I just found out I'm 7 weeks pregant. I have a 13 year old daughter and thought I wouldn't have any more children. I would NEVER abort a child but I am so mad that my husband didn't follow through with the appt. he had for a vasectomy just 2 months ago. I don't want to have another child. I wanted to go into the next chapter of my life and enjoy my daughter at this age.
This sounds absolutely horrible but I find myself hoping that I lose this baby naturally. We don't have the money or the space for a baby and I'm at a high risk for Down's syndrome and health complications. My sisters are thrilled and this makes me even angrier! ↓
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| Name: minxy | Date: Aug 6th, 2005 4:55 PM |
| Hi there,firstly i am sorry at how confused you are feeling at the moment. Im no agony aunt and cant really offer you any sound advice as only you know what you have got to do. All i will say is that if you do not truly want this child you really have to take a long hard look at your options. It must be very difficult for you as you probably feel that you cant talk to anyone about this especially your sisters by the sound of it. You can certainly keep chatting to me if you like,perhaps it would relieve some of the pressure knowing that i wouldnt judge you,i also think that you arent a horrible person for having thoughts of losing the baby,you are under a lot of pressure at the moment ,so no one can blame you for this,plus,the hormones are probably starting to kick in. ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Aug 6th, 2005 5:25 PM |
| oh man, i cant imagine. but my mom is 38 and she has a one year old and in about another year theyre are going to have another baby. i dont get it though. my mom still has time to do the things with us that she wants to do and im 18 and i have 2 younger brothers also. are you scared that you will have to pay attention to this baby and wont have enough time for this stage in your daughters life? if its that complicated, what are your views on abortions? this is one of them situations that people might be able to forgive..or adoption....i dont know what you wanna do but im sorry you feel that way, i wish the best for you no matter what comes along ↑ |
| Name: Charolette | Date: Sep 9th, 2005 1:51 PM |
| Hi my name is charolette and i was very much in your situation about 2and a half years ago and im very happy that i have had him for he is the love of my life. my son is 18 and my daughter is 12 and then i have the 2 and a half year old and when i found out that i was with child the father left me due to not having (got rid of the problem) but i could not understand what live would be know with out him he is so special to me and the kids we are much stronger then we were i really hope that you get the same feeling out of this for its worth it all and i lost my husband too. ↑ |
| Name: texas chic | Date: Sep 9th, 2005 3:13 PM |
| MJ, so did your husband lie about the surgery? ↑ |
| Name: tikkie | Date: Sep 14th, 2005 4:43 PM |
| you are sick to hate your own child that is growing inside of you- have you ever considered how your daughter and husband feel? you are such a selfish, pathetic woman- you do have options? keeping the child, adoption...your child didn't ask to be concieved by you, you know- and you should have asked your husband if he went through with the vasectomy... ↑ |
| Name: stop critcism | Date: Sep 14th, 2005 5:06 PM |
| to tikkie: I thoughht this website and chat room was to help people and not judge everything!! If people aren't going to be helpful and just be rude and nasty you should just keep your comments to yourself!!! ↑ |
| Name: amena | Date: Sep 14th, 2005 5:44 PM |
Dear MJ, I don't think you're selfish and I certainly understand your anger. I had similar feelings when I found out I was pregnant a couple weeks ago although the situation isn't the same it was just as frustrating. You're a grown woman and I"m sure you know that eventually everything works out. I hope you come to a decision that you and your husband can agree on. I also hope that your family will respect any decision you make. Good luck.
