Hi,
I have a bit of a problem. I have been divorced from my son's dad for 3 years now. I remarried a year ago to a man I met roughly a year after we seperated. My husband had MS; my son has an autistic spectrum disorder; I have a 53 mile each way commute. Due to finances I am the sole earner in the family. I do receive child support from my ex and in all respects thought we had the world's best divorced parent's situation. My ex visits one weekday and one weekend day a week with alternate weekends having overnights with our son. So, here's my problem. Due to my commute, long hours, and my husband's illness, the place is frequentl y a mess - ok very messy. I clean when I get home and on the weekend day that my ex visits with my son (Sunday) - I guess I should do it Saturday but that is usually the day reserved for errands, doctor's appointments, and quite frankly family time with my husband and son. Also, the weekday that my ex visits is our garbage day. So, on those days, he might very well see garbage bags in the bathroom as I've gone room to room bagging waste bin trash to be put out that night
Today my husband informed me that he's seen my ex taking pictures of "our messy house" with his camera phone. Yes, my house has been known to be a regal mess. My husband does little to help out (due to his MS, he tires frequently) and cleaning is a constant battle with my son. So, I'm it. Now I'm very worried. Yes, my apartment is cluttered and messy. Yes, I'm training my son's new kitten so their's an automatic (it scoops into a separate compartment based upon a motion sensor) litter box in the kitchen. Yes, my son leaves dishes, clothes, etc. around. Yes, I can't get either of them (hubby or son) to empty a waste bin to save their soul. But, I'm doing the best that I can. When my ex complained about the "filth" I pointed out that I work full time, commute, etc. and that perhaps when he and his wife have kids at home they'll understand. I was talked down to and told that he and his wife both work full time and they still get things done. Any ideas? Is what he did legal? Am I just lazy? I am open to any and all input. Thanks in advance ↓
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