Hey all,I got a couple questions.This past week I have gotten reinvolved with an old friend from highschool and he has been coming over at night,we have also went out a couple times this week .Well,the first time he came over we went in and laid on my bed and watched movies and talked until 2am, period, nothing.I love this guy very much and would have given him whatever he wanted but I am not going to give it without him initiating it.Then the next time he came over (2 nights later)he brought a movie filled with porn and sex and all we did was laid around and do some snuggling,and watch movies.That night he stayed until 4 am.Is this guy just wierd or does he not know what he wants?or is he just working his way up to get what he wants?By the way he is 23 and I am 24.I have not done alot of dating because I have been really hurt in the past what should I do?
P.S. I realize that this is the mothers of teens forum but don't know where else to go!Thanks for your help! ↓
|
|
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 4:08 PM |
| HMMM, he brought porn on the second date, not exactly the flowers I would be looking forward to. YES! He sounds like a pervert to me. Unless you want to be used as a meaningless sex object. Then I would guess that is what is about to happen. At this point in time, he should be on his best behavior, trying to impress you, trying to get to know you. I feel it was disrespectful. You should have great pride in yourself and who you are. You should demand all dates treat you with great dignity. Wait to have sex with others after you have formed a relationship, one based on kindness, respect, love. Then you will get hurt less often. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 4:14 PM |
| PORN- are you serious....i think porn is a huge problem in our country and wouldnt except it from my husband of 15 years let alone some freak on a second date. Run honey...run fast. ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 5:23 PM |
| Thanks for the advice.I really haven't been able to figure him out.I've "known" him for about 10 years from a distance and this has just been a little too much.I'm not quite sure how he watches these movies that make me feel wierd acts just strange and yet he can be so sweet and caring.I know he is in major rebellion with his parents because he was raised in a severely strict religious cult,and I don't know if that is part of it or not,do you think he is even worth talking to about it,or is this just beyond talking about?I don't want to be cold-hearted about anything,or how I dump him. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 5:58 PM |
| THIS IS A RED FLAG - DUMP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 8:29 PM |
| You can help him by saying you dont aprove of the Porn. There arent many girls that are comfortable around this behavior and he wont have many friends if he keeps this up. thats why you would be doing him a favor by saying so. If he dont like your responce. hell move on. But deep down he will remember. Thats where you'll be helping. But this doesnt mean you'll see the results. Do it for yourself. ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 9:52 PM |
| With the info you have given, that means it is time to move on. You dont want to spend your life in this mess. Find a nice guy, who is charming and not weird. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 11:05 PM |
| Name: question | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 4:17 AM |
| Why are guys sooo strange ????I still haven't gotten a chance to talk with him,not exactly looking forward to it....don't even know exactly how to go about it. ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 4:30 AM |
| Keep running off men like him, and you will meet the ones who arent. ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 4:41 AM |
| Is this typical behavior of today's young men? ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 4:56 PM |
| You should ask some of your guy friends what they think. That is always a good source of info. Ask the guys that you would value the opinion of. ↑ |
| Name: wannababy | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 2:22 AM |
| You need to go with your gut and obviously you already feel this is a problem ↑ |
| Name: Steph | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 3:04 PM |
| i am only young and i know that sex is becoming a thing for young people but this has never happened to me or anyone i know.. if you dont have a problem with sleeping with him and love him i guess this doesn't seem to bad to you.. but it definately sounds strange to me ↑ |
| Name: Steph | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 3:05 PM |
| and no this is not typical behaviour but perverted behaviour ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 4:44 PM |
| If a guy brought porn over on a date, he would be gone! He would not be showing me the respect I deserve. There would be no discussion. ↑ |
| Name: molly-may | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 4:53 PM |
| Just wondering if it was a porn movie or just a graphic movie. I think if you like this man so much then go for it....not to fast though, take it really slow and see where it goes. ↑ |
|
|
