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Name: Mom2Be2007 [ Original Post ] Okay I guess those of you who already have children would be able to answer this . I posted this same topic in SAHM. Why is it that when I tell my son how good he is being or praise him for being such a good boy or doing something good he immediately becomes naughty. All the experts tell us how praising helps in correcting behavior but apparently all praising does for my son is make him evil....LOL ↓

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Name: Randi | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 2:42 AM

It's Murphys law. The same law that declares that as soon as I lay down, Kaden wakes up. Someone out there hates us. ↑

Name: Mom2Be2007 | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 7:24 AM

LMAO Randi....But I guess since I can not personally figure out a reason as to why it is the way it is I guess that a good enough reason for me. Infact I am convinced that it might just be true. ↑

Name: jillw | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 2:32 PM

I actually am in a psyc class and we are researching the exact same issue. there is much evidence to sugest that too much praise can lead to bad behavior, becuase the child begins to think that everything that they do is good and ok. I personally believe that there has to be a good equal mix of praise and firm diciplin. ↑

Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 2:35 PM

Ha, ha, they ALL do this! What you must do is praise him, but downplay it! Instead of saying "what a good boy you've been today" say "thanks for helping me" or "you did a good job of doing xxxx" whatever it was. Don't act too enthusiastic or go overboard with the praise. Give him a wink whilst you're doing it....little boys like that! Keep it simple and low-key. Some kids don't like being praised too much......for some strange reason.....just like some people don't like being complemented on their looks....makes them feel self-conscious or whatever! ↑

Name: jillw | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 2:37 PM

good advice AS. If you act suprised that they are behaving then they may start to think that it really isn't needed LOL ↑

Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 2:41 PM

Yeah! My son goes nuts if I praise him! He hates it!!!!!! ↑

Name: Mom2Be2007 | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 4:39 PM

I never thought about it. Now that I think about it he usually only act out when I praise him in front of Marc or someone else. If it's just him andI he just smiles but doesn't act up. ↑