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i lost my baby last night i just thought i should let you all know i fel so stupid i was supposed to be on god damn bed rest after losing the twin and i the stupid bitch i am moved house and i have been decrating the god damn thing since well its my own fault. i guess i wont need to come on here any more because i am not pregnant anymore so bye ↓
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| Name: Sarah M | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 5:32 PM |
| Sorry to here that. My sister just went through a miscarriage as you know. You will be in my thoughts ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 5:33 PM |
| I'm sorry Alone! You can still be on here for emotional support.. Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 5:35 PM |
| I am so sorry. But you can always come here to talk to other women that are ttc. But I am sorry again. ↑ |
| Name: saxton_emma | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 7:09 PM |
hey im so sorry alone. hope your ok.
il catch you on msn sometime. = ]
xx ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 7:12 PM |
| sorry to hear about your loss, but saying god damn every other word isnt going to make it better. ↑ |
| Name: angelpuff84 | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 8:20 PM |
Alone---I am so sorry if you need anything even though I know we have never really talked you can email me at [email protected] I have been in the same situation and I understand wanting to blame yourself but in my belifes I think it would have happened no matter what you did....if I don't hear from you I will keep you in my prayers
COARTNEY- listen I know you may not like the way she posted her grieve but getting on to someone about their laungage choices really is not going to help ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 8:38 PM |
| look, im sorry she lost her baby, it is a terrible thing to have happen. and its one thing to blame yourself, but to sit there and say god damn every other word, it doesnt help and may offend some people. i was not trying to attack her.. and alone, no offense, but when you get put on bedrest, its not an option, its to be taken seriously, b.c things like that can happen b.c you are at risk. ↑ |
| Name: angelpuff84 | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 8:43 PM |
| Listen I know you may not have ment for it to come out that way but imagaine your in her shoes......I have been there myself and honestly I think she did a great job of restraining herself I know I didn't handle it as well as she seems to.......I understand it can be offensive but sometimes just over looking that and not bringing it up is the best thing to do. I don't agree with it but I am not going to comment on it because I see and understand the pain behind it which is most important.... ↑ |
| Name: pastors kid | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 10:09 PM |
| One thing I have learned by losing two babies within 5 months of each other is that no one can tell you how to feel or express yourself unless you've endured it. Theres no good way to grieve and even years later I wonder what they would have looked like. But I can tell you this, it will happen for you and you will carry your next baby to term and it will be beautiful so if you need to cuss and scream and release your pain, I totally understand. Don't let people convince you its for the best and you never know how deformed it would have been....its a loss and I can honestly say this though. You didn't cause it. They put you on bed rest and even if you held perfectly still, it still could have happened. Don't beat yourself up!!! I did the same thing, even elevated my legs and I still lost the baby. It was life...it was life. Now I have three babies 6,4, and 2. It will happen for you rest assured. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 10:14 PM |
| actually, i had a miscarriage about 2 yrs ago, so yes i do know, and if she knew she was high risk, and knew she was put on bed rest for a reason, why THE HELL WOULD SHE KNOWINGLY PUT HERSELF IN THAT POSITION OF THE HIGHER RISK OF MISCARRIAGE!? get off my back. ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 11:31 PM |
| You are in my thoughts. ↑ |
| Name: Alone | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:09 PM |
| coartney if your going to attack me than why the hell are you even bothering to reply to the post !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks everyone who replied to post apart from coartney who can shove her replies up her arse and i meant that to cause offence ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:14 PM |
| look i said i was sorry for what happened, it is a really bad tragedy, and i wasnt attacking you, but its common sense, if you're put on full bed rest, then keep your ass in bed or on the couch, nothing is worth losing a child over, you should know that. ↑ |
| Name: Alone | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:20 PM |
| well if u wasnt attacking me then why say ", why THE HELL WOULD SHE KNOWINGLY PUT HERSELF IN THAT POSITION OF THE HIGHER RISK OF MISCARRIAGE!?" if you think that then thats your opinion . your right it is the worse thing in the world it doesnt make you feel any better when some one says that. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:31 PM |
