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Name: sally24

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I made freinds with a milatary spouse about five months ago we have become pretty good freinds needless to say I am expecting my first any day know and she has a two and a half year old son , she lost a baby last spring at 12 weeks pregnant , I have never been through this so I can't even imagine how hard it must of been for her. Recently she found out she is pregnant again seven weeks they had been trying and she has some medical issue's which make it hard for her to get pregnant she got pregnant on the first try , I am so excited and happy for her. However she is at that point were she can't let herself get to up beat about the pg or into baby plans until she is out of the first trimester. I can understand that , i also know by some things she says she is still terrified of the worst happening. I try to say postive things and ask how she is feeling , but I am not sure what to say or am afraid of saying to much, I just don't know how to support her , any one else gone through a similiar situation ? ↓

Name: Ljm | Date: Mar 2nd, 2007 7:54 AM

I am not sure there is much you can say or do, people react really differently. I have heaps of friends who have lost babies and I have had two miscarriages myself. I think it is natural to be really frightened and scared to bond with your baby when you fall pregnant again, for fear of getting hurt again. You can only be there for her ↑

Name: sally24 | Date: Mar 2nd, 2007 1:25 PM

thanks Ljm for your reply , I suppose your right all I can do is be there for her its just so hard , because I know how much she wants this and I want it to work out for her as well I would hate for her to go through that again , I can't wait till at least next month passes and she is out of the woods so to speak,. ↑