, 2006 2:33 PM |
| Thank you tweedy, I tried to talk with John about it but no go. I even tried to tell him if x does not know then she will keep putting more photos on the computer..I mean Samantha even rememberd the folds name..I know she will not forget it either. I am sapose to be ap apernt but I have NO say in thses matters.This is the one thing that is agravating! I teach them, be a friend, listen,play with them, punish, guide, make thing for them..get her lip ( sometimes...) be a friend and a parent whos hands are tied on the real important issues! It is very hard! I do not let Samantha or Michael on the computer at all. I think kids should not have the capabiliy to go on with out a parent right next to them.It is too dangerious!!! Samanths has been punished somanytimes it is nuts the x even took the door to her room off the hinges.. . to show her what it is like to have her privacy taken away. She still has not earned the door to be put back on and it had been almost a year with out a door...Her birthday in on the 3rd I thikshe is afrain she will not get anything for it because her behavior has not changed..regarding all the snooping.She is never alone here so no issues....so far. This needs to be disscused for sure .Now I realize moer them ever I cando Nothing ! Only offer advise and keep talking to Sam and try to get her to honest with her mother and tell her on her own or with Dad... GRRRR so frustrating! ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 21st, 2006 1:44 PM |
| You will not believe it ..JOhn talked to the x YEAH!!!! He made her promise to im that if the told her something she can not say how she found out... X is going to talk to Samantha about it . X will tell Sam X saw Samantha was on her computer files by looking at the history My idea!!! WEll When I saw Samantha after her talk with the x .Sam said that she just yelled at her and asked if she told any one Sam said she told Dad.Apparently then x got even more angery and said what she does with her body is non of his business. X told Sam to nerver atell Dad these kind of things! The x never explain to her what she saw or offer any help for her in dealing with her feelings. So I had to handle all the questions as to why , how come x lied to her, Why is Mommy doing somthing that she know is wrong( told her she would have to ask her on that one but dii say that it is hard to start a relationship & then jusyt stop...questions went on and on for over 1 hour. John is going to ask x today why she never explained to her what she saw or answer any questions of her ... I hope he can do it when he picks up the kids ( she is have toe surgery) so we have thekids over night So she can rest. I bet she will not let him talk to her before suregery..we will see Thank you all so much fro your support and help!!! ↑ |
