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Name: stayc

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I am a stepmother of one 12 year old and have four of my own. I stay at home and am very active in children's school life. My stepchild has recently started dressing gothic and showing the normal middle school attitude. Her grades have turned to C's and F's already in the beggining of the school year. I let my husband know that I will be gonig to her classes with her and speaking to the teachers about her progress, since I do stay at home and both biological parents work. She comes home with me after school everyday and does homework at my house. I feel that I need to know what is expected of her at school. The e-wife heard my intentions and emailed all of her teachers and called the office and told them that I am not the REAL mother and they should not let me have any information on a child that is not my own. I treat all the kids the same. If one is stuggling, then guess who shows up at school? I don't understand why someone would do that. I do not want her to fail. I don't want this to be to late. Any advise? ↓

Name: ann | Date: Sep 8th, 2008 3:21 PM

Maybe the mom feels like you have over stepped your boundaries. Just because the mom has to work to take care of her family does not mean she cannot take care of what is going on with the school and her child. I know you are doing it in the best interest of the child but if the shoe was on the other foot you would probably find it insulting. ↑

Name: stayc | Date: Sep 8th, 2008 3:46 PM

Thank you Ann for the reply. It is nice to see another point of view. Here is the thing, she does not take an active role in school. She doesn't show up at the back to school nights, or parent teacher confreneces. She always asks us to take the child extra nights because her job is demanding and she travels. I don't understand how someone can find it insulting to have a stepparent show up at school to make sure the student is doing what is expected. ↑

Name: 4mom | Date: Sep 10th, 2008 8:15 AM

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Name: ann | Date: Sep 18th, 2008 2:03 PM

If she is asking ya'll to do all of this stuff I understand where you are coming from. However, my ex seldom shows up for anything. I take care of everything and I honestly believe I am a great mother! I teach Sunday School, I am self employed, I coach soccer, I am at every school funtion, but MOST of all my children are the MOST important thing that God has given to me and I try to teach them right. My son is 7 and is really hyper and struggles in school...It takes forever to get him to do his work, so his step mom buys school work books for him all the time and sends them home. Like I don't already have them, along with all the school work he does. I was really offended, and wanted to send them back because I know I am a good mother and I know my son struggles in school but we do all the work he has and as much extra as we can. Also, his dad and step mom send his step sister to a Christian school!!! This is a man that made 789,000 last year and only pays 500 a month in support for two kids...but he pays for his step daughter to go to Christian school...which I would LOVE for our children to be able to do. I really don't get it!!! If my children's step mom is so concerned about my son learning and getting better why is when he is at their house they don't even make him do his homework? But then she sends me those books LOL!!!!!! Maybe we can help each other. ↑

Name: ann | Date: Sep 18th, 2008 2:07 PM

Also maybe since you and I are on opposite sides we can help each other with how the other person sees things...know what I mean? ↑

Name: Dildo | Date: Nov 24th, 2008 3:09 PM

So what deal with it luv.... ↑

Name: Zainab masood | Date: Nov 24th, 2008 3:17 PM

i have 1 son called tamwa and a daughter called shabnab how has gone traveling. My husband and i run a curry stall in albert square and we hate Ian beale and english people. We come to england from Paki land to bomb all you white peeps. Blud! ↑