| I am sorry for your loss alone. I do hope that you never have to go through this again. While it could have happened anyway I do hope that you will follow the dr orders next time. You are of course welcome to come chat anytime. Please try to take comfort in knowing that all things happen for a reason and if you do believe in God you may be angry at him, and that is ok, but seek him don't damn him and he will bless you with the power to get past this. ↑ |
| Name: automansgirl | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:38 PM |
| There are so many things I would love to say!!! but I'll keep my mouth shut. Alone, I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best, and I am sure that you will get through this difficult time. Know that some people will always try to bring you down, but in the end it only makes you a stronger, better person. ↑ |
| Name: Alone | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:47 PM |
| coartney if thats your idea of being nice and supportive its seriouly screwed up but fine what ever i was wrong to say SOME of the stuff i said and i am sorry. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 6:54 PM |
| i am sorry also, i am terribly sorry yo ulost your baby, i really am, like i said no one deserves that, and you shouldnt feel like you are shunned away from here b.c of the fact you're not pregnant, there are women on here that just like to chat, and then women that are TTC. i honestly just didnt understand why you didnt pay attention to eht importance, i know you still have to go on with your life, and moving and stuff is big, but i dono im sorry ↑ |
| Name: Alone | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:13 PM |
COARTNEY- it wasnt the fact that i didnt pay attention to the importance of the bed rest for the first 2 weeks i stayed in bed and didnt move out there but then i got the house offered to me and i hd no choice really but to move as i couldnt live with my parents anymore lol i can see where you are coming from and now actually reading through your posts i see what your trying to say i just got the wrong end of the stick i was stressed and i took it out on you i am sorry i was totally out of order there is no excuse for what i said to you i just hope that you can forgive me.
EVERYONE- i am also sorry if anyone did take offence to me saing 'god damn' i wasnt thinking. i want to thank everyone including coartney for your replies and everything.
JILLW- like i said before i am sorry for damning god. i am actually a great believer god and i shouldnt have damned him
:( i am sorry if you took offence. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:16 PM |
| i understand, and to be honest the only thing that got me was the god damn thing, that was the thing i said in the beginning and then you went off on me so i was like oh hell no, you know hormones haha.. wee.. they make you a little whacked out. but im sure everyone understands and again you dont have to go. ↑ |
| Name: Alone | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:17 PM |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:21 PM |
Sorry to hear that!
Try to be strong! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:23 PM |
| Alone- I too am a woman of god and I understand how upset you must be. You did not offend me at all. We all make mistakes and say things that we shouldn't. I jsus wanted to encurage you to trust God because he is the one who will heal the pain you are feeling. Also don't get to down on your self. there is a saying that I live by. "Guilt and regret are useless emotions". They do nothing but damage you. God had a plan for you and for your babies and this must not have been the right time. Of course you can sit and think "what if I had just stayed in bed", but you are past that so you have to forgive your self. Best wishes to you. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:23 PM |
| jill you made me feel better with that saying lol .. thats weird..haha. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:33 PM |
| Thats what I am here for girl :) LOL ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:37 PM |
| Honestly though I had a woman tell me that when I was 16 and pregnant with jeremiah. It didn't make alot of sence to me then, but as I matured I really started to take those words to heart. I mean think about all of the things in your past that give you that "sick to your stomach" feeling. Can you change that action? No. So why hold on to and and let it keep tearing you up inside? I always do what I can to make the situation better, ask for forgiveness and move on in life with the knowledge I gained form what ever that experience was. It is truely a way to learn from your past and to become a better person. Dwelling on you mistake will only make you feel like less of a person and therefore you won't be able to grow as a person. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:38 PM |
| BTW I guess I like the word PERSON LOL I used it alot in that post LOL ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jan 8th, 2007 7:50 PM |
| only 3 times, yes i counted, hush haha.. ↑ |
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