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Name: fancy

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three years ago I got remarried to this man I thought was so great because he said he loved my two boys first before he fell in love with me well life was good he played with my two boys they were always together until I said I do and everything changed he did he seemed to change like the man I fell in love with was just a midth and it was just a dream well he didnt want to play with the boys anymore and mostly he just like getting mad at them for stupid reasons and I try talking to him he doent listen my two boys are only here every other week and hes a different person when they are here my two boys said they dont like him anymore that hes to mean to them where there dad lets them get by with anything which is hard because they cant hear but I really cant explain how he acts unless someone else has been in these shoes now I have a two year old by him and hes totally different to him then my two from my first marriage I keep telling my self he"ll change but when someone help with some advice that will make him listen instead of not listening ↓

Name: Lizzi | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 3:17 PM

I would not put up with that crap! I would tell him he can either treat your sons like he used to again or you're leaving him. He has no right to treat your sons badly and you shouldn't allow it to continue. If you don't want to leave him then you should not make your sons come for weekend visits because why should they have to put up with him just to see you? They shouldn't! And you shouldn't make them! ↑

Name: pj754 | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 2:59 PM

It sounds like your husband was trying very hard to win their favor before yours. Now, he's completely changed. He's gotten what he wanted, you. Now, he feels like you have no choice but to deal with his actions. You need to stand your ground. I agree with Lizzi, I wouldn't put up with his crap. Either he starts excepting all of as a family together or he can sit there in his own little world alone. I have 3 children from my first marriage and 1 daughter from my new marriage. I make sure that all the children are treated equally. Yet, my husband loves them all as his own. Perhaps you can ask your husband what is his problem? Your boys don't have to listen or respect him if he's going to treat them with disrespect. Tell him this kind of behavior is not going to be tolerated. Put your foot down. ↑

Name: fancy | Date: Sep 30th, 2006 8:24 PM

Lizzi and Pj754 thanks for the advice but he has his moments but my two boys love it here and they love him but it will be to hard to leave because of the his two year old he hasnt hurt none of them and I"ve told him over and over again that they were here first and they will be here with or with out him he even has his moments with our two year old I guess sometimes I wonder if its just me but I try not to yell or scream at any of the boys but he was raised in it with his grandfather with the loud voice but hopefully for his sake he will change and I have told him if he wants me to do the changing he wont like it thanks moms for the advice!!!! ↑