amena ↑ |
| Name: simone | Date: Sep 19th, 2005 3:45 AM |
| hi, i too am 40 an d pregnant for the ninth time, i have five and have lost three so after the initial shock am pleased to find that im pregnant and due may 21st.I can understand how you feel though being 40. I think the main thing is to remain positive and after the baby is born i feel that you will be extremely happy and would not change things. There is still time for you to have a life after kids, its just put on the back burner for a while longer, thats all. i wish you well. ↑ |
| Name: Ellie | Date: Sep 28th, 2005 2:33 PM |
| It is possible hon, that you'll adjust to this given a little time. There is no set way you should feel. I've just found out I'm pregnant and I'm 41 with 6 children. The oldest is 23 (yes I'm already a grandma) and the youngest is 2. I truly hope you find some peace with whatever decision you make. ↑ |
| Name: victoria | Date: Oct 5th, 2005 7:30 PM |
| will she find out i about sex at a young age ↑ |
| Name: claudia | Date: Oct 6th, 2005 12:14 AM |
| I would love to have your baby ↑ |
| Name: Heather | Date: Oct 7th, 2005 10:00 PM |
| MJ- I am sorry to hear about the news. I am kinda in the same situation your in. My son is 13 and have 2 step children 10 and 6. I am not looking forward to this one getting here. I am 20 weeks and still everyday I wish that I would just lose this baby. I wish that I could tell you that it gets easier the longer your pregnant but it doesn't. I wish the best for you and your family. OH make him get the vasectomy soon. That is what we have in your near future. ↑ |
| Name: ? to heather | Date: Oct 9th, 2005 12:19 AM |
| i have a teen myself, i just think it is horrible that you would wish everyday that your baby would die. how are you going to treat this child after its born. like you wish it was dead? tell him/her you wish they were never born. maybe you should have kept your legs closed if you wanted a baby so little you wished it would die. its not as if you are 15. you are a grown woman. why dont you just give it up for adoption to someone who would feel blessed to have a baby. ↑ |
| Name: Heather | Date: Oct 10th, 2005 2:31 PM |
| To whoever didn't feel like leaving a name but sure wanted to put there 2 cents in. Well I am married and was on birth controll pills, took them like I have for 13 years still not sure what went wrong. So keeping my legs closed isn't the answer. How I am going to feel after the baby gets here! Don't be stupid, I would never tell her that I want her dead or not love her the same as I do my son. I am just not ready to have a baby, mental, physical do to health problem that I have, and financially. So until your in my shoes don't judge. ↑ |
| Name: SF | Date: Oct 10th, 2005 7:28 PM |
I am not here to judge you for anything you say, but a little advice. Bringing a child into this world is the only thing we are able to assist God in. A child is a miricle and I am greatful for my surprise that will be here in a few weeks. My oldest is 14 and my son is 11 years old.
I want you to ask yourself what you are truly angry about? Did you say that your husband had an appt. and did not keep it? Was you or was you not aware of this?
Also, if you are having another child then it must be a sign from God and there is a purpose for everything. God doesn't make mistakes. If there is a will there is a way. God Bless you and your family. ↑ |
| Name: Ronda | Date: Nov 21st, 2005 6:40 AM |
| Im 40 and have 3 grown kids...and would give anything in this world if i could have a baby...i couldnt imagine being lucky enough to have a baby...it would be so wonderful...so i guess Im getting the next best thing...real soon...a grand daughter...she is actually having pains at this moment..good luck and remember God choose you because he knew you would be the best for this angel... ↑ |
| Name: to tikke | Date: Nov 22nd, 2005 1:31 PM |
| how dare you be so judgmental.. having a baby for everyone isnt this joyous occasion. Cant you see she is torn. I just dont get people like you. At least she is honest about her feelings.. whether you think them to be right or wrong..who are we to judge someone in such a tough situation? I agree.. if you cant say anything nice just keep it zipped. I wish you luck MJ in what ever you decide. ↑ |
| Name: dreams | Date: Nov 22nd, 2005 11:52 PM |
| Hi, I am 27 and can totally relate! I have a 4 year old and am now 30 weeks pregnant. I never wanted to have other children but now I have sat through this entire pregnancy falling in love with this unborn child. I wouldn't change it now but I secretly wished the same thing when I first found out I was pregnant. I hate being pregnant though. I didn't have a good pregnancy the first time and am not doing so well this time either. They told me this baby is going to have club feet and I have been sick the entire pregnancy with a cold or morning sickness. UGGGGGG! ↑ |
| Name: cathy | Date: Dec 15th, 2005 4:47 PM |
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