This morning I woke up and for some reason I cant stop thinking about the fact that Im going to deliver my baby with only my husband in the delivery room. I know I will be fine. But I wish my mom could be here again. She didnt do any miracle massages or any real laboring help with my son but just her being there made me more comfortable. I know this is just another pregnant emotion but I just wish she could be here to share this with me.
In all my childhood dreams I always pictured us close, my mom and dad would live in the same city and we would have cook outs and go to parks with all the grandbabies. But it didnt happen that way. My parents live in Kentucky and I never see them. We never have extra money to fly or drive up there and they never have it either. Its been a year since I saw my mom and dad and its really starting to get to me. My parents are the type of people that can make any day a bright one and it sure would be nice to have them around.
Just a little vent post thought it might help to get it all out instead of just soaking in it. ↓
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| Name: briseis | Date: May 5th, 2008 9:22 PM |
Aw mate, sorry your mother won't be there ... I'm in a similar situation; my folks live miles away and never come to visit. They only see Joey when we manage to visit them, although it's a 4 hour drive just to visit, so it's not all that often ...
Although my parents and I were never close anyway ... so it was only ever going to be Mark and I in the delivery room regardless of where they lived.
Your hubby will be a rock! This will be his moment to do the birth partner role on his own. Mark just wept the whole way through my labour! Ah the woose!
I know you miss your folks; surely you'll see them after the baby is born? ↑ |
| Name: FatallyYours | Date: May 5th, 2008 11:49 PM |
| atleast he will be. i had my mom in the room bc my husband was stuck in turkey bc hes military he missed it by 2 days and when he got here our child was in the nicu. why is everyone so effing ungrateful pregnant or not you whine way to effing much about every single thing. and yes im a bi*ch get over it ↑ |
| Name: nicole76108 | Date: May 6th, 2008 12:32 AM |
I am very grateful for the things that I have.
You do not bother me in the least. Vent if you need to.
I for one believe that all the things I ask about are for the health of my baby. Contractions, Discharge colors lol, pain, its all things that are relavent and this is a due date forum. As far as the hormonal stuff like this post, I am glad I did it because not only did I get a sense of relief by typing out my feelings, I also got a woman who shared her story about a similar thing. That is what the posting is about. So if you feel the need to be a "B**CH" as you call it. You are more then welcome to do it in all of my posts. :) Because it doesnt bother me sweety! ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: May 6th, 2008 2:28 AM |
| My Husband missed it too, by a day because he is Millitary as well, but at least i had my mom, we really only wanted just us in the delivery room, but we came to terms that my mom was gonna be there as well, and later on we knew that he was gonna miss is so i was fine with it just being her, it sucks to have family live far away, my parents only live an hour, but some times it really sucks esp when i just wanna run to the store by my self, after the baby is born, i hope they get to see you guys!!! ↑ |
| Name: nicole76108 | Date: May 6th, 2008 3:19 AM |
I was scared for a bit to about my husband not being there because he had school but thankfully that came and went and we are still on track. ;) You guys are brave, my husband is one person that I could not imagine being in the delivery room without. I know its not like you had much of a choice but still the whole idea is scary to me.
Thank you for sharing your story and I to wish I could see my parents soon after the baby is born but I have to get back to work ASAP or we are gonna be in big trouble with bills and stuff. Thankfully I have a very trustworthy friend that wants to watch my kiddo's so I dont even have to worry there. :) But maybe we would be able to take a long weekend sometime to go up there for a day or two. Sorry my reply was so long. I ended up talking alot :) ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: May 6th, 2008 3:36 AM |
| LOL its ok! ya i wish i would of just been able to move to germany and have my son there, that would of been cool, but then we would of had to get me an apartment and such and then we would be paying rent for 2 homes, which we couldn't afford, but i wish!! i Just Pray hes home for the next one, which wont be for a few more years but still. i feel bad for him mostly that he missed the experience, so it would suck if he missed it again! ↑ |
| Name: nicole76108 | Date: May 6th, 2008 3:57 AM |
| Ya Im sure it crushed him to see his kid for the first time through a picture. Man that would really suck! Men like that are amazing they sacrifice so much. Then woman married or with someone who serves our country are amazing as well. Look at all the things you have to do all by yourself. You really are an inspiration. ↑ |
| Name: smashlee | Date: May 6th, 2008 7:19 AM |
| oh hun im sorry to hear.. id hate that too, not to have my mum there for any birth at al... wat your feeling is totaly valid. i hope that youre okay.. you knw wat, i knwo you wil be :):) ↑ |
| Name: Ayame | Date: May 7th, 2008 9:16 AM |
| Hey, I know how you feel. I am going to be giving birth with just my husband in the room as well and when my daughter was born.. well my sister was there. It made the entire thing more comfortable and I could laugh and relax because she was there. But she passed away 2.25.08 and it's going to be really hard not having her there with me as my support. If you need to talk my MSN or e-mail is [email protected] .. because I know exactly how you feel. ↑ |
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