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Name: Barbara

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My Co-sis-in-law (husband's brother's wife) was pregnant last year and had to terminate it at almost 5 months because the brain was not forming properly. She was more than devistated and it effected all of us. She just turned 30 and it was her 1st pregnancy. She has been trying since December to get pregnant again but she is so stressed out about it and she has not gotten pregnant yet. How can I explain to her she needs to relax and not stress about this or else it won't happen without digging up memories and making it hurt? We love her so much and want her to have a baby so badly. Also, my husband and I are casually trying to get prego too, we just started this month after i was on the pill for 8 years. if we are not pregnant by nov or dec, we will really start trying (mapping ovulation and such) do you think it would be selfish of us to get pregnant before my sis-in-law? ↓

Name: Leila | Date: Jul 26th, 2005 8:02 AM

hiya barbara, the only thing you can do is take the softly softly approach, like you said the last thing you want to do is upset her, or maybe wait for her to bring the subject up then try giving her some advice, but she definately needs to calm down and stop being so stressed out.I dont think your selfish at all at the end of day you have your life to live aswell and need to do what makes you and your husband happy, im in a similar situation my son is only 10 wks and myself and my husband want to try again straight away, but i have a friend who was desperate for a baby who has just split from her partner and another who had a miscarriage just last week,so i will have to break the news to them, its a hard situation to be in but if she loves you like you love her she will except it and be happy for you. i yhope it works out for the both of you! x ↑

Name: ilene | Date: Aug 2nd, 2005 10:41 PM

well.. i kinda see y u wod think that ur being selfish but u and ur husband have dreams of getting prego and god give u a body to do so its only ur hope to have a lil baby to embrace in your arms ↑

Name: Jane | Date: Aug 3rd, 2005 2:47 AM

I think you should have a baby. This might hurt her at first, but might motivate her to keep trying. ↑

Name: carissa | Date: Oct 30th, 2005 7:34 PM

THAT IS VERY SAD I WISH THE BEST TO THEM BUT NO I DO NOT BELIEVE AT ALL IT WOULD BE SELFISH OF U TWO FOR STARTING YOUR FAMILY YES AWFUL THINGS HAPPEN AND IT IS VERY HORRIBLE BUT U TWO CANT LIVE YOUR LIFE HIDING OUT ABOUT WANTING A BABY OR TRYING TO CONCIEVE BECAUSE OF WHATS HAPPEND ALSO LET YOUR IN LAW KNOW THAT IF SHE TAKES EXTRA FEMALE HORMONES AS IN ESTROGEN OR PROGESTRONE IT CAN MAKE IT EASIER TO CONCEIVE WORKED FOR ME AND WE ARE FINALLY HAVING OUR GURL (DONT KNOW IF THAT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE HORMONES THOUGH) LOL WELL GOOD LUCK TO THE 4 OF U AND SORRY TO HEAR THAT AGAIN! ↑

Name: sabuj | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 7:35 PM

I want to gossip ↑