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I can not believe it. I went to teh docs today for a bit of a chek.. okay frist...took a urine test and he lookd at it for 30secondsthen chukd it in the bin.. not sayingwat it sed or showing me. and saying he dusnt THINK i am prego but that he thinks i shoud take sum bloods so i went to the medlab adn did that (now have to wait for those results) but neway he was saying to me, if you are you wont have right? and i sed, well i would actualy. radi radi ra.... and he sed wel i meanyour young ( im 20 ), an di know there are alot of pros and cons about if you are. and even though he may be a nice guy alot of young males leav the girl wen they find out they are pregnant.. about 70 percent or more - and he kept going on! - saying that i shoud be careful because i will beleft being a single mother with not much suport etc... I CAN NOT BELIEVE HIM!!!!! I AM SOOOOO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW! he has no right to say any of that to me!! judge me like that as well as my partner!! he does not know hm. and uggghhhhhh i am jsut so angrytat a doc could say such things. i am going to change my family doctor now. unbelievable... neway i got the blod tests and just hav to wait now for the results.... but gosh... am i being overboard with this or do yu ladies agree that how i am reacting is about right....?? im jsut wow rite now!!!!! i was so in shock when it hapened that i sed nuthing i wish i stood my ground and sed wat i felt though grrrrrr ↓
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| Name: playmatex3x | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 2:39 AM |
| i agree.. i would be PISSED id be like "excuse me. i AM 20 years old, which makes me an ADULT. and i WANT a baby. and i dont need YOU to tell me otherwise. thanks for being such a crummy doctor. i think i'll go find a new one." im sorry that happend!! but i hope your results are positive!! good luck! let us know!!! ↑ |
| Name: smashlee | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 10:48 AM |
| exactly! i was just in awe liek is he RELAY sayngthis... he cals himself a profesional .. i dont think so budy!! ughh jsut hte though of him. thanks heaps thoug.. its relay made me rather negative thinking im probly not. and if im notim not but hes jsut killdit for me! ↑ |
| Name: Lola | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 1:48 PM |
| I think he was just being honest about how he felt. Maybe he thought he could be honest and open with you but obviously not. ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 1:53 PM |
| Ah doctors like him would deal with a lot of young mothers, who accidentally get pregnant, and are seeking advice on terminations, unhappy because their boyfriends didn't stand by them, and he just assumed you'd be the same. He shouldn't be making assumptions like that, but I doubt he meant any harm in it. ↑ |
| Name: Kyra.G | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 5:48 PM |
You are not overreacting, but I do know where he is comming from and he is not overreacting either.
Just be gratefull you have a good man in your life to stay with you and you do not fall into that 70% he is talking about. Having a baby is not peaches and cream its also not reality its actuality. ↑ |
| Name: lacirrom | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 6:21 PM |
| i would be completely pissed! no one knows your life but you! not some doctor who sees for like 15min every month! i mean in eyes i should have had any of my kids! i got married when i was 19, preggo with first at 20, gave birth just before my 21st bday. the next year i had baby number 2 two weeks before my 22nd bday and then i just gave birth to baby number 3 last august. my dh and i have been together 6 years, married for 5 1/2 ↑ |
| Name: lacirrom | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 6:22 PM |
| Name: smashlee | Date: Mar 12th, 2008 1:48 AM |
| thanx guys but thanx lacirrom... i was completely pissd.. like you had to be there because it was HOW he said it.. as well as wat he sed.. id idnt ask for his thoguhts or advice and hes a doctor thats not his job to be saying that stuf.. i thought it was disgusting the way he looked at me as well.. he relay did make me feel like crap... as if i was jsut one of those girls.. i have been with my partner for a long time and we are ready and prepared and i know he wil stik by me... i just can not believe the cheek of the doc ↑ |
| Name: AimeeLynne | Date: Mar 12th, 2008 2:42 PM |
A doctors' job is not to judge or assume, he/she is there to diagnose, give advice when asked/needed and plan out the best way to deal with any medical situation.
Maybe you should try and find a different doctor.
If you had asked him about options, that is a different story, but I didn't get the impression you were.
It is very unprofessional. Regardless of the situation, judgement should not be passed before learning the facts. You are 20 years old, not 12. ↑ |
| Name: smashlee | Date: Mar 16th, 2008 9:55 AM |
| thankyou aimeelynne. that was exactly my point.. its not his job and i defietely did not ask for his advice or opinion.. bt of a wory..thanx agen hun ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Mar 16th, 2008 2:46 PM |
| thatsnot his place to say any thing of that sort, i would complain ↑ |
| Name: AimeeLynne | Date: Mar 17th, 2008 1:32 AM |
| n/p smashlee...keep your head up high, you are pregnant, not spreading around a deadly virus...stand up for yourself, do not let anyone push you around or make you feel guilty. Like I said you are a grown adult. And tell him so next time he tries to talk down to you! ↑ |
| Name: Loritolay | Date: Mar 21st, 2008 11:35 PM |
| I too recently had a bad experience with my doctor. I went in for an ultrasound and was supposed to find out the sex of the baby. Well the baby wan't cooperating so I was somewhat disappointed. I am a very overweight and the doctor said "well with all that fat and flesh, the image would probably be distorted anyway and it wouldn't be a very good picture." I was a little irritated but I was gonna let that one slide. He had a student with him and was showing him how to get the heartbeat with that little doppler thingy and says to him "well its not gonna be easy with her, I'll tell ya that right now" and then snickered!!! I realize that a lot of people may not like fat people but as a doctor you would think he would be a little more tactful. some doctors just lack that i guess... ↑ |
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